Ok. My husband mom DAWN. Left him when he was just a baby she was on drugs and supposely wanted to clean up her life. Well his dad who was workin offshore decided to put him in care of his grandparents who are his dad's parents. Well they raised him. They told my husband as a kid his mother was dead. Well me and my husband have been together for a little over 4 years now. And about 6 months after we begin dating he got a call from his mom who was supposely dead. So yes it was very shocking to the both of us. We living at the time in Mississippi. I was still in high school. Hubby had finished. We decided to drive to Gerogia. Where his mom lived and 16 year old sister lived and meet her one weekend. Meeting her she seemed prefect. My mom died when I was 12 by a drunk driver. So no real mother firgure in my life since then. Well she came into our lives and was prefect. She was sweet as could be. Explained why she did what she did when he was a baby.We kept in contact over phone after that
2007-06-26 07:11:46 · 12 answers · asked by Sondra 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Well, keeping in contact by phone things was great. I even adopted her as my next mom. Things seemed prefect. But life has in honeymoon stage and ours was about to end. After I finished high school we moved to Metairie, Louisianna. My home town. And we started planing our wedding. Dawn, his mom still seemd fine. Then Katrina came. And we had to push the wedding back. Well, we decided this would be a great time to go to GA and stay for a while. Get closer to his mom and all. Things suddenly changed. I don't know if it was me and her son planing the wedding or what. But she suddenly hated me and wanted nothing more then me out of his life. And tried to do just that. Well, a few months before the wedding date I found out I was pregnant. After having planed the wedding and having to put it off because of Katrina it had been a year and a half of planing. So we decided to move the wedding date up so we could be married before I was too big to fit in my dress I bought. Well, .................
2007-06-26 07:12:07 · update #1
Well, while up there we learned she didn't have Amanda, her other kid in her care because of the state had placed her in foster care. This was before I found out I was pregnant. So my husband and I offer to get her in our care instead of amanda being in the care of foster. So we got all the paper work done and Amanda was going to be droped off at our house the next day. When his mom Dawn started a big deal about how we wanted Amanda as our kid. The girl is 16 years old. So anyway we backed out and didn't wanna step on anyone toes or start drama. Well we moved back here to Louisianna. We got married. His mom didn't come. And we had our baby boy. Toby was born 11 months go and will be having his 1st birthday party on july 7th. Since the time we moved from GA. His mom has clean up and got amanda back in her care. and moved to mandeville. we live in slidell. Well, I feel my son deserve all of his family in his life. So I found them. Got in contact with his sister and me hubby and baby.....
2007-06-26 07:12:42 · update #2
and we met up with his sister ate lunch. Since time been trying to get dawn to either tell me why she doesnt' like me or at least get to know her grandson. So at my last try I wrote her a 4 page letter telling her my thoughts on everything. And inviting her to my son 1st birthday telling her this is my last chance. And now no response. Should I call to see if she coming to the birthday or not do a thing?
2007-06-26 07:13:46 · update #3
O forgot when we told her we was pregnant. which was hard because we knew already she didn't approve of me. She said Yall don't need a kid and I don't wanna be a grandma. NOt happy at all. And Yet I don't know why I still am tryin to get her to know him and be in his life. She's a b itch to say it lighty but I just wish I could get her to get to know me instead of pushing me away and in doing so pushing her son away.
2007-06-26 07:16:48 · update #4
Well, what does your husband think?...it's his mom. If it were me, I'd let it go. She is obviously mentally unstable and you probably will get nowhere trying to figure out what you did wrong. You probably didn't do anything wrong anyhow.
2007-06-26 07:18:09 · answer #1 · answered by answergirl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My reaction to that if I were in your shoes would be to just let her take the next step. The last few words of your last addition say it all. You've done all you can, the ball is in her court. I've learned in my time that you can't make people do what you intended from an action on your part, they have to react in their own way and their own time. As long as she isn't actually causing problems between you and your husband, you should just leave it alone. I'm sure you;ve done this already, but talk to your husband about your feelings and ask him what he would do in your position. Tell him some of the things you are told in this answers post, after you get a few ideas, and ask his opinion. Good luck!
2016-05-21 01:18:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your family should stay away from this person she seems like bad news. I'd keep in touch with his sister, but not the mother. How does your husband feel about her. I've always wondered how a mother could do that to their child but I guess there are just bad people in the world. You don't need that woman in your life. You have your own family now.
2007-06-26 07:42:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she didn't want to be a mother when her own kids were little what would make you think she wants to be a grandma. I would go on with your life because this lady sounds like a thorn in your side. I am sorry this didn't work out because it sounds like an ideal situation for you. This is not your problem this is hers. She is the one missing out on the joy this baby could bring her. Grandchildren are the eyes we use when we get old to see life in a whole new way. I have a feeling you are going to work this out in your life you sound like a mature young lady.
2007-06-26 07:21:01 · answer #4 · answered by Luv2no is in the house 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow, you gave her a come for your last chance ultimatum? I say if she shows be kind and remember whether you like her or not that she is the catalyst that brought your husband to this world and your son to your life. If she does not show...eat some crow and tell her you acted impulsively with the ultimatum and want to try to mend a fence if for no other reason than your son.
2007-06-26 07:21:01 · answer #5 · answered by Madam Naka 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow, holy drama. I wouldn't do anything. You have obviously tried, and there really isn't anything left to do. Are you sure she got the letter? If so, then let it go honey. You have opened the door, and seem to be very mature, and tried to communicate. Carry on.
2007-06-26 07:17:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
dont do anything she has obviously made it very clear that as long as you are in the picture she wants nothing to do with any of you so let it go it is her problem not yours and obviously your husband does not care one way or the other . you have done all you can do . good luck .
2007-06-26 07:18:43 · answer #7 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about her. Worry about the family that you have now. She hated you for no reason at all. Probably b/c she was jealous that she wasnt there in her sons life and you are now and she cant b/c he loves you and gives you all of his time. Leave it be.
2007-06-26 07:18:13 · answer #8 · answered by Wendie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You did what you had to do. You tried and she is pushing you away, well too bad for her. Concentrate on your husband and your son they need you more than this woman does. I understand that you cherish family values but this woman is not worth it.
2007-06-26 07:21:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would fly like the wind away from this Dawn person! She is bad news for you and your family.
2007-06-26 07:17:08 · answer #10 · answered by p h 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋