Do you think?

Question

Any of you ever had a platonic friendship with a married person and it turned into something more after sometime and was succesful?

Answer 1

yes...sorry to say, but thats how i met my husband. we worked together, and he was married at the time. our friendship grew, his marriage failed. we let our friendship continue, and now were married. very happily 6 years later

Answer 2

Feelings are funny.

People can tell you, "Stop! Turn away! Don't go any further!"

In the end, you have to make your own choice.

Before I was ever married, I had a best friend who was male. We were close through high school and college.

Throughout my marriage (to a terrible man who verbally and mentally abused me, not to mention ruined my credit and stole from my family), I remained friends with my guy friend.

There were always feelings between us, but because of my marriage, we refrained from doing anything. It was a personal choice for us.

After the complete collapse of my marriage, my friend let it be known that he was interested in pursuing something with me, and I was definitely interested in him.

We've been together for a year now, and our relationship is the best of my life! I wouldn't trade him for the world!

The best part is that, because we were friends for over ten years, we got to know each other better and on a different level than romantic partners. We established a deep friendship and a lot of mutual trust, prior to enjoying romance.

As a happy result, we have a strong relationship and we know one another extremely well. We didn't have to go through all that posturing and pretending to be something we're not. You know what I'm talking about: First Date Exagerations...

My only advice would be to back off a little and wait to see if their marriage can be fixed, or if it falls completely. You don't want to be the cause, because the person you are invovled with may resent you down the line, or hold you responsible for the break-up.

In addition, just as a word of caution:

Be careful. If this person is fooling around with you, flirting or is hinting at having an affair, you could be in for heartbreak, if they don't leave their spouse. Additionally, someone who lacks the scruples to refrain from cheating on their spouse, may turn the tables and cheat on you someday.

I really wish you the best!

Take care!

Answer 3

Anything that ends another marriage is not to be considered successful.
Even platonic relationship scares me. A relationship that turns into something more must be on a deep emotional level, even though there is no sex involved. To be so involved with a married person in the first place is not right.

Answer 4

I just love how people assume you are having an affair.
I meet my wife when she was married and I had nothing to do with her marriage falling apart. We were friends, but I didn't start dating her until after her divorce became final.

Only issue I have with divorced people is that they have learned that marriage can too easily ended and are more willing to move on than work through the hard times.

Answer 5

My platonic friends are just that. It never changes if so, they weren't platonic, just "in waiting" for the right moment. They can't be both, bonehead.

Any woman who hangs around and makes herself sexually available for a married man is less than a hooker. At least a hooker gets paid.

Answer 6

Sex with a married person is wrong for all parties. Just say no and walk away from this "friendship" before many lives are ruined.

Answer 7

No & never ever i wud go for such things.I dont want to break his/her marriage.There is nothing wrong with being friends with a married person but thats it nothing more than it.

Answer 8

It's never considered 'successful' when you break up another person's marriage. Especially if there are children in the marriage. You'll have some big regrets.

Answer 9

yes

Answer 10

People like you should die a horribel death... painful and horrible and full of emotional pain and physical pain. just die.