I just had a baby on June 12th. Do I really need to wait 6 weeks until I have sex again? I mean, do?

Question

people seriously wait this long?

Answer 1

it is up to you. just remember that your body is still healing fro childbirth. your insides are bruised and may have small cuts. in my experience sex at six weeks still hurt, so if you do it be gentle and don't be afraid to tell your partner to stop if it hurts. don't forget to use protection. hope this helps.

Answer 2

Yes, wait this long. Your body has got to heal. Even if you feel ok, your body is not ready. That is why you are not supposed to even use tampons. There are tiny tears and cuts that can easily cause infections. I had a c-section, so i was in a diff boat, but still had to wait. Even though the incision looks healed, that is just the outside. Sex puts a lot of pressure in palces where it should not be just yet. I waited 4 weeks, and it hurt worse then the first time. All the muscles you use for sex are the same exausted muscles you used to have your baby. I had to stop due to the pain, and waited the extra 2 weeks to try again. This time, thing went much smoother. There is a reason for these guidelines, and though some are fine right away, I would recomend waiting. 6 weeks may seem like forever, but it will be here before you know it. Besides, all the buitl up anticipation makes it that much better.

Answer 3

The 6 week mark is given b/c that is about how long it takes for tears, episiotomies, and other trauma to vaginal tract to heal. It could be painful to have intercourse before these injuries have had proper time to heal. If you've had stitches and you are not completely healed you could risk opening up the suture line and causing other problems. Also, if you do not want to get pregnant you would need to use a condom and if not properly lubricated, this could cause the same problems. Every woman is different and if you had no episiotomy and/or tearing, you might be able to have sex before 6 weeks. Some doctors just say whenever it is comfortable to do so. Most want to wait until you've been examined at your 6 week appt. One of my friends was told at her 6 week appt that she wasn't healed completely and needed to wait 2-3 weeks longer...so it could be worse! :) I would recommend waiting until your post partum appt so the doctor can make sure everything is okay. You won't die from not having sex!! :) :) And seriously, if you have the energy to want to have sex w/ a newborn who is eating every 2-3 hrs, you go girl!!

Good luck and congratulations.

Answer 4

No.
But, one reason that is still advised to wait 6 weeks is because of the potential risks of infection (internal and, for some, external healing is taking place).

I also believe that doctors advise this (in front of the woman's partner) to give them the 'reprieve' from having sex when they may not be 'ready' to physically and/or mentally.
While some men are certainly ready to have sex the day after labor, it is not always for intimacy and/or physical needs,...but to establish themselves as the "man" in their partner's lives. Some men feel "needy" once there's a new person---a.k.a. the Baby--- holding their partner's attention. (Hey, sad but true!) Doctor's "orders" give them the "no go" while the woman heals and CAN give the baby her full attention.

AND, some women DO have discomfort, need time to heal, adjust to their 'new lives', adjust to lack of sleep, ...

Personally, I was up pacing the dang little hospital room less than an hour after delivery and I was ready to get home. But, sex wasn't on my mind for a few weeks.

Everyone's different. Do what feels right for you. Remember, although you've not had a period, you CAN still get pregnant.

Have fun, take care.

Answer 5

Yes, they do. :) Not only can it be very uncomfortable (to painful) if you have sex too early, but the baby's demands make it tough to make time for yourself (and if you find 10 minutes suitable for a quick romp, you often opt for a nap instead!).

Early on, your progesterone levels are high (and they continue to be for a while longer if you are breastfeeding). This impacts your body by making certain areas quite tender and suppressing vaginal secretions (which also leads to discomfort during sex). Every woman is different, and hormone levels may or may not be back to snuff for you at this point.

All of that said, lots of women do feel a-ok and do have sex sooner than the advised 6 weeks. Before you take the plunge (if you are going to do so before 6 weeks), I would phone your doctor and ask whether there are any risks associated with an early return. :). That way, you can make an informed decision as to whether to go for it.

Answer 6

Dont wait if you cant But you risk getting serious infections, and you are supposed to give yourseelf time to heal! Not unless your trying again? lol... Some hospitals give the injectable pill to women before leaving the hospital, because on the six week check up many women find themselves pregnant again! Good luck!

Answer 7

Wait the full 6 weeks and make sure to use protection not only can you get infection but you don't want to get pregnant right away. My niece and nephew are less than a year apart and when my sister was pregnant with my nephew she had alot of complications (blood clots in lungs) because it was too soon for her body to have to carry another child. She also had to get her tubes tied because it is too risky for her to have any more children!

Answer 8

I myself waited 11 weeks because I had stitches inside and out and was in to much pain. But yes you need to wait 6 weeks, they tell you this for a reason.

If you don't wait you can get a very bad infection or worse.

Answer 9

with my first two i found that i wanted to have sex right afterwards and was fine, but ended up gettin pregnant right away after second...after the third i felt like i never wanted to have sex again..lol
i would say whatever you feel comfortable with but it would probably be better to use protection to help take the stress of another pregnancy so soon and introducing bacteria into the area that is healing...i wouldn't say no,no, no don't do it you have to wait..because i have been there done that---but as someone who has been there and learned from it--I would say be careful:)

Answer 10

Well, I know I surely didn't even want to think about it for at least 6 weeks. you need to let your body heal completely. Some things you can see, but some aren't. Listen to your doc and take the time off from sex.

Answer 11

I never did and I healed just fine just dont be too rough.I have had 3 and never waited no more than 4 to 5 days after having a baby to have sex.Go for it just b careful.