husband divorced me 10 mon. ago ,now wants me back cause dr giving him 3 months to live should I go back?

Question

been to his dr he did chemo 1yr now dr says nothing more he can do for him. I dont believe he will make it 3 months,hes down to 100 lbs now stays for sick all the time,says he asked for divorve because of the cancer, didnt tell me about th cancer until 3 months after the divorce, still love him but very angery because I was his wfe and he kept it from me.wants me to remarry him and will make thing right and see that I am took care of afterwards,can care for myself, have mixed feelings about remarrying but yet want to care for him

Answer 1

It sounds like he divorced you in order to prevent you from hurting. Although, he should have told you, I am sure he had good intentions. He says that he loves you and it sounds like you still love him. I guess you have to decide what will make you happy. Once he is gone will you be happier knowing you spent the little time he has left together or apart? Don't let your anger, caused by his secret, keep you from loving him now. You only have a little time left to forgive him. Do what you think will bring you peace. Sometimes it is an experience like this that makes people realize what is important. He obviously felt that what is most important in his life is you.

Answer 2

sounds like you still have feelings for him. If you dont' wish to remarry him then don't but do take care of him for the amount of time he has left and bring him some join in all the pain he is most likely in. at the same time you can tell him what he really means to you and him you. and get everything out. you know i have heard alot of people say if only i knew this or that person was dying i would have said this or that or goodbye. what ever your case is this is a good opportunity to come together sorry for the sad event but make the last days positive ones. and when he is gone I hope you feel less hurt and more comforted in knowing he loved you.

God bless.

Answer 3

Whether it is true or not, he divorced you. There must have been a reason for this. Anyway, just because a doctor says he will be gone in three months, doesn't mean he will be. Doctors get it wrong all the time.

You need to decide that, if he were to live longer than that, would the two of you stay together? And are you wanting him back after what he did to you? If you really think that he wouldn't up and leave you if he were to live, and if you two want to reconcile, then I say go for it. But if you have any doubts or don't want to pursue this relationship, then tell him you will be there for him in his hour of need, but that the two of you are over.

Answer 4

I would ask do you still love him? And if the answer is yes and he only has 3 months to live , why not? Why wouldnt' you if you love the man and you soon will never see him again if he passes away? Do you know that God can heal cancer? Get into a bible and faith based church. I have heard stories of marriages being restored and stories of people getting healed from terminal cancer . What have you got to lose but someone you care about right? Try an assembly of God church. They are big on faith and I can tell you that faith is a healing medicine! I believe that God can and will not only restore your broken marriage , but also can and will heal your husband. Just believe in faith and read his promises. God bless you and I will be praying for your situation.

Answer 5

No. nor should be allowed to play these emotional games with you even if they maybe true. How very selfish of him as he was the one that divorced you. Do you know for sure that the doctor has said this?, or could he be using it to get back with you?. There's an old say to always move forward in life, because going back to what was will never work out. Only you can make the final decision. Cheers and good luck.

Answer 6

Do what will make you happy and not him. He made his choice when he asked for a divorce instead of letting you decide when he found out he had cancer. Stress will make us do stupid things and the decisions we make aren't the best at that time. If you still love him then it is up to you how you think you can cope with his illness. He should have gave you more credit before he asked for a divorce. I wish you a lot of luck, because I sure wouldn't want to have to make the decision your facing right now.

Answer 7

I would say, give the poor man his wish....If YOU want to. I would be hesitant to legally get back with him, unless there's some kind of financial and legal reason to do it.

I would say, spending your time with him is what he wants. I would think there might be some issues with intimacy. If you are not comfortable with that...tell him right out. You can spend time and ease his journey, but don't give up anything you aren't comfortable with. I'm sure you feel sorry for him, but that doesn't mean you should give in on what you feel. You are going to live on and will have to live with your decisions.

It's okay to be firm with what you want and what you don't want. This is like a new relationship with him, so it won't be just like it was.

Answer 8

I think the 2 of you should casually see each other and see where that leads. If he is dying - wouldn't you rather be on level terms and not forced into a relationship you may not want. This will be the last 3 months he will have and you both should spend your time together wisely.

Answer 9

Would he take care of you if the shoe was on the other foot? Also I would talk to his doctor and find out if everything is on the up and up, hate to think someone would say they were dying just to get wife back but in this day and time you never can tell and people do alot of things to get what they want.

Answer 10

How long were you married? Do you still love him or do you hate him for divorcing you? I don't think you owe him anything either way since he divorced you. But if you still have feelings for him due to spending many years together, then maybe you can make his passing a little easier. I dont know what I would do if it were my ex husband. I think I would help him.