okay well its a long story short but mmm well. im pregant and im 16 and the whole thing is that i was at a party and someone put somethng in my drink and i didnt know.. and the thing is i wasnt drinking. i was drinking punch and someone put something in my drink at my cuzins party. and well im one month along... and i have a bf and i tried telling my bf he didnt take it well. he was like once a cheater always a cheater.. and i was like well i didnt cheat i swear someone put something in my drink.. and then he was lke we're over... and i was like im just kidding im not pregant... cuz i dont want to lose him. then he was like then what is the big news? and i made up an excuse! how do i tell him? but im getting abortation.... only my sister knows.. i dont want to give up my baby but i have too becuz well you know im 16... its not my fault... but my question is how do i tell my bf or do i tell him? and should i give up my baby?
2007-06-26 12:38:02 · 37 answers · asked by ilove you 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Being pregnant at 16 is tough but please dont have an abortion. Your boyfriend isn't worth an abortion. Trust me, your only 16, he's not going to be the one your marrying. He's just a guy your dating right now, you shouldn't take a life for some boy. I cant stress this enough, HE'S NOT WORTH IT!!! Please keep this baby, your family will be there for you and the baby, not this so-called boyfriend. If your unable to keep the baby, put it up for adoption. Hope you make the right choice.
2007-06-26 12:43:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
If he doesn't believe that you didn't cheat then he's probably not worth it. You shouldn't have to lie to your boyfriend about not being pregnant because someone put something in your drink. If you really want to have the baby, but don't think you can take care of it, then put it up for adoption. If you have an abortion without your bf knowing, do you think he will never find out, or what? If he does, the chances of you staying together are very slim. So do what you want to do, not what you think is going to make HIM happy.
2007-06-26 13:07:29 · answer #2 · answered by Britni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT abort the baby. Listen honey, you will regret that for the rest of your life. Women who have abortions are usually really physiologically affected. If your boyfriend truly doesn't beleive you then you were not meant to be together. I know you don't want to here this but most relationships with 16 year olds don't last. You need to tell your parents. If you are afraid get your sister and cousin to go with you when you tell them. There are other options that abortion. If you don't want to raise the baby the put it up for adoption. There are alot of great parents out there who want a baby and can't have one. You are VERY correct. It is not your fault. Talk to your parents.
2007-06-26 12:44:10 · answer #3 · answered by Jess ╗╙ 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to get an abortion. if you do you will regret it for the rest of your life if you really want to keep it then you can make it work. i got pregnant at 17 and everyone supported me and now i have a beautiful baby boy, but im still with the father. but that should stop you. and if you feel that you cant take care of the baby. have an open adoption so that you can still see the baby and get updates and the baby can know you as its birth mother and the other mom as the mom who is raising him/her. And that you can still be in the babies life.
2007-06-26 16:04:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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You could still have the child and arrange for adoption. Many who would love to adopt a child and pay your medical expenses or you can buckle down and get a job and go to school. It will be hard but is done all the time.
Make a way for you and baby.
Secondly stay away from parties and don't drink anything anymore if you go to parties.
If your BF can't handle it then let it go. It is really a big deal for such a young guy to handle. I can't say I blame him.
2007-06-26 12:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by Stormchaser 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i got pregnant at 15 and now i am 19 i decided to have my baby and my boyfriend stay with me, u should really find out if this guy really loves u a baby at such a young age changes everything. its been really easy 4 me because of the support of my parents and boyfriend but i meen if your guy dosnt supports u in this and wants nothing 2 do with this i think u should really think what u want, a single 16 year old with a baby is not right, u r young live ur life 2 the fullest or u will regret it trust me i think u shouldnt raise a kid on ur own think of it this way, u will meet other guys and maybe love on of them, u never now how they would treat ur baby its better to have a baby with the person u planned to spend the rest of ur life
2007-06-26 21:12:27 · answer #6 · answered by juana m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately i have been in a similar situation but i didnt fall pregnant.
i was at my boyfriends party in a house he shared with some other people.
i had a few drinks but not enough to pass out and i woke up crying to 30 people in my b/f's room and some guy on top of me he had actually hurt me thats why i was crying, my b/f hit him and it turned out that the guy was the cousin of the girl who owned the house. i was completely undressedand went to put my clothes back on and had white powder stuff all over my shirt and no one knows what it was (it wasnt talcum powder). it is upto you what you decide to do in this situation. i am against abotions but in this situation i wouldnt blame you for having one. in saying that i am not saying to have on either.
you are only 16 and i had my first child at 16 aswell. it is not easy by any means at all but if you dont want to give up your baby then dont!!!!
to be honest if your boyfriend doesnt beleive you were raped then he is not worth being with. if he trusted you he would stick by you.
do what YOU feel is right and make sure that you are making the decision for you and no one else because you dont want to regret it later. good luck to you.
be honest with your boyfriend and if he doesnt like it then he isnt worht it as i said before.
Also i couldnt tell the police because i couldnt identify the person i had no idea who he was or what he looked like i later found out his name and tried to tell the cops because everyone else knew who it was but that wasnt good enough
BTW for all those people saying that a relationship at 16 doesnt last my b/f and i have been together since i was 15 i am now 21 with 2 beautiful kids to him and we plan to get married very soon
2007-06-26 12:51:31 · answer #7 · answered by sherice r 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm 13, my mom handed 2 years in the past. all of us pass over her oh lots, and mothers day nonetheless isn't the comparable. Your mom jogs my memory of my mom, too. I pass over her lots and that i'm the oldest of four young babies. I situation approximately my 7 year previous brother (became 5 on the time) will forget her. My dad reemarried final 3 hundred and sixty 5 days, yet my mom is with me continuously. in no way enable her slip from reminiscence, and remmber, you frequently have human beings praying for you. Bye S.
2016-10-19 00:25:19 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your boyfriend loves you he should believe you and support you, not call you a liar. you need to tell an adult what happened to you (your parents if you have a good relationship) and figure something out. im sorry this happened to you but abortion is not the only answer. get some help from an adult and forget about your boyfriend for right now. he doesnt seem like such a great guy.
2007-06-27 12:11:33 · answer #9 · answered by boo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not have to get an abortion. You are already calling yourself a "mom" - there's no way you could go through with an abortion. The circumstances suck, I know, but there are people out there who can help you through this. Please visit a women's center- http://www.pregnancycenters.org/advantage.asp and maybe get your sister to go with you as moral support. They will introduce you to the programs in your community that can help. They also have trained counselors who can help you figure out if you are ready to parent, and explain the adoption process to you if you're not. Don't wait!
As far as the boyfriend goes, I agree with the majority- dump him. He's a jerk.
You can email me any time, I wish you the best!
<3 Kelsey
2007-06-26 13:37:05 · answer #10 · answered by Kelsey H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋