and now for the past few weeks he acts like he doesnt want to be around me and he is not eating and losing wt and when i ask him if something is wrong he just says leave me alone. is this pulling away normal, this is my only child and I dont know what to think..
2007-06-26 18:39:52 · 9 answers · asked by ? 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
its normal, very. i was the same and worse when i was 15. just let him have his space, but keep an eye on things too. let him know that you around if he needs you and that you are just worried. make him promise to come to you if he needs help. and just let him be. that's all he wants. but sometimes this may not be the case. there could be other problems. you'll just have to keep an eye pit for them.
2007-06-26 19:29:27 · answer #1 · answered by Niky B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of teens go through periods of time when they just wanna be left alone. I know I was like that with my mom at 15. Most of the time they will come around and tell you what's wrong when they're ready. But it seems to me like the not eating part might mean there's something more than just an adolescent mood swing. If he's only been acting this way for a couple of days then you shouldn't worry too much. But if it's been going on for weeks you should really sit him down and tell him your worried about him and that you would really like to have the friendship and openess you guys once shared.
2007-06-26 20:51:58 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he could be doing meth. If he's losing weight, not eating and has become anti-social, it very well could be. Check on who he's been hanging out with (from school, etc.) and get to know that person's parents (so you can compare notes). Also, check for these other sure signs of meth:
a) lighters
b) lights on late at night
c) irritability
d) oversleeping, then waking up & pigging out.
e) money/valuables missing/unaccounted for
f) sweating/oilyness (at night)
g) clenching his jaw excessively
h) wiggling his toes (uncontrollably)
i) lying
Just to name a few...I really hope it is just a case of being a teenager - those akward years. Or maybe he's just feeling ashamed for masterbating and doesn't feel like facing you. Hopefully you can talk him through this hurdle and the two of you can stay close. Whatever you do, don't just ignore the situation. This is such a critical time of his life. You ought to get into some kind of activity with him, even if it is just taking a stroll in the evening together. Anything just to stay close and show you are there for him. Good luck to you and remember-you're the parent-do what you have to do to keep him safe & healthy.
2007-06-27 02:10:00 · answer #3 · answered by gmoney 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Even though it can be quite normal for a teen to pull away from the "nest" so to speak, if this was a sudden as you describe, there probably is something on his mind. I would continue to assure him that you are there for him, and even though you may not like what he reveals, you still love and support him. And if he still does not open up and doesn't seem to be shaking this off, I would try to think of who is a responsible adult that you BOTH trust, and see if maybe that person can get him to open up. Just try to be supportive and reassuring, without putting on too much pressure.
Good Luck!
2007-06-26 19:11:41 · answer #4 · answered by MoonGoddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me as if he may be depressed for some reason and if not treated this could lead to other behaviors. I would take your son to his doctor for a physical and if nothing wrong there have a counselor at school talk to him. He may have been victimized or he may have suffered rejection from a girl. Either way I would make it known that your willing to listen and be there for him as his parent. Just give him a little space and see what happens. But keep in mind depression is best handled if treated.
2007-06-26 23:05:14 · answer #5 · answered by Georgia Preacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might hate it but check him for drugs. It's for the good of both of you..it sounds like that's a possibility.
He could also be going through some depression. I had a pretty bad bought with it myself a few years ago.
Keep your eyes open for signs of cutting and selp depricating behavior.
Chances are he's just a normal 15 year old boy though.
2007-06-26 18:43:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he was rejected by a girl or some other socially crushing thing happened to him. Has he been hanging out with his usual friends? Maybe he's decided to do something that he knows you would disapprove of and he doesn't relish the idea of lying to you. I'd give it more time and look for other clues. You'll pick up on something and then you'll have something specific to ask about.
2007-06-26 19:00:43 · answer #7 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a teenager, your his mom. I do the same thing.If my parents annoy me in the least bit, I tell them to **** off. Don't take it personal.
2007-06-26 18:47:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he has found a girl friend.
2007-06-26 18:44:14 · answer #9 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋