My ex-boyfriend and me went out for over 2 years. It was a very rocky relationship but we worked through it. But it finally ended with a very ugly breakup and I saw him with another girl about two weeks later. We have not talked ever since and It has now been about a year. I want to know if I should call him so I can be at peace with my past and also get closure. Is it a good idea to contact him and be able to say hello when running into eachoter or is there anyother way I could get the closure I need??? thanks FYI he is still with the same girl he was right after we broke up and she was the main reason why we broke up.
Should I contact him???
2007-06-26 13:46:14 · 5 answers · asked by truth 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes, you need to get closure. But only if you are over your anger. I have had many breakups in my life (but none for the last 41 yrs). It is really fun to run into an old flame and chat a while. What ever happened to....? Did you ever....? How's your parents? Did your brother ever...? etc. And, my wife of 41 yrs also enjoys meeting them. I enjoy meeting her exes. We all have a past that makes us part of who we are today. Someday, in the future, you will will be glad you contacted him. I preached this same sermon to my kids, and they all have been pretty good about getting closure. My daughter still has trouble talking to one guy, but she can be civil with him, and she likes his wife.
2007-06-26 14:06:08 · answer #1 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of closure do you think you need? In your mind, what's missing? You CAN move on without having a dramatic "I need closure" discussion. Just decide to do it. Go out with friends. Ask someone else out. And when you run into him next time, simply offer him a smile and a "Hi, how are you doing?", have a short pleasant conversation, and that's it.
Be the bigger person. It gets easier as time goes by.
2007-06-26 20:58:56 · answer #2 · answered by TLH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't contact him. You need to pursue closure on your own. You have all of the information that you are ever going to get. Contacting him will likely bring you further away from closure.
You can decide to be friendly with him if you should happen meet him on the street again.
I'm sorry this happened to you. I would only contact him if there is something you need to find out about why it all happened. However, I doubt you will get real information from him at this point.
2007-06-26 20:56:31 · answer #3 · answered by ∞ sky3000 ∞ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. you need to find closure without seeing him. since it was such a bad breakup, it should've been easier for you to have gotten over him, but since it's not...you need to find something. Have you thought about dating someone else? if he's with someone else--he's reached closure about it. Time for you too, girl.
good luck!
2007-06-26 20:49:29 · answer #4 · answered by Froggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't need closure doll..you just need to get on with your life and forget him...it seems he hasn't been thinking about you so why should you waste your time and life thinking about him...yes it may be hard to forget the 2 years you had together but life goes on doll....so pick yourself up..dust yourself down..and start afresh :)
2007-06-26 21:13:03 · answer #5 · answered by madge w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋