Is there an easier way to move out of an abusive household?

Question

I'm 21 and live with an emotionally, verbally, and financially abusive relative. Therapy/confrontations/all else have failed. I need to move asap before the situation becomes any more unstable and I completely snap. Problem is, I have nearly no money at the moment. I lost a lot in a fire several months ago, had to move back, and somehow fell into the trap of allowing this person to control me again. I need to move out, soon... but how?

My friends are too far away to stay with, so that's out. I could get a well-paying IT job, like I had before the fire, if I could only find an apartment to commute from to go to work, and make money, and pay rent, but I simply can't do it from my current location. Is there a service that could help me? The thought of social workers observing my household terrifies me, because of the backlash I'd get from my relative. I don't have any other relatives I could live with. If I could get a well-paying job, should I take out a loan for initial rent? Help!

Answer 1

First things first. Get out.

Where? Go to the local YMCA/YWCA if you have one. They rent rooms. No kidding! It is safe, can give you time to get on your feet, and then you can rent an apartment. But you get out first!

Other options:

Women's shelter if you are female.
Rent a room in a older woman's home near a college.
Rent a room or share a house with another person -- see ads near colleges.

It's not glamorous, but it will be safe, let you save money, get a job, and get on your feet again!

Good luck!!

Answer 2

There are places that help abused woman. They can help you get back on your feet. Look in the yellow pages or online. There address will not be listed so that you cannot be followed and further abused. Call them immediately and get yourself someplace safe. I'm sure there is a hotline but I don't know what it is.