2007-06-26 11:01:13 · 19 answers · asked by phelixia_m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you really care about him this should not mater. Epilepsy is usually very well controlled with medications.
2007-06-26 11:09:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No its not a good reason to leave someone. Educate yourself on epilepsey and then if you feel that it isn't something you can handle then speak to him and tell him honestly that it is you that has the problem and not him. Be sure to tell him your the one being self centered and there are many women out in the world that has the ability to love and cherish him regardless of his medical history.
2007-06-26 18:05:47 · answer #2 · answered by 20+ years and still in-love! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. Many people have that condition and it is easily managed well by medication. He is worthy of being loved despite any problem life may have dealth him. You are worthy of being loved just the same. Love is more than just an emotion.....it's an action, loyalty, unconditionality, support, etc. Sometimes it isn't 50-50....sometimes it's 100-100....you having to be there 100% until he can be there.
Don't be scared to love. Don't withhold love. Don't let a disease get the best of you. Rise above it...show epilepsy it has no control.
LOVE - simple and hardest thing to do! Best wishes, dear.
2007-06-26 18:06:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a good one. I have MS and have for about the last 9 years. My last GF was with me the day I was diagnosed 100% and she said that she could handle it with no problem and that she loved me enough to live through it with me. I advised her that I did not think that it would be fair to her, now 38 and me 45 for her to have to live with me and my issues. She said again that she loved me and wanted to be there for me. She was most of it until present. Now she has taken off to don't know where. I do not hold that against her. I do not want any ones sympathy or empathy, if you are unsure of the def look it up. I have always been very independent have not counted on anyone and still do the best that I can and that pissed her off because I would not let her do alot of things for me. I would let her help but do all 100%.
As far as leaving, leave if you do not think you can take care of him. Do not let him think that you are always going to be there for him if you are going to get him dependent on you and then you SH*T on him.
2007-06-26 18:15:35 · answer #4 · answered by psycho magnet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, make a line down the center of the paper. On the left, list all the things you love about him. On the right, list all the things you don't like. find it hard to list anything but epilepsy under negatives? then stay. But if you're falling short on the positives, then move on. Life is too short to be sticking with someone just because you're sympathetic. But if what you feel is more than just sympathy, then don't leave, just because of something you're not sure you can deal with.
2007-06-26 18:10:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's not a good reason to leave him, epilepsy is a condition of the brain that can be treated given the right medication, just because he has this condition doesn't stop him from being the person who you have grown to know and have feelings for in all this time, educate yourself on the condition and even call his doctor so that he/she can clear up some of your misconceptions about this....
2007-06-30 15:42:51 · answer #6 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I grew up with an step dad that had epilepsey, he beat the hell out of me my sisters and my mom. But I don't think it was all the epilepsey
2007-06-26 18:05:07 · answer #7 · answered by daledean_hojo 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Epilepsy is not a disease. It is a condition of the brain. It is not communicable, you cannot 'catch' it from anyone. Many epileptics are able to live full and productive lives thanks to advances in medicine. Only the ignorant (meaning the uneducated) 'fear' an epileptic. Would you 'fear' a diabetic?
If you have to ask yourself this question, then you need to distance yourself from this young man now..before you wind up hurting him even more. His condition is no reason to leave him, but your lack of knowledge and fear is.
2007-06-26 18:14:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I'm going to say is, I think your using epilepsy as an excuse to get out of this relationship and its sad that you have put your boyfriend through this crap. What a cop out.
I speak with many people who have epilepsy and help them through their issue's, including people who are planning on having brain surgery to help rid their life of epilepsy. Cheers and good luck.
2007-06-26 18:20:21 · answer #9 · answered by Live_For_Today 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is no reason to leave them. His epilepsy is a medical condition....it doesn't make up who he is!! Did you love him before the epilepsy? If yes, then there shouldn't be an issue.....if you didn't then leave. And if you are that cold-hearted that you use the epilepsy as a reason to leave then you have some MAJOR growing up to do!!!
2007-06-26 18:05:47 · answer #10 · answered by Nicki B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, if you love him then you should be able to get past the epilepsy. Its a medical condition and does not change the person that he is inside. Love him for what he is and ignore the disease.
2007-06-26 18:03:37 · answer #11 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋