Read & Then please help.?

Question

As I blocked his exit
[His easy ecape, from his guilty concience]
He wrapped my hair round his fist
Holding my head back to appearence
Then using my delicacy to advantage
Bruising my face with his furious punch
Pulling out my hair as he throws another
Finally throwing me semi-concious to the floor
I crawl to the door to stop him
He pulls at my limbs and throws me down
He bangs my head against the door
Over and over
Slapping my face
Punching my body
My head
{& My mind]
He leaves me battered and bruised
As he walks away out the door
When i have finnaly given up strength
I shout, I beg for some ice
To cover over the pain he's inflicted
He passes me the ice
Aplogises then leaves.

This was the guy who loved me
The guy who wanted only me
But then fell out of love
And hated me

READ - [INFO]
wrote this about two months ago. I just want you to read it and give me some advice to move on. Im still talking to him , i still love him, and he is nice to me as friends, and isnt abusive until it comes to argument or when he gets angry. I still love him, he doesnt love me. I dont know how to move on.

Im scarred. Im alone, and im still in love with him.

Im 17.

Answer 1

I feel for you. You're pretty young, you need to get some professional help. Every community has a Battered Women's Hot Line where counselors are available to support you in making decision to leave, and to ensure your safety. As a victim, you are just as enmeshed as he is in the pattern of violence. You need to break the cycle now, before it's too late for yourself.

Cry your heart out till there are no more tears left. Scream to high heavens till you get hoarse. Then move on, move on, and don't look back. It will be difficult, it will be hell, but just do it! Pick up the pieces and learn something from the experience. Let this episode harden your heart to the honeyed words of men who will try to court you in the future. Charge this painful episode to experience. You will become a better person for it. God bless you.

Answer 2

READ THIS AND PLEASE HELP YOURSELF:
1. You should NOT be in any form of love at 17, except love from your parents
2. You are NOT old enough to live with any man
3. You must NOT allow anybody to physically abuse you

If you cannot accept these NOTs, no help is sufficient. Because you will walk right into another relationship like this even if you leaves this guy.

Next steps
1. Call the police and have him arrested for assault and battery. Leave the situation and go back to your parents. If you have no parents, get help from the state to protect you --- you are still a minor.
2. Return to school and finish high school
3. Make a vow that you will not be in another relationship until you turn 21 or older. YOu don't need a man's love until you are old enough to know what it really entails.
4. Don't look to man for foods and shelter until you are 21 and beyond. Work for your basic needs no matter how hard it seems to be.

Answer 3

Your in puppy puppy love, leave before he bounces your head off the floor once to many times. Becoming a paraplegic or having your brain damaged is far worse than getting killed.No guy should never hit a female, that is so low.If the argument gets that bad then he should leave, but never hit the woman. Pulling your like that the first time should have been time to leave the second or third should be I'm booking out of here.

Answer 4

Go get some professional help.

You got only one thing correct in your post.....

He Doesn't love you. Love doesn't act like this. You need to give yourself some time to grow up and mature. Stay away.

I might also advise that if he wanted to walk out (guilty concience or not), let him go. Don't block the door. It doesn't justify his beating you, but if he was already mad and you tried to physically block him from leaving, you are just throwing jet fuel on a campfire. Its not too surprising that it exploded in your face.

Answer 5

I am 24, and when i was 17 i had a 23 year old guy, at first he felt like by best friend we were so close i loved him like family, i could not imagine my life without him. after a year he began to hit me when we argued it started with a slap, then a closed handed swing towards my ear that affected my hearing and it ended with eight stitches in my head. I know it hurts to say goodbye but after three years all i got from him were regrets.......The crazy thing is i still love him, but i love me more. You have to find something or a close friend to occupy your time while you heart heels. you can get over a broken heart in time.

Answer 6

Consider yourself lucky to have gotten out of this relationship. You are only 17, time will pass and you will move on. You do need to find some kind of help, maybe even just a trustworthy adult to talk to. Respect yourself and don't let anyone treat you this way again.

Answer 7

You need counseling. You are in a cycle. going around & around. This guy does not love you, he doesn't even want you, you are his punching bag, his door mat ,his target.
Being submissive and hated is not the material for poetry.
Crawl out of the hole you are in stand up and start walking.
No one can help you as long as you stay. Take the first step towards some dignity.

Answer 8

oh sweetheart get out get away u deserve better a man like that will never change he will give u all the soft stuff to work his way back in u are young and deserve better u are not a Punch bag for anyone
you say u love him let me make one thing very clear
HE DO NT LOVE YOU
if he did he would nt do this
speak to Ur parents go to the police but please get out for your own safety
if u need to talk email me [e-mail]

Answer 9

Well, there is only one way to leave, just do it! It may be hard, it may hurt your heart, but you have to be strong and just say no....its like trying to quit a drug. No matter how much you want the drug (in your case your b/f), you have to dig up all your will power and just quit it. Time will do the rest....and if you're only 17, you have plenty of that!

Answer 10

Seek counseling...seriously. This is not love by any means. You need to go talk to a professional about why you portray this as love - break the pattern now, you don't want this to end up being your future. You deserve better. Love does not hurt.