After 6 years together, and no abusive history, my spouse and I both lost our jobs and allowed our stress to make us fight more, and at times get physical. My spouse was arrested and convicted of spousal abuse this past December, and since his release, we have been trying to rebuild our family, careers and relationship. Yet now that those labels have been placed (unwantingly)on us, the law is actually now making things worse for us and holding us back from moving forward. I am not a victim, but they say I am and for that I am in "denial" and not a credible witness, basically a liar, WHICH IS COMPLETE BULL****!. And my spouse is a hideous wife beater who belongs in jail with the murderers, rapists and child molesters, which is also JUST PLAIN WRONG! He's facing another arrest now because of false statements given by neighbors who hated us, and I, the person they are saying he hit, has no say to be heard! They don't believe me or my daughter! The prejudged stereotype has to end! HELP!
2007-06-26 23:22:09 · 6 answers · asked by naynay_aka_cupcake 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
STOP FIGHTING. That is how this can end. You both sound like you have a lot of stress. The worst thing to do is to fight and yell and scream. You have given every one the fuel, so to say, to arrest you, turn you in, etc. You might consider moving. You both need to be working--even if it is fast food. A job is a job.
Idle hands are the Devil's workshop
2007-06-26 23:32:16 · answer #1 · answered by Alea S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that it's gonna take a ton of time and a lack of physical confrontations on the part of you and your husband to release this stereotype. The more you fight, scream and get physical, the longer its gonna take. Ever try counseling to help with the physical confrontations? I would think that for the sake of your daughter, you would try anything and everything to NOT have her subjected to fights you and hubby are having. And a question for you, why do you care what others think of you?
2007-06-26 23:33:25 · answer #2 · answered by Angie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is disgusting how the Jehovah's Witnesses lie and wantonly abuse their own individuals. that's sickening how the Jehovah's Witnesses dance around the certainty, make up lies, and then bypass on the two attacking or permitting their own individuals to be sexually attacked. Your final sentence "you're ALL responsible of molestation so some distance as i'm worried" is one i could no longer consider extra. The Jehovah's Witnesses, whether or no longer they are sexual molesters or no longer, nonetheless help and shelter a gadget that facilitates those crimes to proceed. Their total set up of no longer thinking authority, no longer telling on somebody without yet another witness, and the style of youthful, harmless babies is a sexual predator's dream come authentic.
2016-10-19 01:18:38 · answer #3 · answered by zaragosa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he were arrested and convicted and served time, then no, the labels will stick. He IS an abuser and nothing will change his record.
I don't see anywhere, where you and him have gone to counciling or tried any other way to change this behavior and as long as you keep denying you're not a victim, nothing will change.
2007-06-26 23:38:41 · answer #4 · answered by rustybones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could publish your story in a local newspaper, find helping associations or rouse up the neighborhood and call for a "street meeting", explaining to them your problem.
2007-06-26 23:34:36 · answer #5 · answered by leira 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider moving to another neighborhood or town where you can get a fresh start.
2007-06-26 23:44:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋