relationship. I don't know the details of why they went their separate ways, but they did. My girlfriend and I have been very close since we met 18 months ago; she was open from the beginning about the relationship, but not details on what happened. They didn't talk for awhile but email fairly frequently & privately ; recently she has been opening the door to visiting her friend again. My girlfirend is adamant that she was bi-curious and thinks women are beautiful, but does not want to pursue lesbian relationships in the future: with anyone. She has had 3 male relationships since, but they all ended badly. She is really special to me and we speak seriously of marrying in the next six months, but how real is "bi-curious" and does it really shut off for all eternity; how worried should I be about her staying in fairly close private contact with an old lover (male or female), and can her old girlfriend just become an old friend? I feel kinda left out in the cold about my feelings.
2007-06-27 01:36:56 · 8 answers · asked by harveypeds 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Oh what a situatin for you to be in. I can imagine how you must feel. I think what you have to do is take it as any other relationship she may have had, male or female. If she wanted to pursure a lesbian relationship I think she would have, she is not shy of it as she had already had a full lesbian relationship.
Just try to trust her, if she wants to be friends with this girl then let her, try to become friends with her yourself, that way you may feel more secure.
Good luck and I hope it all works out.
2007-06-27 01:44:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
For her to say she won't have an interest in another woman again is nothing but denial. The fact that she is in close contact with her ex is a problem, and the fact that she is another woman is irrelevant. You need to have an honest conversation with her about how you feel. How would she feel if you were in close contact with an ex? You guys need to have a serious talk.
2007-06-27 08:42:30 · answer #2 · answered by Cathrine K 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I am a happily married woman and like your girlfriend I find women attractive. My husband knows this and thinks it is funny if we both fancy the same girl! Although I fancy other women nothing will ever come of it as I am married and love my husband very much.
If your girlfriend really does love you then you have nothing to worry about. If this is bothering you then you should talk to her about your feelings.
My husband is still friends with two of his previous girlfriends and ever time I see them I want to scratch their eyes out (I get very jealous) but I trust him and he trusts me. If you trust your girlfriend then you have nothing to worry about.
2007-06-27 09:01:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Im married, Im openly bisexual, Im proud of both! I had a girlfriend for 2 years and still continue to date women and my husband knows and is perfectly fine with it. I get alot of grief from others about being married and having a gf or dating girls but Im not gonna hide who I am and Im certainly lucky in the fact that my husband accepts me for who I am too. I dated a girl who got married and 2 weeks later came out to her husband about her feelings towards women, he blew up and freaked out and needless to say its pushed her away and shes getting ready to move out now. I guess the point of my story is to just accept her for who she is and if you try to "make" her be what YOU want then it very well could push her away from you. Good Luck
2007-06-27 10:46:07 · answer #4 · answered by MiCopChick 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You need to sit down with your girlfriend and ask her if she has any feelings towards her freind or to women altogether, you need to be honest with each other and discuss this as a couple, because if your considering marriage you really need to know before you make a life commitment like that. Please just talk to her about this. Tell her how you feel.
2007-06-27 08:54:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Trust..... if she is more than curious then there is nothing you would be able to do about it.. If you trust her word then, though you wudn't be happy about it, she has the 'right' to see who she wants to see as a friend but maybe if you explain how sensitive you feel about this, she may not want to cause you bad feelings and not see her friend - it's up to her - good luck
2007-06-27 08:49:13 · answer #6 · answered by Tiger01204 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think she sounds more mixed up than you. I would guess she is going to fool around with that woman again. You know the old saying, "Once a f**k, always a f**k.
2007-06-27 09:13:00 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Stop worrying. I'm 'Try-sexual' [try anything once] but I would never cheat. You either trust her or you don't. If she is so special to you - don't push her away with insecurities.
2007-06-27 08:53:05 · answer #8 · answered by Tony 1 · 4⤊ 2⤋