Okay....I almost have my Bachelor degree, but I really want to go to medical school to become a doctor.
However....I am not in a huge rush to start....I graduated high school young, so I think I will take a year off between degrees.
Anyway, my husband is in the military, and we are really thinking about having our first baby. I have been wanting one forever, but I am so young and I am finshing my degree, so we put it off for a while. Anyways, we really want to have our first baby while he is in the military because we are settled in our cute apartment, and love where we live, and having a baby while in the military mean hardly no hospital bill.
So, I guess my question is..........do think I am being sensible or stupid.
I know that I will have a child during medical school, and I know that it is going to hard and I will be busy, but I still get summers off, and otherwise I would have a full time job anyway, right?
So, is this possible....any advice?
2007-06-26 18:00:35 · 11 answers · asked by mr.t'smom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
a baby is a very important part in somebodys life,
your never going to realy be ready for it
if you think that you can manage school and a little one, then i say go for it
if you are a motivated person
:) hope this helped
2007-06-26 18:05:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are things you should think about. I am 33 weeks and have had a really hard time with my pregnancy. I took time off from school a long time ago to give myself a break. I had many loses with friends and close ones and thought I needed it. I was really sure that I would go back and now it has been 4 years and still not in school. Now I am having a baby. I really wish I would have stayed in school. I also have an 8 month old old I take care of everyday for 11 hours. I dont see how I could manage my own time to have a full time job right now, It's very hard and time consuming. Has your husband thought about staying in the military for a longer period of time? I think you might be better of to continue with your schooling and let the baby come when it's time. I believe that everything happens for a reason. if you get pregnant awesome, if not then someone thinks it's not your time yet! It depends on your morals and how strong of a person you are and how big of a promise you can make yourself. You are still young and have soooooo much time left. Enjoy your time now and get done what you need to. Stability is so important in your families life and especially for a new baby. I wouldn't worry about the bills because we all have them. If you end up not returning to school you will have a hard time paying them anyways. Just think about the financial status you could have if you complete school or get closer to completion. These are only my views but I hope they help you a little and maybe give you something to think about. Good Luck in what ever you decide to do. Babies are a blessing BUT, they are a lot of work!!!
2007-06-27 01:15:38 · answer #2 · answered by Kathryn D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to take life one day at a time...You have alot of really big plans!! which is great don't get me wrong!
I was in the military and my husband still is. Together we have 3 daughters and I can't think of a better environment to raise them. We both have a very keen sense on the fact that with the many deployments our little world could get rocked. So it's very easy to live in the moment and make sure we are taking everything in. It's the same for everyone. If it's a child that you want, take the time to have one. You could go all the way thru school and something could happen to where you missed your chance on child bearing. Money is great but you can't take it to the grave!
good luck, and remember...You only get this one chance! It's crazy to me to hear people talk like they have all the time in the world!!
2007-06-27 01:22:15 · answer #3 · answered by mandy0230 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One, you wouldn't necessarily have a full-time job, because you might decide to be a stay-at-home mom. So that's one arguement out the door.
Two, I would think that having a child and doing medical school -- plus internships, plus residency, plus whatever specialization you might decide on -- would be hell, especially if your spouse isn't going to be in a position to be totally supportive with child care. It's not impossible, but you have to know that it would be a nightmare, especially once you start on those marathon internships when they work you 30 hours plus at a time.
If you decide to go to med school, you had better make very sure you have fool-proof child care arrangements.
I'm not sure any amount of money that you would save by having a baby while under military insurance would be worth the incredible stress of trying to care for a baby and succeed in medical school. The idea of doing massive amounts of homework while a baby is crying from colic at 2 AM and your husband is deployed for six months gives me the shudders!
2007-06-27 01:10:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO not have a baby yet until you are 200% ready. If it is for practicality and hospital bills, hun if you go to medical school you will be able to afford hospital bills if you wait until you are finished with school. PLease do not have a baby yet.. that is convenience that you want to have the baby, not because it is the right time for you in your life with your goals and objectives. Once you have a baby,believe me, medical school will be put on the backburner for years and probably will never be followed through with. Good luck!
2007-06-27 01:07:18 · answer #5 · answered by katie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will definitely be hard. When you get to your internship, it will be even harder because of the odd and long hours that you will need to be at the hospital. Just remember that you will need someone to care for your child, plus trying to study will be difficult when the child wants attention, is crying, or is ill.
That is a very rough situation, and will take plenty of consideration on your part.
Good Luck with your decision, your schooling, and your career!!
2007-06-27 01:09:26 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to make a choice - doctor or baby -
What makes you think you have summers off in medical school? what are you going to do when you are interning and you have to be at a hospital for 24 hours or more at a time? What if your husband is shipped off?
There is a lot you aren't considering....
2007-06-27 01:05:48 · answer #7 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes if you have the baby it will be rather hard to finish school
Military life isn't that great I spent some time in the Army myself. finish school have a child later.
Besides unless your husband is an officer the pay isn't that much anyway.
2007-06-27 01:05:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it must be hard for you. prioritize, if you think you can have a baby while in a school, then have one. just be sure you dont neglect any of the two. have someone to take care of the baby while youre in school, she must be trustworthy though. many of my friends have children while they are in school, though yours is different because you have to study hard and there are also duties in your internship. and there are times, you fell stresses because at night you need to study but you have to take care of the baby.
2007-06-27 01:12:42 · answer #9 · answered by romzky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that really is something you have to answer for yourself.. it is possible to have your child and go back to school but it will make things more difficult....question is can you pull yourself away from child for long hours of school and loads of school work once you get home.. cause once you have that bundle of joy your gonna want to be there for those first steps , first words, and long hours staying up at night with the bundle of joy is going to make studying harder on youl
2007-06-27 01:06:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋