My sister does that shaking thing to my wife and I can't help thinking that maybe she's just frustrated that she won't be able to bear a child due to her condition (she had menstruation problems and she had a cyst removed from her ovary last 5 years ago) so I can't help notice her frustration over my wife's womb. It's really bothering me.
2007-06-27 02:08:07 · 8 answers · asked by alternativista 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Baby is too well protected for it to hurt or harm the baby in any way. In fact, baby probably just feels a mild vibration in the womb as the amniotic fluid is a weightless and completely equalized environment.
mom on the other hand... jiggling like that can pull on the round ligaments or otherwise harm her.
I would have mom simply say "Ugh, I think I am getting to big for you to do that - it's uncomfortable. About this time she/he can hear Auntie's voice though, how about you talk to her so you are her favorite/she recognizes your voice when she is born?"
I can understand the frusteration. We have 5 children and one of our closest friend's wrestled with infertility. It is a hard thing when those around you have no problems and you do - but it is no reason to take it out on others. Sensitivity while also being firm can be the best thing here.
2007-06-27 02:19:19 · answer #1 · answered by Nicole D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It won't hurt the baby, but I bet it's really annoying to your wife and the baby inside who's getting jarred.
Maybe next time she does it your wife could say something like "I wish you wouldn't, that makes my stomach feel weird" or maybe "That probably doesn't feel too good to the baby."
If the gentle approach doesn't work, then she will have to be very forthright and tell your sister to stop immediately because it's not just unpleasant it's rude. People think just because a woman is pregnant and her stomach is sticking out that they can put their hands all over her.
2007-06-27 09:12:21 · answer #2 · answered by Veritas 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I shake my belly on occassion to try to get my babies to move. However, I've never had anyone else do that to me. It won't harm the baby. But if you feel like your sister is doing it out of aggression instead of love, then you or wife should say something.
2007-06-27 09:20:27 · answer #3 · answered by Rene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband would come home from work and shake my belly to announce "daddy was home" it did not hurt the babies, other than wake them up and then keep me up. and yes if she is having problems conceiving she could be a bit frustrated. i miscarried and also took me forever to conceive and it weighed heavily on my mind.
2007-06-27 11:27:45 · answer #4 · answered by ladydye_5 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can't be good for the baby but I don't think it will harm the baby either. But it is extremely rude to touch someone else that way. The next time she does it, you and your wife need to tell her that her behavior is unacceptable and would she please keep her hands to herself. Your wife must be extremely patient. The first time she did that to me I would have backslapped her.
2007-06-27 09:13:13 · answer #5 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
dude, it can't hurt her or the baby,
But just tell her to stop
tell her its your fatherly instincts kicking in, and you can't bear the idea that this might possibly hurt your child,
make sure you explain this to your wife aswell
and make her tell you sister NO NO NO
Good luck
Meg
2007-06-27 09:14:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
no it wont hurt anything. the baby is too well protected. i fell with my first and landed on my stomache. my baby was fine.
2007-06-27 09:14:27 · answer #7 · answered by greatdays2020032000 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why does your wife allow her to do it?
2007-06-27 09:13:32 · answer #8 · answered by Queen 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋