suicide attempts....?

Question

sometimes i sometimes feel like killing myself. i actually hate my life at the moment. im 17 and have failed as levels and have to rethink my future. i also am secretly drinking because im muslim i cant but choose to keep it from my parents. i really want a boyfriend but i cant becaus eof my religion.i also feel im really ugnly becaus ei am the only asian girl in my skl. i am also falling out with my parents like everyday on a daily basis. i have tried finding ways when i am in times of misery to killl myself by overdose and slitting my wrist. i am depressed and have no where to go. the computer seems the only way to get away from this depressing times in my home. i have a loving family but when i tell them i'm sad or shout ot them i get stressed out, they tell my to get over it and stop feeling bad about my self. i dont know what to do? any help advice please is grately appreciated??

Answer 1

It's a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Better times are ahead for you, I promise. I felt the same way when I was 17. I am not Muslim but I understand the frustration and can remember it like yesterday. Hormones have so much to do with the way you feel; I remember catching myself in a moment at 19 and thinking 'Phew! Puberty is finally over!' I truly believe you will get past feeling like this. Life really sucks at times and especially when you are still living under your parents' roof and have no say in anything. Hang in there sunshine, you'll be fine in the end.

Answer 2

It sounds to me you are suffering from depression, you should tell your parents about it and see a psychiatrist. Don't see it as a big problem, it is like having a flu and you need medicine from your doctor. Don't ever consider to kill yourself, because when you take your life, you are also taking a part of your family's life. I have lost a family member and it 's like, having a piece of my heart being torn out, and after 3 years it still feels the same. It will never heal because I love my family, so don't do something that will hurt your love ones for the rest of their lifes. You are only 17, what makes you think nothing beautiful is going to happen after 17. If you think this is a lowest point in your life then what ever more happens next will be something good. Life is like that, when we are in bad times, we look forward for the good times to come. None of us have a choice of what we are, there is always things we dislike about our lives, and that's why we must treasure and amplify the good things we have. You may have a religion that is restrictive, but you also have a loving family that some people don't have. Sometimes if you see things without comparing with others, a lot of problems will disappear. If I am the only Asian in the world then I am special and not ugly, think positive. Bad times will pass, be strong and await for the good times to come.

Answer 3

The thing is, Islam is not a religion of love, but of cold duty and power relationships.


Only love can make a person happy.

If you found true friends that loved you, that would help immeasurably.

But as for a boy-friend, 17 is very young and you have a lot of years ahead of you - so don't by any means feel you have to rush things - I am sure that the right one will come alone, it may take years, but it will be worth it in the end.




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Answer 4

You are not alone, 17 is a tough age and I can tell you things will get better! As long as the drinking doesn't suck you in under it's delusions. Look into Osho Zen, it is o.k. to change your way of thinking so that you can better cope in the world. Life is what you make it - I know that right now you feel cought and unable to move without your parent's approval but trust me things chnage and that is one thing you will never be able to change is change it's self! Also look into yahoo groups for a support group from others your age, get a job to get you out of the house and keep as busy as you can so that your mind doesn't have a chance to bring you down. Hang in there kid you won't be a kid for much longer and things will improve and get easier!

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Answer 5

There is no mistake about your thoughts and you have every right to take your own decission.But we are all came from a far away distance to this beautiful earth to enjoy ouselves , and it is not reasonable to go away without enjoying all the pleasures that this world offering us . We can enjoy our life to the end and there is no age limit for this . First you enjoy yourself with the events what this world offered you for your age, and gradually plan yourself for your future phases. For enjoying sex lots of time is there in future and do you know how much the sex gives you happiness after an age of 25 years. Try to live long as much as possible by avoiding unwanted habits and by following healthy principles just to enjoy so many ...so many... so many...so many happy things that this earth offering us. Try to see the petals of roses and ignore the thorns.Never forget that there are so many people, like me around you, when you are in depression.

Answer 6

Alright, it sounds like you might not be mixing well with your religion- ever think of changing religions to one that suits you instead of your parents?

Also, if having a boyfriend or drinking is keeping you from suicide- then I am sure your parents would rather you do that that kill yourself (irreguardless of what they say).

Also, find things that become an escape- reading, writing, movies, working, volunteering- the possibilities are endless. Once you find that escape, then you will feel 100% better.

Answer 7

Do you have a teacher or other adult friend that you can talk to? Have you told your parents just how depressed you really are, or have you just said that you are sad?

You state that you have a loving family, so I am betting that if you were to tell them that you have these suicidal thoughts they would help you as much as they possibly can.

Whether your family, a friend or teacher, please talk to someone, please seek help. Don't carry on feeling this way, there are a lot of wonderful things that life has in store for you if you can just make it past this time.

Answer 8

NO, my dear child no no not at all suicide is not the correct solution to any problem. come on tell tell me ur problem i will try to solve it. be assured that, when there is a problem there is a solution. suicide attempts are made on hasty generalisation. First realise LIFE IS FOR LIVING AND NOT TO DIe, anyway we all are going to die one day. if one have natural death tgher is a chance for salvation . suicide deaths result in wandering of soul endlessly. Apart from that, u r trying to run away from the problem. FACE IT. THE PROBLEM WONT EAT U. IF u have failed one attempt, try again and again. Have u heard about ROBERT BRUCE. He took lessons from spider. NOW technology has improved u can take from spiderman also. keep quiet and try to understand and apply ur intelligence.

Answer 9

Go and see your GP and speak to them about it if your parents aren't listening. Your parents love you, as you said - but you need help from somewhere to get over the depression, and a therapist may be able to help you.

Also, I think your parents dont understand exactly how bad you are feeling, so if you want more help from them, you need to sit them down, try to stay as calm as possible, and tell them exactly what is going on inside your head. Thye love you and will want to help you, but they may not understand how you are really feeling, so you have to try and make them listen to you.

Answer 10

Oh god you are Muslim and you don't have answer to that question you have it Friend just look inside your heart it lies all there just pray for it for moment close your eyes and think of Allah who has power over all creatures because he is the creator submit you will to his will because Allah says if you just run after you wishes and don't follow the way i told you to follow then you will find yourself in trouble i will make you tired in your journey to fulfill your wishes and if u follow my way then i will give you whatever you wish for and you will be happy.So it's the easiest way just follow his way say your prayers 5 times a day and also read holly Quran for guideline because i had same feelings before i find out the way the way of Allah just follow his path and follow the sunat of prophet MUHAMMAD Peace be upon him and you will feel good try it and then tell me how you feel.