Should guys /girls be forgiven if they confessed extramarital affair?

Answer 1

That would be like saying it was ok, imagine it....yes alright we'll get married and you can sleep with someone else once and I will forgive you... pffft

NO.

Answer 2

If the person is remorseful and willing to do what is necessary to rebuild the damage to the marriage, then it is up to the betrayed spouse to work towards forgiveness if they decide to stay in the marriage. Sometimes, the damage from the affair, along with other problems makes reconciliation difficult. Many marriages will survive an affair, but will need lots of effort from both to rebuild from the damage. Others will not survive.

It can take time and effort to find that forgiveness. The wayward spouse needs to do their part by earning that forgiveness. One cannot just "forgive and forget". It is impossible to forget such an emotional trauma, short of a lobotomy! But, as the pain lessens, it becomes easier to suppress those horrible memories of that time.

Sometimes, we will eventually forgive someone who hurt us, but cannot reconcile the relationship as it is to damaged.

Many marriage counselors and experts support discussing and affair and developing honesty in the marriage. That couples that discussed the affair have a much higher survival rate in the long run.

Most betrayed spouses report having a slight suspicion during the affair, but didn't focus on it until more evidence came forward (which tends to happen). Usually by changes in the wayward spouses behaviors or attitude during the time of the affair.

Answer 3

Most experts agree that it is best never to confess to an extramarital affair. Stop it ASAP and keep that one to the grave and thank your lucky stars you weren't caught. Once a confession has occurred, trust in a relationship is lost... probably forever. There is a very slim chance that the non-cheating spouse would forgive AND forget but don't count on it. People should try to see the consequences to their actions before they make such huge (and selfish) mistakes.

Answer 4

Someone once told me that there were two main componets to any successful relationship trust and communication. I think that the only way that a couple can bounce back from such a major volation of trust as an extramarital affair is if trust can truly be reestablished which is much easier said then done. Its possible....but not easy.

Answer 5

That's a hard one. I believe people learn from their mistakes. I also believe old habits die hard. You have heard the saying Once a cheater always a cheater, So your question is a fully loaded one. I believe that everyone deserves a second chance for redemption. Marriage is suppose to be a solid commitment.You break the foundation, it can be rebuilt, how many times is a personal choice.I would give one chance. And if it didn't work out at least I gave an effort that will just make me a wiser stronger person, the next time around.

Answer 6

of course they should be forgiven, the only problem usually its within time. It's not that easy for people to forgive someone for hurting them, and thats what an affair does hurt someone. It might take time but it will eventually happen. But the relationship might not last, some do and some don't.

Answer 7

If you feel capable of forgiveness than do so. To stay in the relationship depends on whether you can let it go and move on. Can you keep from holding it against the other person. Will there always be a resentment brewing. Follow your gut on that one. there's no right or wrong, middle of the road answer

Answer 8

yes they should be forgiven if they confess. Then you should go and sleep with their best friend. Ya i know 2 wrongs dont make a right but atleast they will know how it feels. Then go ahead and stay with them.

Answer 9

If you can forgive and forget. If you think you will never trust the person and the issue will always be brought up at first turn, its better to give up the relationship.

Answer 10

To be forgiven yes. Then dump their cheating a**

Once a cheater always a cheater.