3 months ago my girlfriend told me someone left her a note in her car's windshields while she was at work telling her "You are beautiful, please call - his name and phone number". She told me she broke and discard the note inmediatly she found it.
But last week I found the note hidden in here room. She said that nothing ever happened, never even called the man.
I dumped her because I dont buy that, but she dont want to accept it is over now and keeps calling me and coming to my home constanlly, crying that shes telling me truth.
Any good relationship is built on trust and honesty and I think she's lying again when she refuse to admit that she calls that person. I don't care how bad the truth was, I'll get over it. Just don't LIE!!!
Also, I always was given her compliments and attention to made her feel special, so whats the point?
What do you think about it? please be honest...
2007-06-27 01:08:05 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well,,,,,,obviously this girlfriend of yours has a real problem with telling the truth!
If you marry her you are asking for trouble.
She'll bring baggage with her that you won't want to have to deal with all the time,mainly her lying ways!
How could you trust her? How would you ever know if she is telling you the truth about something?
She will always have you guessing!
2007-06-27 01:55:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have feelings of guilt? Is that why your asking this question? Sometimes if a person isnt used to being flattered there whole life, (even though you complimented her) they hold onto it when it comes there way. I know its not an excuse for her lying, but maybe she thought you would make her throw the note away, which she should have done. But it made her feel good that someone had an interest in her, and she made a bad choice. I think that if that was her only disgression she doesnt deserve to be dumped for it. But at the same time she did lie, did you ask her why she lied and said she threw it away, or did you just dump her and not care about her reasons? Good luck, and Im sure you and she will be fine eventually. She obviously love you and is having a hard time coping with the fact that her heart is broken. In time she will get over it, and move on.
2007-06-27 01:16:25 · answer #2 · answered by melissaw77 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never jump on bigger conclusions, esp. if you're not too sure. there are two possibilities, either she's lying or she's really not. let's have your thoughts 50% on each possibility.
if she's lying . . . you're right. some people are just not contented with one person. BUT it's just a small thing you're dealing with: a note from an admirer. if she did call him, i bet she's already sorry. because if she isn't, she wouldnt be banging on your door as if she's knocking on heavens begging for your forgiveness. there are always second chances to things. if a little part of you STILL want to be with her, give it one more shot. this is where things would really be tested., because at this moment, we don't know anything but a note she said she threw but she didn't.
if you dont want it anymore (but im positive you still do because you wouldnt post this question in here the first place), give a little talk and say that things are really dead and gone.
give it one more chance, and if this kind of thing happens again, dismiss the second thoughts and drop her off. you shouldn't close the doors on everything because you're not sure yet. like the old cliche said, "you never know." if you woud give it a second chance, keep an eagle eye on her now, but start building your trust again.
2007-06-27 01:38:01 · answer #3 · answered by I'm his Winona 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you say it should be build on honesty and trust right. Well wasn't she honest and told you about the note in the first place, sounds to me that you have a little issue with trusting her. She didn't even have to tell you about the note. You need to work on your issues with trust - the only thing that she lied about was disposing the paper. Unless you called the number and the person told you other wise, you need to chill out and trust her and give her a chance b4 someone else will. I think she's being honest and trying to keep her man and for her to do all of that I give her props, if she was talking to them she would have 4got about you and not crying in your door steps.
2007-06-27 01:21:26 · answer #4 · answered by 2sexy 2cute 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its always an ego push to know that someone finds you beautiful...when its all mysterious(note on window) that adds a little drama too it...you cant help but wonder who it is. it would take a strong person indeed not to be curious about it.
your gf claims that nothing happened....have you seen her act suspicously during these 3 months to make you think she's lying? keeping a note is not a crime....ok she didnt tell you but i imagine there are somethings you dont tell her....has any girl ever given you a compliment and did you immediately tell your gf and do you sometimes think about what that girl said to you? we are human and we have our weaknesses....stroking our egos is one of them. You should listen to her and talk it out. If the relationship has been good up til now....why let a little note destroy it?
btw why were you searching in her room? I would assume the note was somewhere out of the general public viewing area so you had to have found it going through her things....maybe its you she shouldnt trust...hmmmm?
2007-06-27 01:15:43 · answer #5 · answered by coolred38 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look maybe she really is telling the truth that she never called give her a second chance but tell her before you get back together that you dont want any lying in your relationship and if you catch her again tell her that it would be over for good.... then also ask her if there is anything else that is hanging over your heads becuase after that point you dont want to find out about anyhting else becuase then she would have been lying to you.
2007-06-27 01:13:17 · answer #6 · answered by queenie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had this happen to me before but i was in the girls situation. i kept the note to not cause i had called the number but cause i had just chucked it in my room. i think the best thing to do is sit down and have a real chat with her. ask her why she kept the note and ask her if she has been seeing this person behind your back. explain to her that you do love her and all you want is the truth but if she insist's she is telling the truth then maybe she is and you might just trust her cause as you said a relationship is built on trust.
2007-06-27 01:16:22 · answer #7 · answered by cb2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good move! Kicking her out! I have learned that once a man or woman starts lying in a relationship, whether it be a strait or gay or lesbian relationship. Once the lying starts, that partner can never tell the truth, because they don't know what the truth is.
2007-06-27 01:18:47 · answer #8 · answered by yee_haw31617 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want a relationship with her, for any reason, that is your prerogative. Maybe she was telling the truth, but it is how you perceive the situation that will guide your actions. Quit calling her your girlfriend. Don't answer her phone calls. When she shows up at your house, calmly tell her she can't come in, and you don't want to date her. Block her from your computer. Don't try to be friendly with her.
2007-06-27 01:17:24 · answer #9 · answered by lollipop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm like you and have a great dislike to lies. As for your girlfriend, yes has lied to you regarding the note, so yeah it would be hard to trust her again, but there's only one person who can make the final decision and that's you. Maybe allow her one slip up as everyone makes mistakes, but watch her closely for awhile and if there's another one, then say goodbye permanently. Cheers and good luck.
2007-06-27 01:20:16 · answer #10 · answered by Live_For_Today 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋