Just because im pregnant at 16! I didnt make a mistake so stop saying i did!
2007-06-26 06:33:07 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You did make a mistake, you just don't know it yet. It's fun being pregnant and getting a lot of attention. It really sucks being a mom, wearing vomit and **** all day, and never sleeping. You'll figure out you made a mistake soon enough.
2007-06-26 06:36:40 · answer #1 · answered by Pregnant with Baby #2 6 · 7⤊ 3⤋
A friend of mine pregnant at 30 years old, and married, had the "was it an accident" question from many people who had previously been busy asking her when she was going to get sprogged up. Basically people think that other people's babies are their business, I'm afraid! It doesn't matter how old you are and it's one of those things that absolutely everyone has an opinion on. I was 20 when I had my first son; and he certainly wasn't intentional, but no, he isn't a mistake. He is totally meant-to-be!
I think that many girls who get pregnant early are making a mistake, and may regret it, and certainly many of them are not capable of being a mother at that time. But the same is true for many older women, and simultaneously the best and worst thing thing about being a mother is that you LEARN ON THE JOB! And of course the other thing is that you won't stay 16 and a "young" mum! So I refuse to say that based on your age you are not suitable parent-material. I know I could have done it at 16. Good luck to you I say - parenthood is hard at any age and there are many advantages to being young - at least you'll never be mistaken for your children's grandmother, for example!
And don't listen to what everyone else on here is saying - I know it's hard to feel that people don't understand, but you will not get approval just by feeling hurt that people don't see you know what you are doing. Only when people can see that you are doing a great job of being a mum is when they will accept that it is OK, and not before. And also, people are much more accepting of cute little newborn babies than big pregnant bellies. There is nothing for them to judge any more - just a new little person and a new mummy who needs support (yes, that's normal and doesn't mean you aren't coping!). I kept my first pregnancy a secret for this reason. It worked great - no, I wasn't ashamed of it, I just couldn't have stood the pointless reactions.
Take my advice and don't try to get others to validate your decision/position. They won't and it will only make you miserable. I know it's hard!! And all the best with your baby.
2007-06-26 07:08:44 · answer #2 · answered by piano_kath 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you didn't make a mistake. I think 16 is the perfect age to make a decision that effects the rest of your life. Who really cares about going to the prom with your friends. Thats for kids anyway. Your a big girl now who has a bun in the oven. When the rest of your friends go off to college don't worry that will leave a lot of opening at McDonalds. Who needs college when you can have a child at 16. When everyone starts turning 21 and going out to club. Don't worry you won't have time to go out anyway. You'll need all the overtime hours you can get to pay for you clothes, rent, car payment, medical bills, electric bill, cable bill, phone bill, internet connection, baby sitter, and of course food. You really didn't want to hang out anyway. Having a child at 16 is so logical. I don't know why anywone would say different. Who needs a childhood when you can have a child so easy. I wish I would of had a kid at 16. I really didn't need to join the navy and see the world. All the friends ive made along the way don't really matter I could of had a child at 16. You know what is ever better than having a child at 16. Have 3 before your 20. I don't know a man in this world who isn't dying to marry a single mom with multiple kids. Wow i'm so glad I read this question. I think i'll start advocating all girls get pregnant at a young age. You'll have the time of your life living on welfare and section 8.
2007-06-26 07:10:44 · answer #3 · answered by tender loving dyke 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Alright, first off, keep in mind I am answering your question. I am not attacking you. With that in mind, it is because some of them have gone through it, and know the consequences. Some of them know the theories, or know someone that went through it, and know about the challenges that you're going to face having a child that young.
I had a child at 18, and personally, I think that was too young. You're resentful that people think you can't do this. You can do anything you put your mind to. You know what's going on. These are all things you're thinking. But you're not realizing a lot of things that you won't realize until you actually have the kid, and have gotten older.
I thought I was really mature at my age. Now, six years later, I realize exactly how immature I really was. You mature a LOT inbetween 13 and 24. I think you mature for your whole life. And your responses to things tend to be more exaggerated the younger you are. Your child will grow up seeing that extreme behavior, and the first five years are THE MOST CRITICAL for development. I was depressed all the time for three years, and I see my daughter emulating that thought-pattern and those behaviors, and I'm horrified at it, and trying to undo all the damage I did, which was a direct result of my immaturity and my inability to handle huge situations. You're responsible for an ENTIRE HUMAN BEING now. And you're not even done becoming a full adult. You have a lot of growing to do yourself.
I commend you for keeping the child. I commend you for your bravery, and your determination. But this is an extremely hard path you have chosen. A lot of young mothers fail. You have to have almost insurmountable will-power to see it through, and do your job. You cannot focus on you. Your entire focus and your entire way of life must be centered around your child in order to create a happy, healthy person who can function in society with minimal issues.
That is why they are saying it is a mistake. Good luck to you. Think about all that, and make good decisions, okay?
2007-06-26 06:41:10 · answer #4 · answered by gilgamesh 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Usually at 16, pregnancy is more of an accident than a mistake. Babies and children are not mistakes. However, this is a little accident that will forever change the course of your life...be prepared for a wild ride...get yourself through school, college, make sacrifices...do what you have to do to make a good life for you and the child. If you got pregnant on purpose...yah...that was a good idea/bad idea if I ever heard one.
2007-06-26 06:36:45 · answer #5 · answered by Mara 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
They say you're making a mistake because they don't believe you fully understand the responsibility and stress of taking care of a child. Children are a lot of time and money to take care of properly.
At 16, you still have school to worry about and who is going to pay for all the expenses that a child racks up? Are you planning on dropping out so that you can work to support you and your baby?
2007-06-26 06:43:57 · answer #6 · answered by mshutts 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Grow up, stop worrying about what everyone thinks of you, and get educated so you can be a good mother to that child. Now is not the time to argue like a high school-er, now is the time to take responsibility for your actions. You made the choice, now live up to it.
People will always say you have made a mistake. If you choose to listen to them, it will only bring you down. And hinder your abilities to take care of that baby.
2007-06-26 06:40:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You did make a mistake. You had sex at a young age and became pregnant, then chose to keep the pregnancy and the baby. Your life is about to change in ways that you cannot predict, and your happy carefree days of being a child are OVER.
2007-06-26 07:02:29 · answer #8 · answered by mornnglry 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey it's your life and if you are honestly going to take responsibility for your actions, don't worry about what everyone else says. I think everyone is just fearful for you. They are just worried that your "life" is over but in actuality it's just beginning with a baby. Yes you are young but that doesn't make any difference. just think back in the "old days" people were married and starting there families as early as 14. Just prove to everyone who is doubting you that you can do it. It will be hard but if you are as determined as you sound you'll be a great mom. GOOD LUCK!!
2007-06-26 06:41:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
did you plan this then? are you prepared to deal with the consequences? can you financially support a baby? can you finish school, get a good job? is the father going to stick around?
the answer to all of that is probably a big fat NO and that makes it a mistake. that doesn't mean you can't still be a good mom... it just means that you should have been a lot more careful
2007-06-26 06:43:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Pregnancy is only a mistake if you plan not to take care of your child.
Its not even out of the norm anymore for a 16 year old to be pregnant. Maybe you should reconsider who your friends are, or who to trust in your family.
If you are happy with your child, then your friends and family should definitely support you.
Even someone with a settled life and a good career needs support.
If you are, then I am happy for you.
2007-06-26 06:38:09 · answer #11 · answered by Chrissy WB 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋