I was molested but my family doesn't believe me and my mama made me recant my story, What should I do??

Question

I was molested by my now step dad...

When I was molested at 14 at the beach by a man i thought i could trust because he was my mama's (at the time) boyfriend I was there with his step daughter, I told my mama later on that night and she didn't believe me and said that I was just trying to get attention, I became so depressed and in denial that i wanted to kill myself, ugh Lord help me! Then on Feb. 11 on my little sister's bday he molested my again this time more sick wierd n twisted and he said he did this because i'm gay, which makes no sense... I told my teacher and then who later told my conselor who later told the child protective services who later told the police and my mama blamed all of this on ME the victim! He molested me over and over again and i never told my mama until one day in church I announced it to everbody! i felt relieved in a way BUT then my mama married his azz after he molested me several times and still til this day she doesn't believe me, WAT SHOULD I DO?

Answer 1

I'm so sorry to here that. And I hate to say it, but you would probably fair better by distancing yourself from her. If she's going to do that to you, you can't help it. You could probably also benefit from therapy. Regardless of how strong you are, it helps to talk to someone that can help you with this. Good luck on your decision.

Answer 2

I feel very bad for you. But sadly, yours is a common story. This happens very often and it is hard to explain why a mother makes the choice to take the offender's word over her child's. You have rights and deserve to be protected. I am very sorry to say that the only option to make it stop would seem to be to leave your mother also. You can tell the police, and Department of Human services the story. Your mother is guilty of neglect and failure to protect. Go to the police tell them the entire story and set of circumstances. Most importantly refuse to go home. This will be hard but it is the only way to get out. You may even be placed in a juvenile facility, but that may be the cost temporarily. It sucks as an option, but your mother leaves you no choice. Call the DHS hotline yourself, this is another option. There are child advocacy groups that can help you.

Answer 3

So if the molester/rapist was reported to CPS and the police, what happened to him? are you still living with your mother and now step father? You need to get into counseling, if you aren't already. Your mother's denial is a typical reaction of a woman to her husband/partner's behavior. Your sister may also be in danger. I don't think your step father's behavior has anything to do with your sexual identity - he is just sick. If you &/or your sister are still living with your mother, you need to get help from a relative who believes you, or a responsible adult authority. Talk to your school counselor or your clergyman immediately. If you are in a safe environment, your mother may not see the light until something happens to your little sister, or the guy gets put in jail -where it sounds like he belongs. Or she may never open her eyes.

Answer 4

The main thing you need to do is MAKE SURE YOU ARE SAFE WHERE YOU ARE LIVING! There are places you can go to get help and talk to someone who can do what has to be done right away... a web site i know is called www.RAINN.com/ go to it it will tell you what you can do and will give you good advice.. If you dint have a computer and use a friends there is a book called When Something Feels Wrong and its about abuse, it also give you advice and coping skills to get through and to help you find some one who will help you ASAP.

Answer 5

Go to the police. If you're still in school, go to your teacher or counselor. Are there any other relatives close by that could help you? If so, go to them. I think there is an abuse hotline that you can call. Here is the web address. There's a phone number with it.

http://www.childhelp.org/get_help

Answer 6

You should be sure to tell the authorities the truth. The violence and hurt is not your fault. If your mother will not listen, then the police will. It is hard for women to believe these things about something they think they love. Just tell the police the truth and your mother will have to deal with it. You will only help your mother by getting this sicko put away.

If you need help, just email me.

Answer 7

Good god I want to beat your step dad up.

You should carry a tape recorder around all the time, just in case, or have a cell phone that can record sound and image. My friend who was molested used this method and it helped her alot! If you have hard evidence, then you're step dad's caught. (Video footage is better than sound.)

Much luck

Answer 8

If your mom won't believe you, go to another trusted relative like an aunt or grandparent. If they believe you have them explain this to your mom. If she's still not buying it move in with a close relative who lives in the same city, then get the police involved.

Answer 9

Disown your mother and never talk to her again - seriously.

Also, make sure all of her neighbors know that a child molester lives there. Don't give him a chance to get his hands on any of the neighborhood kids. If you're really lucky, they'll form a mob and lynch the bastard.

Answer 10

You can not make her believe you. Unfortunately this will always be a thorn inside your relationship. I don't know how old you are, but you should try to get counseling. It will not do you any good to repeat it to her. She is in denial. If you are old enough get away and try to start a new life.