I have the worst time of my life after?

Question

trusting too much a guy i dated for almost 2 months now. He claims to hate liars but am seeing otherwise. He lied about his true feelings towards me. He just lured me to believe so he can sleep with me and ye we did. Sadly, I have put my body & soul into this but I seem to have met the same old 'playboy' man from mars.
Has it ever occur to you guys that hurting a woman (in particular) can happen the same to your sister?

Ok, now guys & gurls..hit me hard so I stop seeing this man. I hate myself for giving in too soon. I hate sex without love. Say all that you want to say..help me convince myself that I have been used & that i should stop seeing him.

Thank you & will appreciate your opinion.

Posted it here..bcuz I want to hear from the older folks (no offense)(mature ones..i suppose.)

ur right...why should i continue seeing him?infact, I am happy to report that its been 6 days now of ZERO communication & afterall what'uv said I think this is the beginning of an end. God will take care of the rest.

Thank you so much..I feel better with all those words of wisdom shared upon me. Well read & digested them as well. God Bless u All!!

Answer 1

Don't know if this helps, but you're not the first and you won't be the last to make this mistake. The best you can hope for now is to learn from your mistake and not do it again. Make a man earn your trust as well as your intimacy. Too many people will tell you what they think you want to hear for their own selfish reasons. Yes, they are the scum of the earth, but sadly they will always be around. Force yourself to be more suspicious of any man who talks himself up as a great guy without actually proving it by his actions. Take the time to observe his behavior in various situations to prove his worth as a person before giving yourself to him. They're not ALL alike, but, unfortunately, there's a bunch of them that are just like him. They're not worth your time or energy. Kick 'em to the curb before they get the chance to weaken your standards. Good luck to you!

Answer 2

Some of those players can really act. Sometimes it is hard to tell the difference between sincere and a lie. They say what you want to hear and play it just right. Men are not the only ones who do this though lol... Think about the situation, did he push you into it suttlely? Think of it this way, it was a good learning experience as to what you do not want in a guy and this will help you in the future. Now if you truely feel this way, that he used you, then why would you continue to see him? Think about that.

Answer 3

Okay, I'm sorry if I sound like Dr. Phil, but it seems to be true. You are probably attracted to the "wrong" kind of guy. What attracted to you in the first place? Was it his looks and reckless bad boy attitude. A bad boy will continue to be a bad boy once he's your boy.

I know a lot of men (including me) that take great pride in treating a woman with respect. There are a lot of us that can't lie just to get physical. I couldn't do it if I tried. Don't give up!

Examine what kind of man you are getting involved with. You may need to make a change. Although, I have to say that my last relationship was with a woman that was trying to quit dating men that disrespected her....turns out she couldn't be in a honest relationship and really needed whatever it is that "Bad boys" give women. Go figure.

Answer 4

before i got to the bottom of your questions, i knew you were probably under 20.

I felt that way once too. Then I learned what men want. You have to get it out of your head NOW, Life is NOT a fairy tale, the toad doesn't turn into a prince EVER, no knight will be riding a white horse in shining armour.

They lie, schmooze, con you into believing you are better than a double chocloate peanut buttercup sundae w/ extra sprinkles,, just to screw your brains out.

Once that feat has been accomplished, they'll dump you on the side of the road & move on to their next challenge.

OK, i do admit not alllll guys are like this, there are about 3% of guys out there who are not like this.

for your current situation this guy is in the 97percentile.

I'm sorry I don't have a foolproof guide for you, for your life.
Just be careful.

Answer 5

Of course you should stop seeing him. You have told us how he hurt you and disrespected you. You can't change the fact that you slept with him, so learn from this experience and move forward. Find someone that deserves you. You are obviously still young and have a full life to live. Why settle for a jerk when there are so many better options out there?

Answer 6

i agree with you...sex without love...momentary pleasure and can leave you feeling worse? or pregnant or with an std lol

kick the guy to the curb and realize that a guy will hang out for a couple of months just to get you into bed. a bad guy will anyway. get to know him better next time. and dont be drawn to the same kind of guy. good luck dear...sorry for the hit on the head.

Answer 7

old or mature hey i am both. I think you learned all you need from this I can't think of anymore the best thing is to understand for yourself what went wrong and it seems you have a good understanding now.

Answer 8

OK, THAT IS MY AGE GROUP 50 SUMTIN!

HONEY, we all have been duped in life. You need to learn some guidelines in choosing a man to be with. Don't beat up yourself because you are open and honest...YOU JUST DID NOT KNOW WHAT TO LOOK FOR. FORGIVE YOURSELF AND MOVE ON. DON'T DWELL ON LOVE LOST....LOOK FOR LOVE COMING. HOOK UP THAT HAIR/NAILS AND BODY AND WATCH WHO NOTICES. DON'T EVEN TALK TO HIM AGAIN...JUST GIVE ALL THAT ATTENTION TO YOURSELF RIGHT NOW. TALK ON THE PHONE, TAKE LONG BATHS WITH A GOOD BOOK. STAY BUSY HELPING OTHERS THAT NEED YOU AND STUDY THIS::

Answer 9

male here a real man would never do a woman he loved or cared about like that. never let men use you like that . my opion?

Answer 10

as long as you have learned something, you can count it a as lesion in life
next time you will know better and i wish you luck