Would you marry someone who saved themselves for marriage or would you need to "test the drive" first?

Answer 1

marriage is for keeps, the person is saving themself for someone who will play for keeps with them.

Answer 2

Depends on her age. If she's already in her mid-twenties or older and told me she's still a virgin that would definitely raise some big red flags. First that is so rare today in Western society that I'd suspect she was lying which means I couldn't trust ANYTHING she told me. So then, no, I wouldn't marry a woman I could not trust.

But if she's telling the truth it's even more disturbing because then I'd wonder what her problem is. If she's been avoiding sex this long she must have a reason. And it could mean she'll continue to avoid sex even AFTER she's married.

Maybe she has a medical condition which prevents intercourse. Maybe she has religious and moral hangups she can't get past; she might feel sex is "dirty." Maybe sex doesn't interest her or she's frigid. Perhaps she's lesbian. Perhaps she hates men. Or maybe she's just plain crazy. Whatever her reasons no man wants to get stuck married to a woman with those problems.

No. The lady I marry must be free of sexual hangups and enjoy making love with me. And, yes, that might even include taking some "test drives" to make sure she's what I expect.

P.S.: I'm already spoken for by a beautiful lady. The above response was purely hypothetical.

Answer 3

Here's a bunch of people who "'test the drive' first" and found themselves with children that were born out of wedlock. And those children grow to become teens and adults who don't particularly appreciate the decisions their parents made regarding their life long legacy. Get the point? If you are going to "test the drive," then be prepared to be a supportive parent for the next 18 years at least.

Answer 4

This question, in variations, comes up often. What's wrong with a virgin marriage? Nothing! What's wrong with a non-virgin marriage ? Nothing! In my humble opinion, virginity is a highly overrated condition. We're talking about a physical condition here. If you want to ralk about details, we had a president who decided he hadn't had "sex" with a young lady. Okay, was she still a "virgin"? Was he? Does "virginity" mean no penetration of the vagina by the penis or do we count any kind of penetration by any body part? How far can we experiment and remain "virgins"? How about the mental side of it? Can one remain a "virgin" if one has "gone all the way " in the mind? What about masturbation? Does this nullify virginity? So many questions, so few answers...and, as I say, highly overrated.

Answer 5

Can I kick your tires??? What a thing---I truly think that the world is so full of horrible nastiest because that's all everyone does--is get all they can--besides that --when you are TRULY in love the act of making love is frosting on the cake it completes the two as one--how exciting to have the experience on the first day of the rest of your lives together--anyone who would save themselves for the ONE means to make them their ONLY ONE and that is awesome ---just a thought here---if it were me who had saved myself--I think I would be looking for another with the same values---who wants used goods with word out tires??

Answer 6

Well if you loved the person you would consider it a gift, first husband i saved myself, second husband I tested the car and looked under the hood.

Answer 7

Honestly, I think it would be kind of cool to marry someone with no sexual experience. You can teach them and find out what you both like together explore and , for lack of better words, train them. I know bad choice of words but you get what I am saying.

Answer 8

Now that I'm much older and wiser, definitely do a test run first and make it a long one, this way you get to see everything good and bad before going into marriage. Cheers

Answer 9

they already made the decision for you. they are saving themselves for marriage so you should not try and change what they have tried to save til marriage

Answer 10

I fully respect them for saving themselves. And I would love it if they stayed virgin until after marriage. That is such a rare thing. I dont care to "test drive"... there is no such thing. Just an excuse for horney pigs to have sex without committing.