My husband and I have a son, he is about 9 months old now. I was thinking about maybe having another baby in about 3 years. The problem is tha my husband doesn't want any more children. He says that they are too big of a hassle (don't get me wrong now he loves this little boy to death) but he says that he is glad that we got through all of the late nights and early morning cries, and he doesn't want to go through it again. What should I do? Will my son be okay "by him self"?
2007-06-26 08:15:38 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he'll be ok by himself. dont force another child on your hubby if he doesnt want it. youll be screwing yourself , he'll resent you for it.
2007-06-26 08:23:53 · answer #1 · answered by princessfionafantasy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's only been nine months. You have time to worry about this later. I have three cousins that have no siblings. One is nineteen, one is three, the other is two. I don't have much to say for the two and three.
The nineteen year old is a vegan-if you know what i mean- and is a bit nutty. But that's not because she's an only child. It's because her mother has been divorced twice and hasn't had a very stable relationship for God knows how long. It's not her fault per say-it's the mothers.
Now, you can have another child only if your husband wants one. He won't appreciate it if you went behind his back. Or you could wait until your son is like six of seven and see if he wants a brother or sister. You could adopt one that is older than a baby that you have to wake up in the middle of the night for and still have another child.
2007-06-26 15:24:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss this with you're husband. I have 2 siblings and love them both to death. I would be terribly lonely and bored if they were'nt here. Ok so maybe the baby is stressfull for the first couple of years but so what? Once he or she is old it pays of you have 2 loving mature responsible children. Imagine if you're parents had thought that same thing, and you're mother did'nt give birth to you, imagine everything that would've been.
2007-06-26 15:20:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's always better to have a sibling. One big factor is that your husband does not want anymore children. If he does not want another child, that poses a big problem. Did you discuss having children before you married each other?
You each should have talked about whether or not you each wanted children and also how many. Although it is more beneficial to the child to have a sibling you would not want to have another child if your husband doesn't
2007-06-26 15:57:56 · answer #4 · answered by footblljunkie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you asking strangers
do we care Yes because I happen to care about children
but is it our business no
this a personal matter bwt you and your husband
we will not feed this child for
wake up at night with it
take it to the emergency room
this is all yours
if you want strangers to tell your wether or not you should have a 2nd child than you need to have your head examine
DISCUSS THIS WITH THE PERSON THAT MATTERS
****YOUR HUSBAND***
2007-06-26 15:25:06 · answer #5 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't worry about it right now, it's only been 9 months!!!
2007-06-26 15:18:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel the same way...i love my son (he is 11) but i would not do it again for anything. luckily, i met and married a man who felt the same way...dont be to hard on him, at least he is being honest.
2007-06-26 15:26:30 · answer #7 · answered by poodle mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you worrying about something that you MAY want 3 YEARS from now??? Please love and enjoy the baby that you have. Everything can change in 3 years!
2007-06-26 15:22:20 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He will be ok. If you are worried then involve him in preschool and other activities where other children are involved. Friends are ok too!
2007-06-26 15:18:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband does not want any more children.
I repeat, your husband DOES NOT want any more children.
Any questions?
2007-06-26 15:20:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋