Ok- here's a question... What do you think of the way I look?

Question

I'm asking this for a few reason's. For those who think I'm narcissistic... I'm not, I'm actually extemely insecure so bite me. The reason I ask is because I am 33 now. I've been married for 10 years. When I was young I was very thin (size 4) and thought I was fat and ugly. Looking back at pictures I see someone different. Now that I'm older I compare myself now to myself then and I feel REALLY ugly but I have gotten complements, which shock the living hell outa me. I think that every picture I have ever taken is worth barfing over, I think my nose is too big, I look horrible when I smile, and I HATE my chin! I have always had these feelings but now they're more so because I'm not a size 4 anymore and I'm older. So there you go... I don't like the way I look but I've had complements so I figured the best way to find out is to ask people who can be brutally honest.

Oh yeah... when I was a size 4 I had no chest, none! Now I have too much which also makes me insecure because I feel like it makes me look fat and want "them" gone. (that part is more for the girls to understand than the guys- so guys leave that one alone)

Sorry- I forgot I think you can see my pics on my 360... not sure.

Yeah... I know I have a self esteem problem, always have. I really like who I am on the inside. I try really hard to be a true friend and love my family. I have causes that move me into action but I have never found myself attractive, on the outside. I'm 33 and this should be over but instead I'm more insecure. Go figure.

I'm actually surprised at the kindness... honestly I thought I'd be bashed for asking a stupid question. I am happily married but no kiddies. Just hubby & me. The people closest to you always say you're pretty so I just wanted an objective opinion.

Answer 1

it's hard to tell from an itty bitty avatar. Post a link to a picture. But really, who cares what people think, it's your feelings about yourself that are the real issue. You seem to have no self confidence. We are our own worst critics. Think about it this way. If you met yourself on the street as a stranger what would you think? We tend to not be as hard on others as we are ourselves. I'm sure you look fine.

Answer 2

Hey little lady, after 10 years of marriage - u haven't decried that - so I assume U & ur husband r still in love and the world goes round every day & maybe theres even a couple of kids there there adding to / making the daily aspects of life all worth while?

Apart from keeping in trim, keeping ur figure, always trying to look good for hubby / being a good mother / bringing up honest law abiding kids and sharing all their discoveries as they grow up in this somewhat bewildering and uncaring world - and there when all the family needs U - what r u complaining about? I'm sure all ur family love U as well - irrespective of what u think u might look like!

Life is so short / so go for it & live it!

Answer 3

Hon, if you are looking for self assurance in yahoo you are barking up the wrong tree.
Try looking for it right between your eyes, and a few inches back, and if you don't find it there, well it ain't anywhere.

Answer 4

Well it's a small picture so it's hard to say but from what I can tell you're very pretty.

Answer 5

Look pretty to me but you definitely have a self esteem problem.

Answer 6

I like your chest in particular so I can't understand why you don't like it! Your eyes are a nice colour and your mouth looks kissable.

Answer 7

Your a beautiful woman .. smile more honey you have earned it

Answer 8

Iet's put it this way...

...I'd never kick you out of bed for eating crackers....