Actually i am sick of my life.I want to be again a cool girl, tension free mind and always happy. Due to my current condition i really get frustrated from anybody. I want to be changed. Please help me!
2007-06-26 07:16:40 · 30 answers · asked by vineet kaur virk 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Honey we cant change you.If you would like to change you have to do it for yourself.Write down what kind of changes you would like to make in your life and work on them one at a time.But remember life is about changes so you may be one way at one point of your life just to look around years later and see yourself at another stage of your life.You have to keep working on yourself like a piece of art.
2007-06-26 07:22:44 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ liz ♥ 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am not sure what you mean by a cool girl, but I would think you can get closer tho what you were through trial and maybe a little help froma therapist. You may never be able to get back to exactly how you were, but that is part of growing up. I experienced some life altering situations, and while I am close to how I was years ago, I am not exactly there, and although I do not always like the change, that is not to say I am not better for it. I am sorry that you had to grow up as quickly and abruptly as you did. In general though Adults are not always happy and care free, but we hopefully are happy in general and the good times are better than the bad.
2007-06-26 07:38:47 · answer #2 · answered by Bag-A-Donuts 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The first thing you should work on is your self esteem...Your still cool you just have more experience. Good or bad ones they are a part of you now and you have to let go of the past and move on. All experience in life is a lesson if you handled the experience the best way you can then you can take it as a lessen learned and move on having become more knowledgeable.. if you feel that you could have handled it better and or you still feel as if it has a hold on you then you need to take the time to face what is holding you back and make it right. Either by rethinking the choices you are making now, resetting future goals, or changing your out look of life. You are who you are and if you changed it is because you have grown now you just need to go with the flow in a positive way and the coolness you feel you have lost will resurface.
Changes are meant to happen....how you handle it will be the outcome of those changes!
Best of luck on your journey! Be safe and happy!
2007-06-26 07:39:03 · answer #3 · answered by dawnsmysticalwonders 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, think of the time when we were 'cool' ...
Visualise the picture, take a close look at our desires, expectations etc.... you will find that we had goal, aims & ambitions, but we were not 'stuck' too deep into unrealistic expectations from life. That is why we were 'cool'... What you call as 'cool' is a deep state of acceptance (active state , not a passive state !).... It is this acceptance that resolves the mismatch of outside situation with our desires & expectations that could not get a matching 'happening'. And then we are now 'cool' and 'free' to pursue it again if situation permits, with better vigour, or else again free to pursue something even better , now being empowered with the lessons & experience of those 'mis-matches' !
Best wishes.
2007-06-26 15:51:19 · answer #4 · answered by Spiritualseeker 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't let places, people or things change you. Some people have bad experiences and they bounce back. Others like us, take awhile to be healing. Know that you are still there and it may not be time to come back out at this moment. Learn to relax and take it day by day. It probably took you awhile to become so sick of life and people but just know this is only for a little while and soon you will be back. Listen to only positive things and hang around people that will build you up and not tear you down. I've been in some disasters and humiliations in my life and I am a living witness that things will get better. Smile and let life be your umbrella and not your boulder. Take care sweetie!!
2007-06-26 07:27:32 · answer #5 · answered by beaddiva 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't feel this way... Although I do not know what has happened to you, and what state you were in before -I can tell you that it's possible to build up confidence and make new friendds. It will take a while, but give yourself a fresh start - buy a new top, have a makeover, maybe start something like swimming, or running, and inthe process you will meet new people who can understand you and they'll have empathy. Just make sure you talk to people with an open heart, and if you feel your getting frustrated tell yourself it'll be ok, and have some deep breaths. Good luck with it all.
Be sure to set yourself easy targets, which will help you feel satisfied and accomplished.
2007-06-26 07:24:29 · answer #6 · answered by neonfear 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Life is all about change. Look around you. You think you know something, the next moment its BAM ..changed.
Bad experiences ?Who doesnt ? There are only kinda fools around here.. One who learn from them and the ones who dont. Choose which one you wana be in.
If what you saying is true and you get frustrated at people or everybody , then there is something deeper that you need to explore. You need to find out if you have something that you aint ok with. You need to get that settled up else it will bother you for a long long time untill you choose a way out.
Good luck. and dont be negative.Its not helping you anyways .Is it ?
You aint become cool if some one calls you a nerd or to you he "hails",
but you are one if you adapt, survive , learn and prevail.
2007-06-26 07:48:01 · answer #7 · answered by Satya 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some simple rules of life may help you in changing your style :
- Your every activity should help someone who can not influence its consequences;
- Doing some meditation will help you in concentrating your mind;
- Start counting reversely from 100 towards one , whenever you feel you are getting angry;
- Start some social work like teaching illiterate people residing in your locality or cleaning the public park or cleaning the roads of your area or any other similar activity;
- Keep yourself busy for as much period of time as you can.
2007-06-28 21:23:48 · answer #8 · answered by sb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its never too late for anything if you feel what you are doing is right. Listen one thing, if you are good to yourself only then you can be good to others. As you said you were a cool girl, please remember that peoples around you are still eagerly waiting for you to come back and make them feel happy like you used to do them before. Its a short life and please dont waste it living in stress and tension.
Dont let your mind take over your heart, if you succeed in it, I bet you will see yourself in same shoes again.
Wish I could have turned time back for you. Please keep in mind the peoples who still loves you and even though you have changed, likes you. So, think of them and start returning the care and love to them, and I am sure you will find yourself in same old shoes one day.
Good Luck.
2007-06-27 08:54:32 · answer #9 · answered by bmlpt 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A lot depends on the people in your life. People can really frustrate us more than anything else.
Find a physical outlet like major exercise to burn off the tension.
Find a creative outlet you like like music, art , dance, writing.
I recommend a book
"Feeling Good Workbook"
by David Burns, MD
I helps you figure out which thoughts in your head are making you feel bad.
And #1- Take an inventory of the people in your life and if someone is really bad to you, wash your hands of him.
Good Luck
P.S. Don't trust any kind of fanatics who think they have all the answers.
2007-06-26 07:27:30 · answer #10 · answered by topink 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Of course you can change. You can even undergo a metamorphosis, if you have hope. Of course you will change, change comes by itself, one moment or one day you are in one mood, another day in another mood. Another more day or moment you may end up back in the old good or bad mood of yours. Change to you may come unexpectedly, and again you can become cool, quite cool indeed, and so show others your fine smile.
Bad and regrettable experiences harden you, they strengthen you. You may learn from them. You may examine them in all possible ways and so you will learn a lot more about your experiences and about your life, about life.
An effective way for you to start with is to get some good food, possibly in the warm company of some good friend or friends of yours. Then you might go out in nature and enjoy fresh air, flowers and the landscape, and you may take with you someone to walk together with and to chat a lot with and show them your fine smile.
If you seek optimism you will find optimism, if you want good health you will get good health. Good luck to you!
2007-06-26 07:55:23 · answer #11 · answered by pasquale garonfolo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋