my girlfriend doesn't make the effort to go out with me. im begining to feel that shes not that interested in me. idont have a problem with her hanging with her girl friends but WE need some 1on 1 time as well, i dont think its really fair apprently im not really her priority. what should i do now?
2007-06-26 11:02:10 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
my girlfriend doesn't make the effort to go out with me. im begining to feel that shes not that interested in me. idont have a problem with her hanging with her girl friends but WE need some 1on 1 time as well, i dont think its really fair apprently im not really her priority. what should i do now? the last time we hungout was because her friend wanted to meet me
2007-06-26 11:04:48 · update #1
Here's what I suggest.... hang out with your friends when she's hanging out with hers. Try to encourage her to meet you at a specific time and place for just the two of you... like at the movies or a restaurant. Be sure you indicate you want some quality time just one-on-one or she just might show up with one of her friends. Your girlfriend may or may not view you as her top priority now... and it's really not that big a problem. Is she mature? That's what's important. Is she interested in the relationship? That's key. I get the feeling from your question that she's really not 100% ccommitted to a serious relationship right now... and that's okay, especially if she's young or needs some time to reflect on what she wants out of life. Be patient... you'll find out whether you have a long future together, just give it some time to blossom first.
2007-06-26 11:09:32 · answer #1 · answered by Mike S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she's hanging out with her friends and you half and half then that's reasonable, but if its like 80% friends and 20% you, then that's a problem. start hanging out with your friends more and stop calling her so much. don't let her think that you're desperate. if she sees that you have better things to do than hang out with her, then she will want to be with you more.
i mean the only other thing you can do is discuss it with her, but if that doesn't work you'll just have to make yourself seem more desirable and unavailable to her so she'll want you more.
if neither of those things work, then you will definately know that the relationship was not working and not worth it.
2007-06-26 18:07:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure that she's not interested in you, I feel it might be that she's afraid of what might happen when she is with you, so to avoid the situation she stays away. It's hard to say, but this is something you need to talk to her about alittle more. She just might hint what she is feeling and then you can decide what you should do.
2007-06-26 18:08:48 · answer #3 · answered by d-nice19 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then tell her how you feel. Try to talk to her about what your feeling. Make an effort to be with her even if that means, making arrangments to go to eat. Just don't give up.
2007-06-26 18:07:13 · answer #4 · answered by dude20189 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite her over to your place and prepair a nive dinner (first thing I cooked for my girl was lemon-pepper pork chops, I think spinach and white wine!) cuddle up on the couch and watch movies or just talk about random things. Just you and her. Perhaps that will bring the two of you closer.
2007-06-26 18:05:28 · answer #5 · answered by Paul W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should talk to her and let her know what you feel about her letting you out for her friend and later come into an agreement communication its the best way to fix things in some cases
2007-06-26 18:07:28 · answer #6 · answered by peace 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a second girl to fill in the gaps, see how she likes that. Maybe it will give her that kick up the bum she needs. I wish I had done it in hindsight, but I just couldn't, even when it was offered to me
2007-06-26 18:06:12 · answer #7 · answered by Yeah yeah yeah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long have you all been going out and knowing each other??? She still has her life and is living it. Talk to her about this, and find out why she spends so much time without you.
2007-06-26 18:05:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
shes showing her friends that even though she has a BF that she still cares. girls do that sometimes. if u tell her that u want more time, be easy about it
2007-06-26 18:06:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her if she cant even take the time to spend with you shes not worth satying with
2007-06-26 18:06:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋