Can LOVE be LEARNED?

Question

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is Love a Mechanism, a Tendency, or a capacity?

Answer 1

I think ALL love is learned. Lust is a mechanism, it's how love starts and begins to work and develop; it's a tendency, an inclination towards what could be love, and a capacity, a realization that you may be capable of feeling more towards someone.

Real love though has more to do with what occurs after this stormy notion of lust calms. It involves much more than lust. It's steadfast, it's commitment through all of lives stuggles, it's practical, it's give and take, "working through". You can't really love someone you don't really know inside and out. And, this takes time and experience with a mate.

I think love is much, much more than a mechanism, tendency, or capacity. But, hey, just my 2 cents :-). I'm interested to see how others will answer...cool question :-).

Answer 2

Learning love is the only way to go. Love learned grows ever stronger. But I reckon it's a capacity. It requires dispensing with masks and walls, and most people find that difficult. I suppose the nearest thing to it, as a mechanism, would be lust - a great beginning but a sorry end. I've known people with the tendency to what they thought was falling in love - but I think it was only need.

Answer 3

Sure! How do you think all of those people in arranged marriages got along for so many years? Arranged marriages actually had a better success rate than modern marriages do, go figgur! I would say that love is a possibility if you are open to it, a Mechanism if you are nineteen years old and looking to marry a ninety year old oil baron, a tendency if you are in close proximity to someone and don't outright hate their guts to begin with (Remember that those pheromones have something to say about this as well!) and a capacity as long as you remember that love isn't so much like a water tower, more like a river. If it don't flow in and out, it gets crusty and green slimy things start to grow in it!

Answer 4

Yes, i think love can be learned...because we all have the capacity inside us to feel it, sometimes we just need something....or someone to awaken those dormant feelings in us....


Love is an emotion and yes in a way, i guess you could call it a tendency...because if you find the right person,...the person you´ve been looking for your whole life....then you are very likely to tend to fall in love with them....and yes love is also a capacity....because you can love on different levels, in different ways....however love is not a mechanism....lust could be seen as one, but not love, love is complicated and far more deep and special to ever categorize as a mechanism. This is just my opinion, though. :)

Answer 5

If it's a Mechanism it can be triggered
if it's a Tendency it can be nurtured
if it's a Capacity it can be enlarged
YES...

Answer 6

LOVE...
it is a simple word eh?
Well...can Love be learned?
Really?
Maybe YES.
Maybe NO.
Let's see. When one does love...they have learned to love. But they haven't really taken a class and passed an exam. They've just learned by looking into that other person's eyes and seeing right into their heart. So...in the proper light...LOVE can be learned. And in a certain sense...LOVE can not be learning.
Is LOVE a mechanism?
Maybe yes.
Maybe no.
It does keep us going in moments of sadness.
It puts a smile on our faces.
And it brightens us completely.
But it's not a machine or anthing...it's just there. An essence the you can feel.
So is it a mechanism...? In the proper light....yes. In a certain sense...no.
I Love a tendency?
Well...you do want to be with your loved one. You do want to do things for them. You do want to be loved and love.
But it's not like you 'HAVE' to...., you know what I mean...it's not like infactuation. You WANT to. Not HAVE to.
Is love a capacity?
Maybe YES.
Maybe NO.
Let's see...you love a person SO MUCH. You love them TOO MUCH. You love them MORE THAN THE UNIVERSE EXTENDS.
But...can loved be measured? Not really.... No.
So, in the proper lighting...love is a capacity...yes. But in a certain sense...it is not a capacity at all...NO.

Answer 7

Probably all of the above. But, yes, in a sense, love can be learned. In olden days, even in the U. S., marriages were arranged by the parents of bride and groom. Sometimes the couple never even met before the wedding.
Many of these couple learned to love each other.
After all, the modern idea of "falling in love" doesn't last long. Look at all the divorces. I believe that many people are in love with love; they tend to be in love when things are rosy. But, when they are behind on paying bills, they are tired and the baby wakes them up, needing a change or a bottle, well people tend to not be so loving.
It works on a person. It tends to grow on you.

Answer 8

A capacity

Answer 9

Love is a tendency. A feeling that all humans possess thats intuitive and basically like your primordial instincts. Learning how to love makes it sound technical and forced. I believe we fall in love without conscientiousness of the action.

Answer 10

I do not think that Love can be learned, because it is a feeling that engulfs you when you feel that attraction, when you meet the girl/boy of your dreams. I think that Love is a capacity.