My boyfriend will not have sex with me..?

Question

My long distance boyfriend moved here to be with my in March. For the first month, our sex life was great, however since April, it has just gotten worse and worse. From every day, to once a week. Recently I discovered that I have genital warts. I have never had them before.. My doctor has said it is a very common std, lots of people have it and never actually get the warts. Men cannot even be tested for it. I left the doctor's office accepting the idea that either of us could've given it to the other unknowingly. Then I come home and he blames me right off the bat and uses it as a reason to completely end our sex life, despite the fact my doctor said we could still have sex.. I am so depressed over all of this and I do not know what I should do. I do not want to be in a sexless relationship but I care about him :( Do you think he will get over this? Is there something I can do to help him get over this? I am lost :(

Answer 1

That Sucks. He sounds like the jerk that gave you the std. Sorry but I would dump his a**!

Answer 2

First of all sweetie you are right either one of you could've pass it to each other. That's what any man would say, of course he's not going to admit to it. If he truly cared about you he wouldn't act like that. I can see him being upset but to not want to have sex is crazy because if you have it then he surely has it too. He is acting really immature you need to reevaluate your life and then make a sound decision about what you want to do. Good Luck and remember you deserve happiness, whether it's with him or without him.

Answer 3

His response sounds like that of a scared shocked child. When he calms down I would give him literature on it and about it and work on it together if he will. If he continues to be this way then I would say let him go and move on even if you still love him, it is not worth the guilt trip he will give you when you do not know whose fault it is. Good luck

Answer 4

First of all, herpes in this day and age is no more harmful than the common cold.

Additionally, as you pointed out, it is entirely possible that he's the one who gave it to you. Point being, it is the most commons STD out there (HALF the population has or has had some form of herpes) and if you have been sexually active before you met each other, it is a crap shoot as to who gave whom what.

Your boyfriend is being a jerk. As since blaming you right off the bat smacks of being uber-defensive, he may know more than he is willing to say on this entire subject.

Tell your boyfriend he needs to get over himself or move the hell out. You might also lay some of this wisdom on him -

* If you've ever had chicken pox - you've had herpes.
* If you've ever had shingles - you've had herpes.
* If you've ever had a cold sore - yup - that's herpes to.
* Canchor sore? Surprise - herpes!

Print this out, show it to him, tell him to straighten the hell up.

Answer 5

If he has moved in with you then tell him to move out as he is acting ridiculous and refuses to accept known facts about genital warts.

Answer 6

there is absolutely nothing you can do. you either have a guy who a) doesn't love you enough to accept this situation b) doesn't want to think that he may be the cause of this or c) thinks you are a slut who deserves this. do not try to force sex on the guy. he has choices over his own body. sadly, you will need to move on from this relationship. this will not get better. best wishes.

Answer 7

I wouldn't have sex with you either. You gave him warts.

Answer 8

I dont blame the guy! who wants to have sex with someone with vaginal warts? nasty.

Answer 9

You need a surrogate Lover*.. Id like to volunteer*...

Answer 10

ask him to read about it. there is a lot of information out there about this condition, and knowledge will help him understand and get more comfortable with the situation