My Ex and I been together for ten years and have 2 children one is mine biologically. She told me that she wants to be free, that she is not attracted to me, she wants me to find another girlfriend so that i can move on and that she is not in love with me and don't think that she ever really fell in love. She stated that she now sees me as just one of my friends or someone she grew up with and when she get her self together she will eventually start dating other people. She said that she wants to discover herself through relating to other people. She stated she will always like me and have some care for me because i am her childs father. She stated that she can only think about herself and want to do this for her. She stated she wants to know how it feels to be brokenhearted and that she cannot love me the way i love her and that i am a good person and need to find someone that can love me the way i love her. should I move on or should i wait and see if she come back or try to win her?
2007-06-26 17:49:12 · 20 answers · asked by kinetic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
win her back if u want still....read the game by neil strauss...trust me on this one bro. The love has dissappeared light it up with some game..
2007-06-26 18:16:14 · answer #1 · answered by husctla 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feel free to email me because i actually have some questions.
1.) Why should YOU move out?
2.) Does she expect you to pay the rent?
2 1/2) Own a home together?
3.) What about child support?
4.) Married?
Here is my advice.
1.) Get an Attorney
2.) Get custody of your biological child with her. ( I don't know what state your in, non-biological children have different custody criteria in different states for a non biological parent)
3.) Ask that she move out. Unless you have a place like you own the home if so who's name is it in?
4.) Let it go man, trust me, I'm divorced myself have a child I know your in a place that hurts, I went through this.
5.) If you have any questions
pauldarian@gmail.com
2007-06-26 18:01:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you really love her and I am sorry you are experiencing this, but to be honest everyone falls in love and then out of love. She may be going through a phase or she really may mean it and want to move on. In the later, I think you should move on too and start over again. I think you should take sometime off, maybe a year or so and fall in love with yourself. If it is a phase then do things to spice back up the relationship like writng her a poem, try 1 Corinthians 13.
2007-06-26 17:56:40 · answer #3 · answered by jusbnhonest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ten Years? Wow, you never stated how you feel though. I think that's the most important question. Otherwise, no I wouldn't sit around and wait for her to come back. I would either fight if you love her love her, or try dating again. The one is still out there, if she's not it. :) Good Luck. Just know, you are not alone.
2007-06-26 17:53:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, as painful as it is you just have to let her go. You deserve to be Loved by someone who truly Loves you. Try to stay friends with her for the kids sake but you must move on. Ten years is along time to be with someone and I can imagine the pain you are going through. Maybe she will realize what she is losing if you just be her friend,be a good Dad, and give her space. Best of luck to you.
2007-06-26 17:55:28 · answer #5 · answered by Lori O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just to clear the air: Personally, if the relationship didn't end in marriage about 7 years ago, I would have left you. She was more than patient.
If all you said was the gospel truth, let her go. Her reasons were lame and I think she's messed up in the head. Find someone else, then she'll come back --too late.
2007-06-26 17:53:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, but move on! 10 years, 2 kids and no marriage?? I feel bad for the kids that she's so self-centered but from the sound of it, she's already made up her mind. Focus on being a good dad!...sounds like the kids are really going to need it having a mom who wants to act like a teenager :(
2007-06-26 17:57:38 · answer #7 · answered by <3 My RooBear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would move on, you deserve to be with someone who DOES love you!! There are SO many couples who break up and have children and can make it work. There is no point in staying with someone just because you have a child with them, if there is not love.
2007-06-26 17:56:04 · answer #8 · answered by pablosgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she knows what she wants and doesnt want. She honestly does want YOU to find someone that will be able to love you as much , if not more, than how you love her. She will always love you as you are her childs father, but in her heart and soul..she doesn't see You in her life as her husband/partner. Unfortunately, as much as that hurts you..if it's not meant to be..then you need to move on and find that special someone that will love you back just as much as the love you have for them.
You will Always be in your childs life....and that's awsome*, but you do need to accept her decision and move on with your life, find that Special One For You*...remain friends with her and always keep your son in your life* BEST WISHES* :)
2007-06-26 17:56:00 · answer #9 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to move on. dont wait for her. if she's really yours, she will come back eventually. Sometimes, your great love doesnt usually the one you end up with. i dont know why. its just that. see friends, attend parties, or keep busy at work. but dont hurry up. i know, grieving is a long process. have someone to talk to, to vent your feelings. if you think you cant go on without her, see a counselor. it must be hurting you, but she said what she wanted. respct her decision and you must realy go on.
2007-06-26 17:58:16 · answer #10 · answered by romzky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋