i was talking to her for two years, and i feel i developed something with her, she was going to come stay in england to be with me, she was the one for me, the one i wanted and im gutted she broke up with me.....her interest in me seem to dwindle once i told her about my disorder, i have borderline personality disorder...
im just struggling to get her out of my mind right now, im so lonely, and ilive alone, i feel like begging her to be in my life and love me....im 29 she is 20 and i no theres an age difference...but she used to say loving things to me, she was gonna move here to be with me.....and then all those feelings seemed to evaporate...ive never had a girlfriend throughout my life, and this was the first girl, that i fancied, that showed interest in me....im finding it very difficult to get over this, to get over her, even after all this time..
im so depressed, ill never meet anyone like her again in my life, she was from hamilton, canada
2007-06-26 12:36:12 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
if she would be so cold, as to leave or end a relationship, based on your suffering, I would call it a blessing in disguise..I think that if it was meant to be, it would have happened..don't ever give up..who knows, maybe in a few years from now, or months..she may realize just how good you are, and if she grows up, she may come back..my prayers are with you....keep her safely in your heart..and always with you...
2007-06-27 00:55:04 · answer #1 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i am so sorry to hear this i know the pain you are feeling. this experience is necessary though. why well that's how the cruel and unusual game of love goes. time can be your enemy if you let it so much pain and so much time just thinking but time is the only thing you have going for you. i dont understand either really. some people you meet have made it seem so real for you they have painted this beautiful picture of happiness for you so real you actually believe everything they say. and then all of of a sudden poof, it's all gone so fast it's like they forgot they ever said those things. she was probably hurt and now played the game with you not even really realizing it hurt you the same way. all i can tell you is you have to grieve this and if you feel like crying you have to cry. you have to get it all out. your body is responding to these emotions and if you try to stop the process it just wont work. after some time you will start to feel better and it will just be a bad memory that comes and goes once in a while. just keep telling yourself the pain will not last forever. she was never worth your time if she can not except things about you that are different from others.
2007-06-27 06:41:43 · answer #2 · answered by SW 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have a borderline personality disorder. You have not met her. Nobody else have met her. For the words that you and she have keyed in while both of you are in the net, you have fallen in love with her. But from what you have described, she is the more careful type. And she is scared of you now. I doubt if she will ever chat with you as friendly as she used to be. She might even want to iggie you as soon as she sees your name there. Meet someone face to face for a real relationship instead of one that is based on fantasy.
2007-06-26 13:05:26 · answer #3 · answered by Dolia 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You ask that question of a man who lives alone and have for 20 plus years. To me long distance affairs are doomed from the start, face to face and physical contact that makes a relation and love, but I have been wrong before. So listen to people who are in a relationship now.
2007-06-26 13:40:48 · answer #4 · answered by Coop 366 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
People with Borderline Personality Disorder have a tendency to either idealize or devalue other people. Perhaps you should consider the possibility that your current state of mind is a reflection of your disorder and discuss it with your therapist. Take care of yourself.
2007-06-26 13:18:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Miseries in this world come like the waves of the ocean one has to learn the process of tolerating them. Chanting the maha mantra is the best way to overcome all suffering and illusion. For info go to harekrishnatemple.com read Bhagavad Gita as it is BY Bhaktivedanta PRabhupada tells how.
2007-06-26 12:40:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Tell me about it. Women. They talk and talk and then dump you by the side of the road. The only way to get over it, though... is to get another one!
2007-06-26 12:43:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋