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Question

What are some reasons a husband might not want to have sex? (non-medical reasons)

Answer 1

Sexually transmitted disease like herpes, or he is getting all he needs elsewhere, or he is gay, or he is tired and stressed. Maybe he doesn't love you or you are too fat and he can't stand to have sex with you.

Answer 2

I know that all men do not always want to have sex. I do not believe that it has ever been more than a few days, but sometimes you just don't feel like it. I can not imagine years of a man not having sex. I sure that you have tried to do things for him that he likes even things that you may not like just to get him in the mood. I would suggest that you seek some counseling from someone local this sounds like a much deeper issue than I can really speak to. There are usually only a couple of reasons why a man doesn't want to have sex. He is either cheating and feels to guilty to come to you and admit it. He may have also just become less interested in sex. Have he had a medical exam to see what his hormone levels are. Men as they age there sex drive lowers if they get really busy and let himself go it is sometimes hard to recover and the libido suffer. If he is not having an affair and I am not saying he is because I do not know him. He may just have a very low testosterone level and this could really affect him. Without knowing more about him I can not say what but if he is will ing to seek some medical help then he is willing to solve the problem. He may also be able to take some of those over the counter drugs that enhance the male sex drive.

Answer 3

Stress, overwork, etc., might be the most likely reasons.

I'd also say that men appreciate when wives make the effort to "pretty up" a little bit - just being freshly showered, teeth brushed, hair combed, maybe perfume, and wearing clothes that leave you feeling confident and attractive can really make a difference.

Another possibility is simply that as people grow older, sometimes other things become more of a priority. This is true for both women *and* men, contrary to popular myth. Of course, if a woman is really not happy about this, she is more than welcome to have a conversation about it or initiate things more often. Try to keep the conversation light and very casual - it's a sensitive subject, of course. But is is quite likely that the uninterested hubby has simply been busy with work, already feels close enough to his wife without a lot of sex, or simply hasn't made it a priority lately.

Answer 4

Wow! Heavy question. Much the same as my wife asks. My wife is truly a young, beautiful Asian woman with a fantastic 36D body. Modeled around the world. Guys almost break their necks when she walks by. We made love two to five times a day for the first two years. She loves sex and enjoys "playtime". Very, very smart and successful. Jokes around and is a lot of fun. Everyone loves her. Very sociable. Great cook. Really a great wife and mother. But, as time goes on, the sexual attraction became less and less. I don't have any desire for anyone else, but I don't seem to care that much for daily sex.

What happened? I've thought about that a lot. My wife and are are wealthy. We don't work. We are together most of the time. I think I am simply used to being with her in so many different roles that the sex drive has been depleted to a large extent. I can't imagine always being sexually attracted for the entire 24 hours we are together. It would drive me insane to feel that way. I know my wife totally - the way she moves, thinks, what she wants, what she likes or doesn't like - everything. I think familiarity simply reduces the sex drive. I love my wife, I would kill or die for her, I really enjoy watching her move around the house naked, but sex is simply not that important anymore.

Answer 5

Lots of reasons, and many of them have absolutely nothing to do with his wife.

He could be very tired or emotionally stressed from anything like work, a recent death in the family, or some other life-changing thing.

He could suddenly be self-concious of his own body (has he recently gained weight or started to lose his hair? He may be afraid you no longer find him attractive.)

He could have a friend who recently got his wife/girlfriend pregnant and maybe he's afraid of getting you pregnant, if he doesn't feel the time is right yet.

He could be clinically depressed, which significantly lowers a man's sex drive sometimes.

Does he drink heavily or do drugs? Alcohol or substance abuse can reduce a man's libido.

And I'd hate to say it, honey, but lots of times a husband won't want to have sex because he's having an affair and is too tired to have sex with two different women in one day. But you should really assess the other reasons before jumping to this conclusion.

God bless!

Answer 6

There could be many reasons. A woman tends to think that it is somehow related to her and that she must be unattractive to her husband. This is NOT the most likely reason, so don't start there. It needlessly is lowering your self-esteem.

Make him a nice dinner at home. Show him you care. Then,talk to him openly in a non - threatening manner without blame. Yes, it's possible that he is angry about something. If so, get it out in the open. LISTEN. It is also possible that something at work or elsewhere is troubling him or that he is depressed. Many men need to have their partner draw out the info. and don't volunteer to talk about their feelings.

Good luck!

Answer 7

STD's

Another Partner (man or woman)

Bad sex life with current partner

Cant get it up on a regular basis (embarrassment)

Rather use his hand for fun

Too lazy to do foreplay

Woman not sexually appealing anymore but cant tell her that

Answer 8

Could be because she's "putting him down" a lot. He's lost interest because he's no longer turned on by her. How can one feel responsive sexually when the partner behaves as though they loath the very sight of them? He feels very devalued... unappreciated, unloved?

There are cases also where it's the wife who no longer feels sexual towards him because he was the one that "put her down" one too many times, so it can happen vice versa as well.

Answer 9

Tired, stress, hurt, not all men want sex all the time. I just let my hubby know that I always want him. His option weather to take me up on my offer. Try going for it after he has been asleep for awhile. wake him up with something special!!!!!

Answer 10

His wife has turned him off? That's one. Perhaps his wife said 'no' so many times that he doesn't even bother anymore, even in the rare occasion when she wants it. That's another reason. So many of them, I don't know.

Answer 11

The major one I know of is he's completely loss interest; no matter what she does, his mind is made up. That by the way is the strongest of them all. Just so you know I'm not having any problems; just wanted to clarify that.