Has anyone ever moved somewhere unfamiliar to them, where they didnt' know anyone?

Question

Leaving everyone they knew behind and starting their lives all over again?

If so how was the experience.

I'm about to be 20 and I'm thinking of going to get my masters in psychology in California.
Although I really want to go I don't want to suffer because I know it will be expensive
any suggestions?

Answer 1

Hi there, I'm a 23 yr old female and I haven't done it yet but I'm in the same transition as you. In about 2 months I'm moving to New York from San Diego by myself. I worked my butt off and saved plenty of money, including money incase things don't fall through the way I'd like them to. I've always been a pretty social person and have an open mind which makes it easy for me to relate to people and get to meet new ones. I would say just focus on establishing yourself there first, stay focused on what you moved there for, and friends will eventually happen, which is your least of worries. In your case study your commute routes, your neighborhoods, the people, the schools, and inform yourself. Don't show up clueless. You'll be fine. Good luck!

Answer 2

Yes, I have. First, you must have money because you say you are going to get your masters in psychology, so the first thing you have to do is decide WHERE in California, if you move, one of the first things to do is seek a place to live, if you must work, secure a workplace so that you can pay bills. Go to the college you are going to be attending for help in finding housing and work opportunities near the college. Have plenty of clothes to cover working, and/or college classes. Be careful of strangers and try to keep within the boundaries of law, stay away from groups that tend to be troublemakers, and go there to STUDY and not worry about friends. Once you start college, or a job you will find out more and more about the area and the kinds of people you will or will not associate with. Yes California IS expensive to live in. Be prepared at all times.

Answer 3

When I was 19 I moved from a small Iowa town to Chicago. Talk about a big change. At first it freaked me out and I kept to myself, but after I started working, I met friends there and got to know the customers. Slowly but surely, I started talking with the neighbors and so forth. I was close enough that my girlfriends were still able to come and see me on the weekends. Eventually though, I returned back to my hometown. That is were my support network and my closest friends are. Now, I have done it again, moved from Iowa to Kentucky. I have met some cool ppl here. Sometimes I just want to go back home but the thing I keep telling myself is "I cant leave yet, because I havent even given this place a chance." and truth be told, if it comes down to it, I know where I came from and where I can go home.

Answer 4

I did that many times... my life is an endless journey. It seems though that where I am now is where I will be for the rest of my life... and it's okay, because although I still miss my friends and family in two other different continents, it's slowly (after 11 years) sinking into my full consciousness that this is my life now.
You are your own person... since you were small, you were trained (I hope) to make a choice. This is one of those things in life that you can't make up your mind depending on what other people's experiences are. Ask yourself what do you want in life... what do you have now? What does it take for you to make a change? Are you willing to go for it and regret, but at least you tried... or are you going to just keep on dreaming about it- and regret that you never even tried? Suffering can come in many forms... it's your choice which kind you want to endure. As they say:... "it will get ugly first before it gets better."
Imagine yourself as a 60 year old- will you smile and think to yourself- what an exciting life I led- no regrets!"... or will it be "I played it safe.... Oh, I wished I at least tried!"

Answer 5

sure. I fairly have performed this extremely some circumstances. beginning at age 9. My kin strikes each 2 or 3 years. it rather is not consumer-friendly earlier each thing by way of fact only such as you pronounced, you're in reality beginning issues as quickly as greater. What fairly helped me replaced into I had a brother that wasnt as shy as i replaced into. So he could form of destroy the ice with everybody, and then slowly i could start to get used to human beings and issues and be waiting to make new acquaintances. I cant even think of how uninteresting issues could be if I had lived in one place my total existence. I fairly have SOO many acquaintances from in each single place. there are diverse good human beings everywhere only waiting to fulfill somebody new.

Answer 6

I left my parents, brother and friends I had grown up with, and moved to San Diego 7 years ago. I stayed with my grandfather for about 6 months while I got a job and got on my feet but I didn't have any friends or anyone to hang out with. I sometimes questioned my decision, and considered going back to what I kenw, but I made it through and now I love my life. I think major change is a very scary thing to face but can be the best thing you ever do for yourself. Good luck in making your decision.

Answer 7

well lets see....I grew up in the wide open spaces of Wyoming with most people speaking english, practicing freely whatever they believed and believing in equality for the most part...not to mention both sexes mingling generally in everyday life....

I went from that to half way around the planet to where hardly anyone spoke english(or not very well) culture was so very different....and segregation was a kick in the ***

the hardest part from the whole experience was the utter feeling of being alone...no family, no close friends, everyone saw me as "exotic" or something and so wouldnt approach me that often(plus my early shy personality)so it meant I was often alone even in a room full of ladies. they would all be speaking arabic and i would be wondering how did i manage to get from where i had been before to where i was now...still wonder that sometimes...

anyhow, i imagine you will feel lonely at first but at least you dont have the language barrier to overcome. just try to be socialable to those that approach you(be careful though of course) and eventually you will have friends to keep you company and share the experience with.

expect to suffer to some degree...lol...its a fact of life....things are generally more expensive then we account for...hardly ever are they cheaper then we expect.

Answer 8

I'm from Sydney Australia and moved to Wellington NZ for university study by myself when I was 17. I had never been to New Zealand before. I was excited, but scared too. It's natural to feel homesick. Just make light of the situation and think of the advantages of the move in the long run, then you'll be okay! :) Hehe. Good luck!
Anna :)

Answer 9

I moved to Texas when I was 20. Before I moved, I lined up a job and a place to live. It took a while before I was comfortable there and made friends that I could trust. You say about leaving everyone you know, but then about it being expensive. Are you worried about not knowing anyone or that you will have to support yourself?

Answer 10

When I was almost 21, I moved away from Los Angeles and up to Alaska. My whole family was in L.A. and I knew no one in Alaska. I only knew I wanted to get out of town and start over. I've been here 8.5 years now and I love every minute of it.

When you make a radical move like that... things seem to fall into place easier as long as you're excited about it. The adrenaline factor kicks in.