Leaving everyone they knew behind and starting their lives all over again?
If so how was the experience.
I'm about to be 20 and I'm thinking of going to get my masters in psychology in California.
Although I really want to go I don't want to suffer because I know it will be expensive
any suggestions?
2007-06-26 21:34:08 · 12 answers · asked by . 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
There is a place for all of us. There is a reason why you are thinking about going. No matter what it is, it is there for a reason.
I have left many places and started over many times. My thought is that no matter where you are there is something to like about it and appreciate about it. If you can't see the good in where you are, then why be there.
There is so much out there that is not safe for you, there is even more out there to enjoy if only you are able to see past your family and friends who only see what they have in you, not what is possible for you to accomplish.
2007-06-26 21:40:34 · answer #1 · answered by Oakine 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have moved to new places before. Many times without knowing anyone. It can be a scary and lonely time as well as an amazing time. It will depend on your point of view.
Going to college, my first move after graduation, those were both without support systems. I learned a great deal, the most important of which is to do a bit of research on the area you are moving to. This will help you get around and know a little of what to expect.
Also, find a group that you wish to associate with; religious, cultural, intellectual or sports. Get on line and see if there are groups you can chat with before your move. Ask pointed question (without being rude) about the area. I'm sure they would be happy to tell you what you wish to know.
As far as expensive? Well that is in the eye of the beholder as well. By investigating your new area you will find areas that you can live in that the rent will be reasonable. You may not live on the house on the hill but there are good situations to be found. The rest of your expenses can be measured out in level of importance. Some people love Cable/ DSL others want a fancy car, some to party every night. It will be a give and take to find your equilibrium.
My last BIG move? To another country. Yes I knew my husband, and through him I had "friends" but I had to learn a new culture and new language. I started several months ahead of the move and while I still miss-say things or my prior Texas accent changes the emphasis, it has been the most exciting time of my life!
The words to live by though are "it will be as good or bad as you want it to be".
2007-06-26 21:59:21 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I did but for different reasons. It has been 13 years and I"m still here!
I don't know where your moving from or how far away it will be from your family and friends, but I will bet you will love living in California!! I live near San Francisco and I love it.
I have been lonely at times but I am much older than you and it is harder to make new friends.If the reason your considering moving is because of school you shouldn't have any trouble making new friends.
The worst that can happen is you can move back home and return to the same life your living now.. So what do you have to lose? Nothing!! And you have everything new to gain!!
You have only one life, don't live it with regrets!!
GO FOR IT !!!!!!!
2007-06-26 22:05:36 · answer #3 · answered by raynenblondes 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yep i've done it twice. At the time it was the right thing to do and I enjoyed it. I'm not a very social person compared to the average so I suppose that would affect it. I did enjoy socializing occasionally, and I did that with some people from a local zoo I was volunteering at. Maybe you could come back to your hometown every couple of months or something to keep in touch.
good luck
2007-06-26 22:23:16 · answer #4 · answered by Jassie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've done this four times and only once was I unhappy. That was for a school decision, too, and only lasted 9 months. I have learned that it's best to find volunteer opportunities and immerse yourself into some kind of community in your new home. By working "for" others you gain friends with common interests and keep busy. Plus, it can provide valuable career experience and contacts!
2007-06-26 21:52:17 · answer #5 · answered by Heather B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all comes down to who your friends are. Friends can make or break a place. Get a job where you can meet alot of people that fit your style and start networking through people. Hang out with people who are OK then you can meet their friends and find the ones who are more into the stuff you like and go from there.
2007-06-26 21:45:44 · answer #6 · answered by aeromech84 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I moved to another country. It was hard not knowing anyone at first but I got involved with a sport & met a lot of great people on my team & from them I got to meet other people & made some great friends.
2007-06-26 21:38:09 · answer #7 · answered by chazta01 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is better for us to stay where there is familiarity. But if we move somewhere in unfamilair place it will be just a new experience. I have moved many a times to a totally new and unfamilair situation. I found a new enjoyment. But it takes experience to enjoy such situation.
2007-06-26 21:40:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did it eight times in the military, and just did it to live closer to my children in Nevada.
Usually takes about six months to sit through the head trips, then the right people are stepping forward.
2007-06-26 21:40:54 · answer #9 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you move to Long Beach we can be BFF!!!!!
join meetup.com to meet new people.
it's not dating, its social groups like knitting, coffee loves, book clubs, etc.
its GREAT (and free)
2007-06-26 21:37:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋