My Father daily takes drinks and tease my mother and sometimes beats her.my mother is B.A.passed.& a housewife

Question

i want to what my mother should do to get rid of it. Me and my sister are not getting any way. my mother is 42 year old.

Answer 1

Dear son you are too young to indulge in this matrimonial dispute between your parents, you are just in your school & long way to go. Please don't indulge in all these which will definitely affect your future studies & career. As far you mothers agony is concerned the best thing for her to do is to have a very frank talk with your father, telling him how his behavior is spoiling the life of the kids & how this will effect their studies now & career afterwards, your mother can also take help of some good counselor or senior relative of the family to settle this issue amicably. If things don't settle then your mother can take help of the Protection officer of the area where you live , appointed under the Protection of women from domestic violence Act,2005, who can get the matter settled between your parents by conciliation or by getting protection order from the court under the provisions of this Act. As a grown up son you can be a lot of help to your mother in her daily routines & be her good guide in any of her problems if your father is ignoring such matters. Best of Luck for your future.

Answer 2

I know of a similar case in which the housewife joined religious sect of Dhan Dhan Satguru and started chanting Guru Mantra, her husband has reformed totally. There is another organisation called SGI (its roots r in Japan) but centres r in Delhi and NCR, they r a group who solve all problems thru chanting of prayer. Members of the group help u in joint prayer also, attending their meetings etc. is also course of conduct for the members. Now ur mother or u can choose to joint a religious group and get help. It will definitely be solved. I will give u a tip, try and see results - When ur mother comes face to face with ur father, in her mind she should say " X (ur father's name) I forgive u for all ur behaviour" and then keep detached ( say it three times at a stretch) ur father's behaviour will change for better. Do not nag or criticize him in ur thoughts as u r working on this tip. Then feed back for further guidance.

Answer 3

I think take your mom & sister out of town. Don't tell me your dad lives in the house 24 hours. Or starting drinking man

Answer 4

Its in ur mom's hand to stop all this generally women take such stand to save their marriage but since u've mentioned ur dad's behaviour is going beyond control.Your mom should speak up bluntly and since i can see that ur dad must not be that bad only when he drinks he behaves that way so u people speak up to him its not the people who are going to help you its u urselves have to find a solution.Some suggestion to you and ur sister:At this situation you people really have to stand up for ur mom maturely bring confidence in her tell her to do a job even as shez educated well and you people speak to your dad tell him that this aint a good conduct tell them that you love him dearly but only that he has to stop drinking.

Answer 5

thats really sad brother
its in ur mom's had she can do sumthing-she can try speaking 2 him wen he is normal & make him understand the problems b cos of it she can better talk 2 him telling him that his act mit misguide u & ur sis & also try making him understand that it may even disturb ur & ur sis's futher any parent 4 that matter will try stopping such an act
All the best God bless u

Answer 6

when you all are at home on sat night ask your parents with due respect what are they missing in family life and what are their ideas of happy life,also ask them how they are contributing to make thier dreams true.and then you find out what you and your sister are contributing to make your parents happy.
it is easy to walk out but the world out there is not heaven for sure.

Answer 7

call "social services" or a "family counselor" or a priest or pastor in your community & discuss your home life with them & what your father is doing to your mother.

When the kids speak up, the right adult figures will listen & act on it.

Answer 8

your old enough to rent a place & move out with your mom & sisters & leave your dad alone

Answer 9

your mom need to find herself a ne man

Answer 10

it happens wt some of the families but cannot contraol it