how important is marriage when u r in love because i really want to marry my love but am still a little scared because it is a very large commitment.....
2007-06-26 12:45:12 · 18 answers · asked by Kimmy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Only get married when the two of you really understand what it means to be committed and how to work out troubles in a marriage. It is a big step and one that is big as becoming a parent is. It is always a wonderful experience IF the two of you work together at it everyday...it does take two to marry but only one to decide to divorce. I know this because of how I was raised. But my ex-husband decided in the end he did not want to be married anymore but I will never know why and it made me wonder if he ever really knew what being married meant...it is forever...the way I was raised. In sickness, and in health, forsaking all others, cleave only unto him/her, until death do you part. It means staying with your love no matter what comes your way and backing them to the utter end of the troubles and enjoying with them all the good things as well.
GOOD LUCK!!
2007-06-26 12:51:36 · answer #1 · answered by taljalea 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a large commitment, but sweetie, it can also be a great thing. But, remember, you will be promising to stay with this man for the rest of your life. Many people forget this and get caught up with the fantasy of wearing that blazing white dress and the reception and that fabulous day, but it only lasts a day. After that, it's back to reality and talking to your husband about the future. It's takes a lot of effort to keep a good relationship. You can make it a beautiful marriage. If you're absolutely ready, and it sounds like you are, go for it!
2007-06-26 20:11:58 · answer #2 · answered by Kimberly C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a huge commitment, and it should not be taken lightly. Don't get married until you are sure you are ready for that lifetime decision. There is nothing wrong with waiting, and we all still feel a bit scared at times. But when my husband and I got together, I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that he was the one I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, and I wanted to get started as soon as possible. He is literally the man I cannot live without. I had been engaged before, but never felt so sure of anything in my life. In fact, I canceled my first engagement because I honestly could not see myself with him forever.
2007-06-26 19:55:23 · answer #3 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are scared of such a large committment is normal. Getting married IS a huge step. The only thing I can suggest is you ask yourself "Do I love this man enough to still see myself with him, when we are both old and grey?" and "Am I ready to make the changes in my life, in order to be half of a married couple?"
If the answer to both is yes, then you are ready. If the answer is no to either or both, then it is time to take a step back, and re-eveluate the situation.
Only you can truely decide if you are ready. Take the time you feel you need to make the right choice.
2007-06-26 19:56:12 · answer #4 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You married to him so that NOBODY can have him if you know how to handle a man. You have a lot of benefits. And you are good in the eyes of the people and to God.
You are scared if you depend on him all the time. Be sure you can stand by your own feet incase he will leave you. And take care of your heart if he broke it.
2007-06-26 20:09:40 · answer #5 · answered by Seph2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always scary to think that you are going to be committed to just one person but if you truly love someone and they love you the same in return, than it has to be right. You are only showing that you promise to love that person just as you are now. You are telling that person that you are my life's witness and I am yours. There is nothing wrong with wanting to share everything you do, everything you say and everything you dream with someone. Good Luck!!!
2007-06-26 19:49:50 · answer #6 · answered by !~!~Edward~!~! 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if you look way way into the past marriage was a way to say the the women belong to the men by taking on their last name. Nowadays Marriage to me is only a piece of paper. If depends on how you view marriage.
2007-06-26 19:48:23 · answer #7 · answered by tjnw79 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage isnt right for everyone, and you shouldn;tfeel compelled to get married just to do it. If you find the right person, then yes, But really know them first.
2007-06-26 19:47:52 · answer #8 · answered by N/A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are ready and meet the right person yes you know the commitment is good for you in a long run because two incomes is better than one later when you have jobs trouble at least you have you husband to stand by you while you're looking for another job.
2007-06-26 19:49:38 · answer #9 · answered by @NGEL B@BY 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't get married if you are unsure because it will not work. Make sure this man is everything and more. Once you do get married you have to do everything in your power to make it work..
2007-06-26 19:56:41 · answer #10 · answered by Alisha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋