I have been seeing this woman for the past 5 months, we met when I was sitting with a friend that was a girl, waiting for others to turn up, and she walked in with friends & came over to our table. I caught sight of her & her of me, our eyes locked and the emotion was intense. I later found out that she was married & had 2 children, there was something about her that I couldn't say no, neither could she.
We started to see each other while she was with her husband, spending nights 2gether in hotels then 1 night we got together, and decided to stay an extra night, we pushed the boundaries & she and I got caught. I think she wanted to get caught!
She decided to leave him, she spent loads of special time with me, falling in love. they got married cause she was pregnant with there first child, and know she has gone bck to him because it better for the kids, but she is truley unhappy, she says it's for a 3 month trail if it doesn't work then she is all mine...what do i do?
2007-06-26 19:45:56 · 20 answers · asked by grandcuemasterflash 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You back away. You can't be so readily accessible if she's really going to try to make her marriage work. If she comes back on her own and is ready to divorce him then you stand a shot.
2007-06-26 19:53:42 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So you are prepared to be 2nd best? Seriously read what you wrote and you will see it just doesn't add up.
She wants to try her marriage and yet if it doesn't work out then wants someone else (you) to pick up the pieces. Honestly.... aren't you feeling a little used? Because you should be. Have you thought about being with her? are you going to take care of her kids or is she going to just walk out? No one wins with affairs and call me stupid if you must but if things aren't going so good that a person can't say no to an affair then why are they with their partner in the first place? Is it just to wait til they think something better comes along like she has with you? Have you heard of being on the rebound? If you be with her after a breakup then you will be her rebound and it will be you who cops it all when she is trying to start again. If this is truly real and the feelings are truly real the the best thing to do would be to tell her she should be by herself for a while to sort herself out THEN start dating.
2007-06-27 03:09:19 · answer #2 · answered by Shazela 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's going back for the kids on a 3 month trial.
This tells me that she still cares for her husband and wants to see if things can be worked out for them. Which is good because of the children.
I'm sorry sir but you messed up by going out with a married woman with children no less. Do you want that hanging over your head for the rest of your life?
I think morally you should move on and leave this family alone even if she still wants to see you.
2007-06-27 03:00:54 · answer #3 · answered by gabeymac♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you need to get over her & get her out of your head.
Do you have the money to become a step father of 2 children?
Do you realize that if she does get a divorce she will still be seeing her ex on a regular basis because of the kids?
He will never be gone from your lives.
What happens in the future when she gets bored with you? After you & her have a child?
When she starts cheating on you in the future & I guarantee she will, she's proving that right now that marriage vows don't mean s h i t to her, what then?
Here's your future if you continue this path: 10yrs. from now
Honey i want a divorce,, you get divorced, she's w/ someone new, you go over to her house to pick up your child & as you're walking up to her NEW front door, you see (the old ex, Mr. 1st Husband) he's also coming by her NEW front door at the same time as you to pick up his kids for the weekend, who USED to be your step children
Are you FREAKING OUT YET??????????
Well you should be !!!!!!!
Think,
don't be STUPID
evaluate your life & your future
Is that where you want to be in 10yrs.?????????
If the answer is YES
Then continue what you're doing, what do I know, I'm just a Y!Answerer
2007-06-27 02:55:59 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Emily1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all you shouldn't have been with her once you found out she was married.
If she truly loved you as much as you say she does she wouldn'd be back with her husband now!She had the chance to walk away, she did then I think she found out how hard life was without her husband aand ran back to him.Do you really want to be second prize?She is making you think she is truly unhappy to make sure you don't find someone else, so if she decides she's bored with her husband she will know your still there waiting for her!
2007-06-27 02:53:54 · answer #5 · answered by *Kelandra* 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dude, forget it. There's millions of single girls out there. Go find a nice one and have a real relationship. This woman needs to straighten out her life before she can be in another relationship. In the meantime you really want to wait for her to leave her husband, and even if she does he will always be in the picture considering the kids and all. She doesn't just have lugage, she's got a whole bagage train. Go find a nice young single woman and be happy.
2007-06-27 02:56:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Affairs suck. Don't be selfish. You never ever once said you loved her. Control yourself and move on. Love will come your way and her way again. But you shouldn't let lust break tear into that family's life. Aren't you a bit young to be having an affair?
And if she's really trying to make her marriage work, temptation (that's you) needs to stay away and she has to stay away from you.
Put the relationship out of your mind and be wise.
2007-06-27 02:57:31 · answer #7 · answered by bite 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you this, something my father told me when I was a teenager. If she has no problems leaving him for you, she will have no problems leaving you for someone else. Think about this too, it affects more then just your life, her life and the life of her husband. It also affects the lives of those children and it isn't fair to them. If their relationship is doomed to fail let it fail without any outside help. When she is free from her marriage because they choose to end it. Then start a relationship with her.
2007-06-27 04:15:58 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs.Crow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard the cliche' "If she'll cheat with you, she'll cheat on you." It's usually true, but maybe in a rare instance, it could work out. If she's not happy with her marriage, she needs to work through that situation first before putting another person (you) into the scenario any moreso than you've already been. Be careful and take your time, cuz these deals usually get very ugly before they ever get better, IF they ever do.
2007-06-27 02:51:27 · answer #9 · answered by classic1957gal 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Listen SHE IS MARRIED move on....you are just asking for heart ache....
Best case ... she does leave her husband and on a very off chance end up in a ltr with you....with you wondering the ENTIRE time if she is doing you just like she did him. Short of the matter if you get you will always remember how you got he and wonder......
Lick your wounds and move on!!!
2007-06-27 17:44:25 · answer #10 · answered by chelebug1973 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BE THE FOOL YOU HAVE BEEN SO FAR AND WAIT!
JUST REALIZE, ANYONE WHO IS MARRIED, SHOULD GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP PRIOR TO SEEING ANYONE ELSE. PERIOD.
THE WAY SHE HAS ALLOWED THINGS TO HAPPEN, IT MAKES HER IN THE CLASS OF CHEATERS....NO MATTER HOW BAD THINGS WERE AT HOME. AND WHAT DO YOU DO WITH YOUR EMOTIONS IF SHE CHOOSES TO STAY HOME...UHM MM BECAUSE OF THE KIDS? YEA RIGHT!
SHE JUST MAY BE LOOKING FOR THAT FOOL TO COME HELP HER 'MAKE IT' AWAY FROM HUBBY.
REALIZE:: IF SHE CHEATED WITH YOU, SHE WILL CHEAT ON YOU TOO.
GOOD LUCK WAITING FOR A MARRIED WOMAN!
2007-06-27 03:27:28 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋