Everyday I come here ... and everyday I see narrow minded questions and answers ... people who slate other people for their beliefs and for their sexuality ... dont you think that people should be able to think and feel however they want to without being made to feel wrong or dirty? ... I am a 30 year old lesbian and have been subjected to so much abuse and narrow mindedness since I came out 13 years ago .. and when I see other people being slated and the unfeeling comments that some people make here it grates right on my nerves ... I guess I must be one of the few people here that think about how other people feel and will react to certain narrow minded comments ... people are who they are ... they are entitled to believe and feel what they want without being belittled for it ... and be subjected to homophobic and narrowmindedness ... come on guys this is the 21st century after all!!!!!!!!!
2007-06-27 03:50:38 · 35 answers · asked by Joanne 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Just to get something else straight ... I do not flaunt my sexuality in public ... me and my my gf never hold hands or kiss in public ... I am totally aware of other peoples feelings and know that as much as I would like to be openly affectionate with my gf I cant do it because I am sensitive to the thoughts and beliefs of other people ... I care about people and I care that people are abused thats all Im saying ... I dislike hatred of the minorities and just wish people were more open minded instead of judging each other all the time ... Im not a judgemental person and believe that believe in freedom of speech but can we just stop the abuse and neglect for other peoples feelings! sorry for any upset that I caused by asking this question I guess when you have been subjected to so much hurt you have a desire to help others with their coping strategies!
2007-06-27 04:24:14 · update #1
I agree with a lot of the comments on here so i wont repeat those but why shouldn't you be able to hold hands with a loved one , im straight but my best friend is gay and she has a lot of the problems you stated and i get very defensive of her even though she can look after herself just winds me up .If more people could live and let live the world would be a better place , wishing you all the best .
2007-06-27 05:14:49 · answer #1 · answered by rand1812 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you should paint us all here with the same brush.
I work in a company alongside three lesbians,all of which i get on well with.They are treated just like anyone else,and i agree with you about some people being narrow minded,but thats up to them,if everyone had the same views,beliefs etc., what a boring world this would be.
2007-06-27 04:04:02 · answer #2 · answered by Andaroo2 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People like yourself, who have been hurt, usually develop a great empathy for other hurt individuals. It's grating or even outright painful to watch people being deliberately hurt.
It's also a complete breech of the Golden Rule and common sense laws of civility.
We can disagree with each other's lifestyles without being uncivil, or resorting to cruelty.
Take the high road every time, and you'll have no regrets to look back on.
2007-06-27 04:08:56 · answer #3 · answered by Bob L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 - some try to make you feel wrong and dirty over bieng gay as they are homophobes, bigots, morons and idiots.
2 - As to straights never flaunting - do you talk about your husband or wife? when you are dating the opposite sex? hold hands or kiss the opposite sex? anything of these and many more actions is also flaunting sexuality but you hypocrites never actually see that - you penalize and attack others but you never realise that our sexuality is also flaunted
3 - many people never realise how thier comments will affect others, some even come on here to troll and annoy, even when you are logical then they don't get it. I've had people attack me for using a dictionary definition of a word before( the word was discrimination)
4 - the homophobic and haters will never understand how they affect others and I doubt that they ever will
2007-06-27 04:06:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
The good and bad quality of Yahoo Answers is that it gives anyone with Internet access a forum to say just about anything, whether it makes sense or not, is cruel or kind, or is smart or dumb. Take it for what it is and don't be so alarmed by those who are looking for attention.
Occasionally you may find a true "answer" or suggestion here for a problem you are having, but don't expect that everyone has the same motives. Take care and have fun. :)
2007-06-27 04:05:44 · answer #5 · answered by steveheremd 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some people are nasty just because they are horrible people. you cant stop people having opinions even if its not what you want to hear. i believe that it is not 'normal' to be gay and it seems some people just become gay for a while because it is fashionable. this does not mean that i am narrow minded. it is just my opinion it does not mean that i am going to subject you with abuse or make you feel dirty. it is your choice and you have to live with your decisions you make about your own life the same as anyone else. it cant be nice to be slated all the while but other minority groups go through the same abuse, i;e muslims, fat people, giner haired people etc etc. just take it for what it is, someone elses take on life that is not important as you do not need to seek everyones approval. good luck to you xx
2007-06-27 04:04:36 · answer #6 · answered by Dolly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, I think you need to lay off negative places. If something gets you down, stop going there. It seems slightly masochistic to stay in a community that you find undermining and judgemental.
I suppose you must get something worthwhile out of this, even if it’s confirmation that you aren’t like ‘them’.
I sympathise because it riles me too when I see some rotten responses; I don’t empathise, because there are as many open minded, well considered answers and questions on here as there are the other kind. They balance each other out.
Remember, don’t sweat the petty things and don’t pet the sweaty things.
2007-06-27 04:03:13 · answer #7 · answered by nagaqueen13 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Darling I'm child free my husband and I never wanted children and enjoy our life, have you any idea how many parents make comments like - you have no idea what you’re missing, you will be lonely when you’re older, blah, blah
What I'm trying to say is some people live very dull lives they want me to have children and you to be straight - yeah let’s try that, not.
Live your life the way you want to, not all of us are narrow minded as some of us have a life.
Regards
2007-06-27 04:03:55 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're right but since exsistence there have been these narrowminded people.
It's a system of opression and that's why people hate on the homosexual.
It always makes people feel like they are somehow justified and more valuable than others. They single out a group or groups and bash on them until they feel they have made such a valid argument as to why they are better.
It's really sick but hey, what ya gonna do? You can't shoot them, it's illegal.
2007-06-27 03:59:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Y/A doesn't represent society.
The small minded bigots love coming onto forums like these, shouting their bile, and seeking reassurance by agreeing with each other.
I remember how many people on here said how great the BNP were in the run up to the local elections this year and how they represented the ordinary man. The elections came, and they got hardly any votes....even their leader Nick Grifiins (?) called the results dissappointing.
They are a small minority who shout shout very loud....but hardly anybody listens!!
2007-06-27 03:55:19 · answer #10 · answered by Marky 6 · 7⤊ 2⤋