name everything you can think of. thanks
2007-06-26 21:00:56 · 21 answers · asked by That Guy Drew 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
do you leave the toilet seat up/down? will you go to the shops @ 10pm to buy me chocolate? (sorry i think thats a women thing-(make it beer) will YOU go the shops for her?)Will you let me in the shower with you? Will you let me hold the remote- always? What chores will be automatically mine? folder or scruncher? snorer,burper, farter? porn? shopaholic? alcoholic, druggo? do we want kids? do you like my parents? (do you like her parents? )can i have mates over to watch football? how many nights a week can i go to the pub? what happens if i forget valentines day? what happens if i get too fat? am i expected to read your mind? if you ask 'do these jeans make me look fat' and i say yes, what are the consequences. do i HAVE to go to your girlie/ kiddy bbqs? will you let me go out with my mates (by myself) every 3 weeks at least. can we get home brew? Do i HAVE to watch those dumb soapies? can i have a massage? can you cook? are you going to tell me what to wear all the time? do you nag? do i have to EVER clean the oven? can i buy a plasma tv? can i turn the back shed into a bar/pool room area instead of a nursery? can you use a lawn mower? will you give me a lot of LOVIN'? are you high maintenance? if we fight- will you sulk, cry or throw things?(how long for?) are you going to spend my money faster than i make it.? can i play ac/dc when i want? do you know who bon scott is? If she says no to the last one, for gods sake....., dont marry her...
2007-06-26 21:29:47 · answer #1 · answered by blerchus4incapet 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The most important one is probably their feelings on having children. This is essential that both of you are in agreement about that - about when, how many, or if at all.
I think other than that, the details are not really relevant. Where you will live, how you will earn money, etc. These are all things that should be relatively clear before you marry anyway. In this day and age, people don't usually go into a marriage with nothing. They usually have set up home etc before all of that.
If you bombard your potential husband/wife with questions beforehand like it's some kind of job interview, they will most likely run a mile.
2007-06-26 21:19:56 · answer #2 · answered by helly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
different than the flaws you have already properly reported, this is a suitable Ten checklist of different issues you're able to grasp: one million. How does his father handle his mom? you will locate that he will resemble interior the way he interacts one or the different of them. are you able to tolerate that? 2. Has he ever been married? Engaged? Have any little ones? 3. Insure he's not addicted to something: drugs, alcohol, intercourse, or playing specially. 4. Has he ever been arrested? if so, why? 5. what's his approximate sexual historic previous? Has he been with an outstanding form of ladies human beings, some, none in any respect, and are you comfortable together with his answer? 6. Does he have any actual issues that may no longer be obvious, which comprise juvenile diabetes, a congenital coronary heart abnormality, or some thing? 7. what's his well known sexual myth, and, if this is a few thing you're able to by no potential want to assist him fulfill, could he be waiting to stay without it his comprehensive existence? 8. Has he ever been hospitalized, or perhaps prescribed drugs, for any psychological ailment? 9. Is he waiting to disagree with you without rage, without insults, and without utilising profanity? 10. Can he % out a minimum of one character trait or fault of his very own that he could want to make certain greater interior the subsequent 5 years?
2016-10-03 05:27:53 · answer #3 · answered by furne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finances. Who will be in charge and how will this system work.
Religion, if you have kids, how will this work.
Get a definition of important things to you and compare. Example, maybe cheating is something different to him than it is to you.
Get to know his or her rules. People do not always have the same rules and boy is it a rude awakening when you later find this out, like after you say "I do".
What do each others family think of you two getting married. This can be important to some but there again is the rule thing.
Where you gunna live.
Who pays the bills.
Who wants a pet and what kind.
Where do you each want to be in the future?
How do you each view life together verses seperate.
2007-06-26 21:07:10 · answer #4 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there name
2007-06-26 21:03:23 · answer #5 · answered by just hanging around 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Do you want to have children someday? If you do, what do you want to teach them? Would you want them to follow your faith, or is it better to let them choose for themselves? What do you feel your job would be as a parent? If children do something wrong, how should they be disciplined? If you have a family, what do you think your role in the family would be? What are your goals for the future? Have you established short term goals to help get you to your long term goals? How do you feel about money? Do you want a lot, or do you just want enough to provide for your family? If you take loans, do you think it's important to pay them back, or is it better not to take loans in the first place? Do you want to own a car and a house? If you don't want to take a loan for those, how will you get them? Do you have a credit history? Is it good or bad? I know that's a long list, but you did say name everything you can think of, and marriage is a big deal. :)
2007-06-26 21:19:43 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
1. Does he have any other emotional or financial commitments? Any children out there?
2. Is he financially stable? Is his credit good? (Run a credit check).
3. How long has he been at his job? How long was he at the job before? Is he able to hold down a job?
4. Drug and alcohol use? Is it excessive?
5. Has he ever been arrested?
6. Does he want children?
7. Where does he see himself (realistically) in 10 years?
8. Has he ever lived on his own?
9. What are his religious beliefs? Did they agree with yours?
2007-06-26 21:05:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
How seriously do they take their religion in comparison with you (ideally, it should be the same religion)
How many children (if any!) do they hope to have, and what their plans are for raising them (i.e., a parent taking time off from work vs. professional childcare)
What financial goals do they have for the future, and how do they intend to attain them. Also, the amount of debt they'd be carrying into the marriage. This may sound unromantic, but money is one of the HUGEST bones of contention in many marriages.
2007-06-26 21:07:13 · answer #8 · answered by Kris B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do this, on a piece of paper write 5 things you love about this person, and next to it, 5 things you don't like. Cross out the five things you love. Then, exam each thing you don't like and ask yourself one fundamental question about each one. And that is, can I live with this forever without change? If the answer is yes to all of them, you have a winner.
2007-06-26 21:05:04 · answer #9 · answered by Army Retired Guy 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, since you've got lists and lists of things to discuss, I've only got one suggestion:
Observe how his family and friends react to him. Listen to their praise and complaints. Understand that nothing they complain about is going to change.
How he treats the people in his life will be a good indicator of how he will treat you, and his decision making process.
Good luck.
2007-06-27 00:48:28 · answer #10 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋