How would you feel if you're 18 year old daughter brought home a new boyfriend who was older than you? This is kind of like the Fred Thompson thing.
2007-06-26 19:41:30 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Check out the question about 45 year olds chasing 18 year old high school students too. Is there really a difference?
2007-07-03 17:47:55 · update #1
It happens! My friend her Dad is older than her grandpa! He actually has a daughter from his 1st marriage that's only about 6mths younger than his wife.... I think its Creepy! BUT that being said that are still together, they have been married about 25 years! He makes her happy and I guess that's all that really matters!
2007-07-02 02:13:21 · answer #1 · answered by MsCrtr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Point 1: Having sex isn't bad. It's a perfectly normal part of a healthy relationship. The only bad thing would be if they did it without using any kind of birth control. Hopefully you've raised your daughter to be more sensible than that. Although if you're referring to sex as 'bad', somehow I doubt that. Which is a shame. Point 2: Just because an 18 year old boy and a 17 year old girl are in a house together, does not mean they are automatically going to have sex. One of them might not find the other attractive in that way. They might both just be happy with simply being friends. He might be gay. Lots of variables here.
2016-05-17 04:35:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't trip... I'm kinda in that situation... Im 21 and my guy is 37 my mother is 38 or 39 (I forget)... But seriously I don't think about our age difference, it doesn't make me see him any different. From the beginning when I told my mother that I liked older men she thought I was in a "phase" i guess it has been a 3 year+ phase...not! Anyway she got all worried and asked questions about why and do i feel as though my daddy wasn't around when I grew up and my answer was no...he was around...anyway if she really likes him, and he shows no signs of harming her, then just let her figure out if that is what she wants... have a talk with the both of them, you'll know by his responses if he is for your daughter or her "goodies" so to speak... so don't go into an massive heartache or anything, just be there for your daughter and dont make her feel like crap for being with someone you dont approve of...
good luck
2007-06-26 20:01:56 · answer #3 · answered by trapped-dyme 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I would talk to my daughter about it privatley and see what is going on..It would feak me out a little but at first you have to step back from the situation and really see it for what it is before jumping to conclusions.
Your daughter should have told you the situation before she brought him home. That is wrong if she didn't even tell you. Then get to know this mo mo and see whats his story then help your daughter make the right decisions. But try to be objective..he could be an alright guy....worse things have happened ya know.
Good luck in whatever happens...
2007-07-04 03:00:16 · answer #4 · answered by Pepper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel like I had let her down some way alone her growing years. That is to many years different.
Marriage is hard road to travel and the age different , would make more problems. As they become older 20 years make a lot of different.
Queen Bee
2007-06-26 19:49:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be pissed. Not so much at my daughter, but at the piss ant she brought home. I would not fail to mention the nerve it took to not only seduce or entertain my daughter, but his audacity to come into my home. Heads would roll. By the way, I'm married to a man who is eleven years older than me. Dating out of your age range is a matter of maturity, and fresh out of high school is just too young. Good luck.
2007-06-26 19:49:53 · answer #6 · answered by munkees81 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Probably just how you are feeling. Your not overreacting if your pissed beyound reason! Stop it now. I dont give a damn if she thinks she is grown, this guys know better and needs to be confronted. Either she breaks it off or you do. Tell her that with no exceptions! Better yet, have a one on one talk with this guy and let him know that you dont care what his intentions are with your daughter the relationship goes no further then where they are. Tell him he is leaving alone and he needs to say goodbye to your daughter for good.
2007-07-04 17:44:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you push to hard, your daughter will resist all the more. So, the best thing to do is be nice, considerate, but don't let the jerk spend the night at your home. Given time the relationship may work but if it doesn't, then you will be there to help her through the hurt.
2007-07-04 17:18:02 · answer #8 · answered by banananose_89117 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is she blind? and you? how do you let this kind of things happened with your daughter..first there is no respect to bring a guy at parents home..second for sure this man want her younger and it give him a fresh breezy air of younger,,and did she think about the future,how she will deal with it in life..did you talk to your daughter to know why this old man..there is something wrong and you need for her some help to open her eyes and see the reality...good luck
2007-07-04 17:39:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's an adult. It wouldn't tickle my pride or anything but I've always told my kids when they are 18, they are free to make the decisions I used to make for them. So far 2 have made it and lived LOL
PS. Kamakazee, yer doomed LOL
PSS. I'm with mranunymuss
2007-06-26 19:45:07 · answer #10 · answered by Army Retired Guy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋