I always tend to be mean to people I like the most. I always tend to lie to them to make myself feel needed or wanted. I jsut would like to know if this is something I should talk to someone professional about[I phrased taht wrong but I hope you understand] I try hard to keep from being to stupid because I feel like I have to act. Up I get jealous easily and I think that is part of it.... Can anyone help.. Do you have any ideas to keep me from doing this
2007-06-26 17:32:07 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Your mean to people you like: Your pushing them away
You want to feel needed though: You need stability.
i Do suggest that you seek the help of a professional, Maybe a counselor or a therapist, and be open and honest, the fact that you are seeing your self , and being honest with you , IS very brave! That's what most of us struggle with in life "self reflection"
It seems to me like it may just be your self esteem, work on YOU , who you are , what do you have to offer the world!
I'm going to suggest something you may thin k is Korney, but if you can please try it...
Work with animals (volunteer work) reason being they don't care who you are, what you do , or look like they just need love.. they Will love and need you unconditionally, try your local shelters, this will be great for you! You may also want to try, giving sometime to the elderly, elderly homes too NEED volunteers they are SO lonely they just want someone to tell stories to , or to be read to , or walked with , whatever, also unconditional , and there years and wisdom can give you some great insight.. You will grow out of this people pleasing, or pretending stage , and I'm sure there is great person under the act!!!! Be your self , BUT first find yourself...
Good luck!!!
2007-06-26 18:43:08 · answer #1 · answered by Magic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possibly it's because of a couple of things.
1. You probably don't want people to get to close to you. If you let them in close they may hurt your feelings.
2. Maybe you don't feel needed on wanted and that way you feel the need to lie to get people to see you as their hero.
Stop and try to figure out why your are upset before lashing out at people. I hope that helps.
2007-06-27 00:42:58 · answer #2 · answered by Talon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you really need to do a self inventory. It wouldn't hurt to speak with a professional. There may be issues in your past that you haven't let go of. Just remember that the people who matter don;t mind and the people who mind don't matter. It may help to get some positive feedback from close friends and family they may see things that we don't
2007-06-27 01:23:34 · answer #3 · answered by lalonihampton 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try this... you are not the center of attention. sometimes when your out of the lime light you actually get more attention. seems to me that you are an attenion leech and a selfish girl who can't determine what is more important, friendship or the spot light. get some help.
2007-06-27 00:47:01 · answer #4 · answered by alice in wonderland 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
sounds as if you just want to be the center of attention, no matter if it is good or bad
2007-06-30 19:00:45 · answer #5 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just who you are don't worry about it too much
2007-06-27 01:01:30 · answer #6 · answered by imnickdell 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋