Last summer I met this boy on the internet. I had seen him before in school so I knew that he actually exsisted and everything. Sooo we started talking online and I immediatley started to like him. We would stay up till three in the morning talking about everything!! There was never an awkward moment when we didn't have anything to say. And I could also tell him everything. So then towards the end of the summer, we decided to hang out and meet each other in person. So we went to the movies and we hooked up. All we did was makeout a few times. Soon, I fell in love with him. I knew it was love too. So I won't appreciate people telling me I wasn't in love. Because I was. But I noticed that he wouldn't talk to me as much. I started to think that maybe he wasn't attracted to me anymore since he saw me in person b/c his friend said i looked "different" in person. Hes three years older than me. WHAT CAN I DO TO GET HIM TO FEEL THE SAME WAY AS ME?! Im seriously desperate and it really hurts.
2007-06-26 12:15:06 · 7 answers · asked by juneBUG 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Also, he doesn't know how I feel about him AT ALL. He's pretty much the same person as me but I'm afraid of telling him because 1.) hes three years older and could have lots of other girls, and 2.) im afraid that if i tell him our friendship won't be the same and it will be awkward
2007-06-26 12:20:55 · update #1
another thing is, i asked him if he wanted to hang out this summer and all i got was "yeaaah get back to me on that one..." and then signed off. i know he doesn't have a girlfriend. but i think that he may be embarrassed about the whole three year age difference.
2007-06-27 05:04:47 · update #2
oh and also..we only made out once.
2007-06-27 05:06:09 · update #3
It is never really possible to change a person or their feelings. I learned this first hand when I was 19. It seems like ages ago, wait it was ages ago... Ok. Anyhow, lessons learned from a woman who waited.
1. Love hurts! In both good and bad times.
2. You can not make someone love you. (it is against the law of physical and emotional attractions.)
3. If he is avoiding you, he may be seeing someone else or have a different agenda all together.
4. Give him space and / or time. He may be getting a good case of claustrophobia.
5. Don't hang on his every word or movement, because you will appear to be a puppet.
6. Not everyone is as they appear.
7. If you love something, let it go. If it returns it was meant to be.
I know, I was 24 before I met my husband. I had been half way around the world, turned down about 5 marriage proposals, and had my fun. We married about four months after we met and have been married for 8 years and 4 months.
Give yourself credit, others will enter your life sweetheart. I guarantee it.
2007-06-26 13:07:54 · answer #1 · answered by Terra-able 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of the problems with on-line stuff. I doesn't seem real sometimes until you meet the person and then whack, you meet the person and reality sets in. You may not be able to get him if he's stuck in his head that he wanted what was in his head and not the real you. You should talk to him and ask him what's what. If he's reasonable you can convince him that just because you don't look like he thought you did doesn't mean you can't have a great relationship. Good luck.
2007-06-26 19:23:06 · answer #2 · answered by LG 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you might want to reconsider a on line relationship if he is long distant.... and who's to say he doesn't have a girlfriend and she found out about you. there are a lot of factors to think about, before wanting to commit to him. Men can hide a lot of stuff before us ladies find out about it. Just don't fall to hard for him, not yet anyways. it's not your love for him i doubt it's his commitment to you i am thinking you might want to take a look at, if he really cares about you than he would screw what his friend thinks about you and be there for you. there is nothing wrong with looking different!
2007-06-26 19:20:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that is really tough. poor you! well, maybe you can talk to him and see if he'll open up to you. other than that, i don't know what to tell you. really sorry, hope everything works out.
2007-06-26 19:19:56 · answer #4 · answered by thelovelyfey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he wants a little bit more excitement in his life with oyu, a bit more erotic intercourse with you, u guys probubly know each other for more than a year, u made out tons of time, now let him feel you, n ur body, that would intrest him, please him, please you, n have him be with u more times, n he`ll be very interested
2007-06-27 01:43:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the only thing YOU can do is tell him or keep going and wait and if get wrose dump him he doesnt like you then
2007-06-26 19:23:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many ways! but only one right way.. Do what you feel in your heart is right.
What is meant to be will be.
2007-06-26 19:18:57 · answer #7 · answered by kazapim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋