Do you believe that most men would have an affair if the circumstances were right?

Question

Say he's really attracted to a woman and is in a position where he's spending more time with her. His marriage has been going through some ups and downs, and he's dissatisfied with important components of it - sex, emotional support. I've always figured that I'd be married by my early 20's, but now I'm kind of glad I'm not because of so many marriages I've seen fall apart from cheating (from the men, though I know women cheat too). I found out one of my old friend's parents divorced after 20-some years of marriage. They always seemed like the perfect couple to me, happy and suited for one another. The marriage broke up after an affair. I often hear people say that most men cheat - it's in their blood to not be monogomous. I'm not sure if I believe this, but as a young woman, I've had several married men come onto me. I've also worked w/someone that was the other woman, and she was intelligent, kind, just an average woman - you'd never suspect. Is this something everyone's doing?

Wow, some of you have some misogynistic views - why should women shoulder the blame for the husband's cheating? How can someone be driven to cheat - there are other options, like divorce for one.

"If women did not pose for porn, dance for strip clubs and sell their azzz on the street and walk away from the married men ..."

Uh, way to generalize. How many women do that? I don't know one that does, personally. I don't understand the "walking away from married men" comment. Wives should walk away if the marriage isn't working - I think that's the admirable thing to do. Too many wives stay with men who don't deserve them.

Answer 1

Everyone is not doing it, however if the opportunity and chemistry are right most if not all will*... That type of temptation is difficult to overcome*...

Answer 2

My husband is very attractive, loves women, and is in the entertainment industry. Naturally, I have been VERY concerned, at times...for the very same reasons you have listed. It's only human, right?! :-)

We have a wonderful relationship, great sex, talk all the time, lots of humor, etc. We were good friends long before we decided to marry.

One time, when he was going out of town, which he has to do, I asked him the big question!! "Are you ever tempted by all the pretty women you are around...please tell me the truth!" Here was his response. "I love you...you are my life...I would rather be stabbed in the stomach (eek!) than step out on you! Why would I want to risk the only great relationship I have ever had for a one night stand?!"

We have been married for ten years and we have to work at it, no doubt, but I trust my husband. I look in his eyes and I still see the love there. A woman can see, in a man's eyes, if things are changing.

I guess, bottom line, it is possible to find a man who doesn't cheat. It takes two people who really want to be in a loving relationship and are willing to 'stay focused' to make it work.

Answer 3

It would be very difficult for a man to cheat if women would set higher standards on a relationship. They coudn't do it so easily if women could just respect one another. We cause all this hell on ourselves.......If women did not pose for porn, dance for strip clubs and sell their azzz on the street and walk away from the married men ...women could get the respect and proper attention that as women we deserve. As long as some of us allow ourselves to be sex objects that is all we will be to most men. They couldn't do to much of anything if women were taught and practiced strong morals and held out! We are the ones running the candy stores.

Answer 4

alot of couples cheat on each other but I never put up with that...thats not a good relationship at all. what partner really wants to sleep side by side the other knowing that they have made love to someone else...not me--as for guys having an affair--most guys do that---it just takes one nice sexy lady to come up to them in the bar and start flirting with them, few more drinks and away they go and now with so much drugs out there they blame it on either one or the other BUT NOT ALL MEN DO THINGS LIKE THAT....I strongly belive there are some good guys out there just the same as there some good ladies out there as well...you really need to have open communication going from day one..

Answer 5

Anyone would have an affair if the conditions were just right. That aside, I did read a poll that said more women cheated than men in the U.S. (I'm Canadian). If someone cheats (man or woman) it would indicate to me that they have lttle respect for who they cheated on since it involves deceit and lying. You don't do those things to people you care about.

In the modern age, there is such a big chance of sexually transmitted disease that are potentially deadly (HIV, AIDS, Hepatitus C) that the cheater also disregards the physical well being of their partner.

Answer 6

Marriages take alot of work and understanding of each other. He should get a divorce first. If they have children, see a counselor. It sounds like they need to communicate more. To me, most men and women both would cheat if they were unhappy in their marriage.

Answer 7

Men are typically happy in marriage, as long as their wives treat them right. As soon as he's not happy, watch out.

Couples can seem happy on the outside, but you never know what's really going on with a couple. Woman typically are complainers and whiners, and many times not very supportive of their husbands. When you suspect that a man is looking elsewhere, look at the way his woman treats him.

Answer 8

Only the most stupid and suicidal of us. With the way divorce reams us a new one most men tend to think with the head on their shoulders. Every guy is different but if you put your schwantz on a bear trap don't cry when it snaps it off.


Vin

PS. apply this to you, it's a lot easier for women to cheat then men. your a babe guys are yours. would you cheat if you had the chance, say you and your friends crashed a frat party??

Answer 9

I don't think everyone does it, but there are a lot of sick men out there who do it, but the sad part is the wife doesn't do anything about it! I think some men cheat just to see if they can get away with it and it is the thrill of the chase. Men want what they can't (shouldn't) have.

Answer 10

People cheat period. It's not just men. I have never been faithful to any my boyfriends NOR to my fiance. Sometimes we get bored, sometimes we THINK we've found something better, and sometimes we have more things in common with other people. Things happen over time! Cheating is not all about sex either; an emotional relationship can sometimes be stronger than a physical connection. So, there you have it, both genders cheat, woman are just better at it and don't get caught! ; )

Answer 11

While it is true that women are genetically hard-wired to tend towards monogamy (for child nuturing reasons), and men are not (for a bigger gene pool).

That's nature.

However, it is also true that nature is what we put on this Earth to rise above.

The hard-wired theory is not an excuse for unfaithful men, and it is certainly no excuse for the "all men are pigs" argument I sometimes see in Yahoo Answers.