what should I do about it? I don't know the boys parents, and I can't see where anything is missing, but, it's very disturbing he went through our things like that.
2007-06-26 09:14:34 · 18 answers · asked by tamilynn 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
He is 15 and my son is 14, and no, he isn't ever coming over again, I don't think he's a very well behaved boy in the first place.
2007-06-26 09:36:03 · update #1
No, I don't think my son is an angel by any means, but, I've spoken to him already, this boy has never been to our house before.
2007-06-26 09:45:54 · update #2
Do I hear an echo ... echo .... echo ? Hope you had your rifles locked up.
2007-06-26 10:15:33 · answer #1 · answered by Jimbob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would definately try to find a door nob that you can lock and unlock with a key. He had no right to go in your room. I would talk to your son and try to find out his parent's phone number or some way to get a hold of them. They need to know that this happened. I would never let him go into your house again and I wouldn't let your son hang out with him because he is obviously not a very good influence. Also, next time your son has a friend over, before they do anything, tell them both the rules (no going into other peoples rooms, no disrespecting anyone, etc.) to prevent this from happening again.
2007-06-26 09:41:45 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Emily♥ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well first thing is to cool down and think things over. Second step is to confront this boy if possible on a one on one basis.
You should be really really sure that it was him before anything.
If it was him and he admits to it, advise him that he is never again to try it , or the police are going to be called.
Give him a chance to make amends. Then give him a quick hug for his effort. He will probably respect you big time now. Just giving him the boot out, won't help change his ways. This is not your son, but you can do allot to change the ways of his life. Being angry never solves anything.
2007-06-26 09:55:20 · answer #3 · answered by connie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ohhh, girl....that is so wrong! I would call the kids parents and tell them. And like you said, never have him over to your house again. My husband and I have a doorknob that we can lock and unlock with a key. (my son is 14 also) I never leave my son and his friends alone in the house. I have heard too many 'teenage horror stories'! Good luck!!!
2007-06-26 10:06:29 · answer #4 · answered by andieangel2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to address this pronto! There is no reason for him to be in your room. If you let him in your home again, make it clear that your room is off limits! Lock it if necessary. If you have a chance to talk to his parents, say what happened. You could say something like, "I feel awkward saying this, since we don't know each other, but your son went through my room when he was over and I was hoping that you could speak to him about it." If it was my child, I would want to be told.
2007-06-26 09:17:52 · answer #5 · answered by jack russell girl 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ask them exactly what they were doing. If they are being honest (you can tell usually) like saying they were looking for something then keep an eye on them if they are lying, they the kid to call his parents and let you to speak to them. If that doesn't work then don't let him over anymore, yes your son probobly will get mad but that kid is a little perv!
2007-06-26 09:19:18 · answer #6 · answered by •Santa's Little Helper• 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oooh how horrid!
can you not get a lock on the door?
so if he ever comes round again, you can lock it up??
or explain that your room is out of bounds and its not polite to go into somewhere or touch anything that someone has asked you not too?
hmm, dont know how to help!
2007-06-26 09:18:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should confront your son about it. Then you should ask his friend about it. Find out why he was in there. and what he was doing! Don't be afraid to tell his parents. Your an adult, your son might get a little mad, but how would he feel if people were snooping in his room?
2007-06-26 09:19:27 · answer #8 · answered by GOPOPE777 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention your son's age, or his friend's age.
I would definitely speak to your son about it, and let him know that if his friends come over to your house to visit, they aren't to be in anyone's bedrooms.
Short of that, your only options may be to either not allow this particular friend in the house if you aren't home, or put a lock on your door.
2007-06-26 09:19:26 · answer #9 · answered by Lori H 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
depends how old he is ,toddler ,infant if he over 15 then have a quiet word with your sons friend and lay the law down in your house you pay the bills hes just a guest
2007-06-26 09:21:13 · answer #10 · answered by nicola T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
recall once you have been 13 he isn't any distinctive, placed a bottle of lube next to the mags and perchance some condoms you realize he would be attempting to get the genuine factor.. in case you adult men would set your sons down and clarify the birds and the bee's to them there would be some distance much less youthful females human beings turning out to be pregnant have him be the in charge one not the woman..
2017-01-23 05:31:45 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋