Its been a while since we interacted in bed; I work three jobs *mainly night shifts* to support our family. I just want to provide my children the life I never seen and it was my wife’s’ idea to make me work three jobs.
I barely get any sleep and I am always depressed & on anti depressants. My wife purchased a toy to satisfy her needs & I was fine with that because I can understand she is at her peak and I am always out doing night shifts.
But lately it has got too much for her; she expects me to work three jobs and work her thing day and night too. I am a human not a machine, I am tired as anything when I get back from work. Now she is seeking and fulfilling her desire outside and has filed for a divorce.
She filed for it on the grounds that I can not satisfy her needs in bed and not a man anymore. I am shocked and devastated, I am turning to alcohol to beat my depression.
2007-06-27 00:41:24 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You couldn't please her if you won the lottery and were the worlds greatest lover !
She is the cause of your depression - a demanding spiteful little BI*CH ! .
Let her go and your problems will be over , your sense of duty towards your family desire to please tells me you are a decent man and it is her that has a problem .
You have dug yourself into a pit trying to please this woman and now your just running around the pit in circles .
The kids would be much better of with a father who could be there for them (even if only at weekends) than a father whom they never see or is to tired to communicate with them .
This is your chance to make a new start with the advantage of experience on your side to help you avoid making the same mistake again .
Children can never really be happy when their parents can't share their happiness .
Good Luck .
PS , Alcohol is a depressant steer clear !
2007-06-27 00:58:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok so why can't she take some responsibility and get a job?
i suggest that you get a day job which is better paid if you can, get rid of the three night jobs, they are causing you to be tired all the time, the anti-depressants are what's killing your sex drive together with tiredness and stress.
have you talked all this out with her, tried to make her understand why you are the way you are? that it was her who "made" you work nights?
Divorce should be the last resort, but if you can't make her understand that you are stressed and exhausted, that both of you have to make some drastic changes, then why not divorce her on the grounds of adultary. Be very sure you want this though, if it's worth fixing then fix it, if not, then get rid ASAP
please leave the alcohol alone, it will only make things worse!
2007-06-27 10:58:02 · answer #2 · answered by Missfit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw I really feel for you! You seem to really care about your family to give them a life that you didn't seem to have. If she can't appreciate that then she's not worth it.
Alcohol isn't the answer though. It's not going to help, it'll probably make your depression worse. You need to find a friend you can confide in, and if you know that she was 'fulfilling her desire outside' then if you can get proof, you can use this to show she went against her vows of marriage.
If she was at the end of her tether then she should have spoken to you before she went elsewhere, it's no excuse!
Good luck to you, I hope everything works out good in the end x
2007-06-27 07:50:08 · answer #3 · answered by Libby F 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get a good nights sleep, go and quite two of your jobs and then take your wife and her stuff and set it on the curb, because that is where the garbage belongs. You do not have to take that kind of stuff from anyone. You are wrecking your health over a women who doesn't love you. When you get some rest and get your head screwed on right. Find a women who cares about you not one who demands so much. My guess is she wanted you to work three jobs so that she could invite guys over while you were gone. I have seen all of this before.
2007-06-27 07:54:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well one thing is sure and that is you don't need to hit the bottle. You are probably under to much stress and the depression is from working to much. I would have thought your wife would be more understanding. I think you need to cut out one of the jobs and rest and try to pull things back together. If she goes ahead with the divorce then you, I feel would be better off with out her. It is tuff, but be strong and keep your head held high. Good Luck to You and God Bless.
2007-06-27 08:27:55 · answer #5 · answered by justforfriends 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alcohol will not help your problem.
Three jobs are too much, and you probably need some rest. Is it possible to quit at least one job?
And see your doctor, as he can help you with both depression and ED.
And of course, if your wife has filed for divorce . . . you need to consult an attorney immediately.
Good luck to you.
2007-06-27 07:50:40 · answer #6 · answered by Suz123 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She filed on those grounds? I doubt the court will grant it based on that. Whatever happened to "through sickness and health, til death do us apart?" Does she work? What is her contribution? Why don't you two separate and live in different households for awhile? That way you don't have to pay for her and the divorce. Give it a test run, no questions asked. I'm sorry, but she is very selfish. You're better off without her.
2007-06-27 07:52:10 · answer #7 · answered by Aprilla 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well she is wrong for a start why cant she help and get a part time job?Anti depressants can stop you feeling great in bed,and all those jobs i am afraid its her with the problem not you.And you are a man you just want whats best for your family and there is nothing wrong with that.
2007-06-27 07:48:46 · answer #8 · answered by Carol B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need the alcohol. You simply need a woman who appreciates all that you do. Tell her to go work 3 jobs and then come home and satisfy you, see how long she can keep that up.
2007-06-27 07:49:22 · answer #9 · answered by MrAnonyMuss 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have got the time and energy to put a bottle to your mouth and get drunk... you have the time and energy to make love to your wife.
At the same time, sex seems to be a little too important to her.
Does she work? Or does she sit at home and take advantage of your excessive work schedule?
2007-06-27 08:00:10 · answer #10 · answered by lonnyl_99 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋