Married 15yrs and she has lost all desire for sex with me or anyone..what to do now?
2007-06-26 19:41:22 · 20 answers · asked by luckycobalt 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
duhn duhn daaan!....the marrige curse strikes again.
2007-06-26 19:55:24 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry. Life is no fun if your spouse isn't up to having sex anymore. Have you tried all the easy stuff like flowers and romancing her like you did when you met? Try this and if that doesn't work try to sit and talk to her delicately and explain to her how you feel. Just choose your words carefully or you may start a fight. Once you do, it may open an avenue so you can talk about how to fix your issues and maybe get some spark back in your bedroom.
2007-06-27 02:46:05 · answer #2 · answered by Raven75 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have u asked her why or what has created this loss of desire?...does she not feel like a sexy goddess when she is around you? have u tried to create a romantic atmosphere? I do know that females want to know that there man finds them to be sensual and irresistable. Have u tried whispering sweet words of love in her ear? Let her know that this loss of desire worries you,and that u 2 should and will do whatever it take to rekindle that passion u two once had. Hope this helps:o) Take care and good luck.
2007-06-27 03:21:15 · answer #3 · answered by Guardian W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 27 yr old and my boyfriend is 30 and I'm having the same problem with him i tell him all the time that i wont marry him because i really get sex now i don't want it to stop all to getter Ive been tempted to get some viagera and put it in his food my luck he would have some kind of reaction to it
2007-06-27 02:57:04 · answer #4 · answered by becki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will she go to counseling? That would be my first suggestion. What reason does she give? Are you positive there isn't anyone else?
Is this something that you can live with the rest of your life? The bible says for a man not to keep himself from his wife and vice-versa lest they look for someone else to satisfy their needs.
Also take her to a female doctor and go in with her. It could be a medical condition that can be treated. I wish you the very best. I've been there.
2007-06-27 02:51:26 · answer #5 · answered by gabeymac♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 28 years and our sex life was pretty darn good for the first 20, but suddenly it hurt like hell when he would enter me, and I have been afraid to go to the doctor because I am scared they will find cancer or something- so we (I) have resigned myself to no sex, he was accepting of this for a while-but now I think he's found some other woman to take care of his needs- it breaks my heart! But I am not blaming him!
2007-06-27 03:03:50 · answer #6 · answered by buffster06 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She should have a medical workup, including thyroid function tests, metabolic panel, hormone levls (FSH, LH, estradiol, progesterone), DHEA-S and cortisol levels. Her symptoms could possibly be related to any number of medical issues.
2007-06-27 06:59:25 · answer #7 · answered by Curry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for 23 years and I have the same predicament. I look forward to your responses.
2007-06-27 02:46:47 · answer #8 · answered by Kevin U 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Romance her!!! Like you did while dating. If this doesn't work tell her how you feel. Please try to be understanding regardless of what she might say. This lack of desire could be caused from anything stress, hormones, or depression. Good luck !
2007-06-27 02:53:41 · answer #9 · answered by redneckcowgirlmo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has lost all desire for sex with you or ANYONE"?
how do you know she isn't out on the prowl right now cheating on you.
Usually when your partner isn't interested in having sex with you anymore it's because they're getting it somewhere else.
You should hire a private investigator right away to have her followed to see if she really is cheating on you.
Finding out if there is infidelity involved will help you out when divorce court comes around,,, and it sounds like it will soon.
sorry
2007-06-27 02:47:51 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Emily1 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
maybe you both should talk to a sex therapist to see if there is anything that can be done. If not you have to see if you can live with her as friends.
2007-06-27 12:20:21 · answer #11 · answered by travelgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋