To all single parent out there...........?

Question

Have you lost faith in marriage?

Have you ever felt that you'll never going to settle down again...not after what you've been through...

Is it hard to find the one that will love you for who you are and accept your children as their own?

Let alone romance? is it obtainable?

Just wanna know what's your opinion..feel free to share your experience and i'll tell you mine and why i feel this way...

Thanks...for sharing your thoughts...

It's actually not all bad about myself being single, i'm kind of enjoying every moment of it.....

but there will come some emotional breakdown moment when seeing other's happy being with someone...i do ask myself....why can't i have that, i'm not all bad...

i was married to my school sweetheart when i was 19, divorced 24, have 3 daughters..i really fight for the custody..

I'm 31 and in a good career now and can afford a decent house, a car, good education for the kids...all by myself.

my point is that i dont need a man for my financial needs..why do people always think that way?

I did meet a few men but didn't think it's quite right yet...so i have yet to settle...

i guess i'm afraid of being hurt again...and never really open my heart...after all..

I wish all of you with a similar condition the best...and lemme know if something good come up..ok

Answer 1

I feel that I will never settle down again as it is hard to find a man who is willing to accept the fact that I have kids and they do come first. They also take a lot of my time. I think it is obtainable just not while my kids are young. Although I get lonely I keep my mind off of it by concentrating on my job and kids. So many guys are just not ready to take on someone with kids. I figure I dont want back in a relationship like I have had in the past so I am going to be single for a while as I will not put up with someone who doesnt accept my kids and treat them as they would there own.

Answer 2

My ex husband decided that he was not ready to be a father when my son was 3 months old. He was a little late on that one. There were a multitude of reasons I took my son and ran home to my Mom. I was 29 at the time. I remember at the time a feeling that I would never allow anyone close enough to hurt me or my son ever again. I had a very low self esteem, partially because it had taken a heck of a beating from my ex. I did not feel worthy of a decent man or lovable at all. My ONLY concern was my son. I dated several men, but none were nearly right for us--me and my son. Then when my son was 20 months old I met the most wonderful, kind, caring and handsome to boot, man. He was kind to my son and really was interested in him. When he asked me to marry him he also at that moment asked to be my son's father. After 2 years of marriage it happened he adopted my son and made him ours. We now have 2 sons and we laugh when people say our oldest looks just like my husband. It has not been easy, mostly because I carried so much baggage into our relationship. After 7 1/2 years we are even more in love now. I often shudder when I think what life would have been like to have stayed with the ex. True love is obtainable.
Peace.

Answer 3

wow,you girls are really tragic! im the single parent of seven woman,divorced,separated,and a widower,twice! along the way i learned,theres no perfect man,at least one thing will bother the hell out of you!unless you are willing to lower your standards,forgive,forgive and keep forgiving,it wont last long.for me,i searched for not only a lover but a male parent figure,a bussines partner,a listener,a friend,and someone as responsible or more than me.and because im not willing to lower my standards or keep forgiving acts that i would not even think to commit,im alone,and deffictly will stay alone.raising my daughters in an enviroment uncontaminated by so many things a mess up relationship brings in to the household makes me feel trully happy with myself.i have soon to be three college grads.but also first generation. I DO BELIEVE IN MARITAL LOVE, I JUST DONT BELIEVE IS FOR EVERYONE.

Answer 4

My thoughts...
I wonder if happiness really exists. Is it just an illusion, or is it meant only for a special few? Is there really someone out there that will break down the walls built around my heart,,someone that will heal wounds of my broken heart? Someone to walk beside me in life, and pick me up out of this dungeon of darkness and emptyness? I don't believe so.

Answer 5

I have lost faith in love, marriage, and men.

Maybe is is obtainable for others but not for me.

Answer 6

you will have romance again- and you will realize that your life is not just "caretaking" for your children.

It will be about you again- just go one day at a time.