My son's father wants me to sign an agreement that my son will not ever call anyone else but him father. My son is almost 8 and has always known who is father is, even before he actually met him two years ago. Now I had been married from the time he was 2 until he was 4. He called him dad then I met my daughter's father and he called him by his first name. Now my fiancee has been in his life for almost two years. He loves him so very much as does my fiancee. Is there a legal aspect that could let this actually be put into place?
2007-06-26 18:19:07 · 18 answers · asked by Amy A 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
extra details: My son was not exposed to numerous men. He stayed at my parents when I went out or if my company stayed. My daughters's father he knew and knew his family. As I said I was married before he was 2, my husband left us when he was 3 1/2. He called him dad because that was the only figure he had. As for my daughter's father he was never really around him until I found out I was pregnant and then those visits were very rare. Now he is going to be 8 in a few months. My now fiancee became more involved with us after my car accident when I almost died. He promised my son that he would always be there or us and would protect us. He has yet to break a promise to him. My fiancee lives 3 hours away and still calls everyday to see how he is and to help with problems he has at school that only guys can handle. So please don't think I'm parading men around. Seems if I was there would have been more than two men that he called daddy. He has always known who is real dad is.
2007-06-26 18:45:08 · update #1
You're ex is an idiot who needs to grow up and start thinking about his child more than himself. i went through that with my son.. but after he turned 2 I realized i wanted the best for my son.. and I was secure enough to know that i would never be replaced
2007-06-26 18:21:54 · answer #1 · answered by neverdugdisco 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Very contrary, the court system, as un family oriented as they seem, like the idea of keeping family members ideal...
That means, ( in English) that I won't order anyone to "not call someone dad/mom," nor will I ever tell people to 'not' call someone dad/mom.
These cases have been cliche'd in California Law and without doubt, Senators and Congressmen and Governers have agreed that the calling of 'dad and mom' are invaluable and are part of the free speech that comes with being an American citizen.
You CANNOT take away a child's right to call someone 'dad' or 'mom', no matter what the case may be.
You can look that up under the supreme court laws anytime, and no judge in your area would say anything different....
2007-06-26 18:28:22 · answer #2 · answered by kaliroadrager 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't control what your son decides to call people, especially those who are close to him. He knows who is important in his life and who is not!
I would tell his father that the worst thing he could do is that! That could backfire and cause him to distance himself from his father!
You can't enforce an agreement like that as you don't have a clue as to what he will say. You could also tell him that you will never actively seek for him to call anyone anything, unless he wants!
I would sign nothing as the best case scenario is that he will do what you ask, but will resent you, and his father for it!
You are not an implant in a kids mind!
2007-06-26 18:30:52 · answer #3 · answered by cantcu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes get his father to see a psychotherapist...the only issue here is his insecurity and neurotic controlling behavior....tell him to relax. No one can make his son call anyone father...that child will call whomever he wishes Father...read Marcus Aurelius on this subject and I reiterate get his father some help as he is not well
Seems we may be reading about THE GUY WITH soon. He seems a bit violent and dangerous to children and small animals
2007-06-26 18:23:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
MY step kids call me by my first name. We put this into place because kids only have 1 mum and 1 dad and i think its respectful to the parents to respect these names. I am not anal retentive though, the kids can call me whatever they want, mum, step-mum, Kali and i don't make a fuss either way. I have 2 fulltime kiddies that call me mummy so im not phased :D I call all of my kids "my kids" and dont differenciate them by wether they are biologically my kids or not and thats all that matters to me! :) Wether i gave birth to them or not, i love them as much as i love the other 2 (soon to be 3) and they are my kids!
2016-05-17 04:04:54 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The child gets to choose what he calls people as long as it is respectful.
A judge wouldn't even try to make the child refrain from calling the new man dad or father...but the question is...how many times are you going to disrupt this child's life?
Many women parade dozens of perspective dads in front of the children..the children are developing mental illnesses because nothing is secure to them.
Think of the child not yourself and stop making this child choose between his own dad and some man you dragged in tonight to warm your bed.
2007-06-26 18:27:00 · answer #6 · answered by debbie2243 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, there is nothing legal that can bind you to an agreement of this sort. Your son will chose for himself what to call the men in his life. Dont worry....he is old enough now to know what is going on. Good Luck!
2007-06-26 18:23:10 · answer #7 · answered by helicopterjen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lets see 7almost eight years old. Been through 3 dads because you want to desperately fall in love. You want the all american family but you have to love yourself first. Forget your relationships and focus on your sons seperation anxiety that you probably dont see. After you do that, tell his biological father to go to you know where. Get you together, forget the men.
2007-06-26 18:26:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
dad is jealous my 1/2 sis call her dad by his name so he askd us to call him dad so she will learn to call him dad /but he should not do that to ur son. U should tell him NO bc he is a kid and there is nothing wrong with having a lot of parents that love u n he wasnt even around until recent too-sry bout da writing- my kid asleep in 1 arm.
2007-06-26 18:28:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no it is not legal. your ex may request it. i think if he ever goes into court, the judge will think he is being silly. it is up to your 8 yo son whoever he feel comfortable with and calls them whatever term of endearment. I think your ex is insecure and a tad controlling.
2007-06-26 18:35:06 · answer #10 · answered by llanna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋