Im lost what should i do?

Question

What would you say or do?????
i have a situation where my girl and i are separated So that we can get our stuff together to make a better relationship. In the past I have caught her cheating 3 times yes I should of got the point but you tend to have more leniency when your in love. We were in a relationship over 4 years, so take that into consideration. But yes trust, honesty, and loyalty are big issues. And these are all what she has broken and she was suppose to be gaining that all back. But I did find out that she is still trying to be sneaky, she told a friend that she still loves me but told her(the friend) to be careful around me because she only wants me to think that she just talking to me and that she’s getting her stuff together. My thing is she is still tryin to be sneaky and that funny to me but a shame. But what is your input and thoughts and also what and how should I tell her that I know this??? Be specific

Answer 1

Are you a complete Dumb Ace! Why would you waste you time man ! Somthing is mentaly wrong with someone that is obsessed over a woman like that !

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I hate to tell you but you are going to have to let her go. If she is not willing to try and fix the relationship or change in any way, what is the point of staying around. I would not even tell her about what I heard, or if you do you could just say, It has come to my attention that you are still doing the same things that you were before. Let her know that you are not having it and move on. You seserve someone who will treat you well. Good Luck to you

Answer 4

There's a song by Paul Simon: 50 ways to leave your lover.

Pick one and do it

If you can't trust her, then she should be history. Let go and move on.

actually, what you want is some how to "catch her in the act" so you can justifiably be the martyred victim. Grow up. Tell her you've thought it through and decided that you don't think that it would be a good idea to get back together - ever.

Answer 5

I was in a relationship for five years with a sneaky cheating man! When I got tired of the ups and downs of our relationship, I broke it off. In fact, I didn't find out for sure that he cheated on me until after I broke it off with him, but I always felt something was off in our relationship. The day that I broke it off, I cried the whole morning, because when you love someone, it is hard to imagine them not being in your life. But I did it and it was so hard to not get back into that habit of hooking back up with him. After a few months, I couldn't have been happier. When you let someone go, you need to give it time and once you do, you will find out that your life is so much better without them in it. Yes, you will miss the good times and I am sure you two had many, but think of the bad....cheating is a horrible thing to do to someone...there is no way you will ever trust her again and you two will do nothing but fight, even if she really has cleaned up her act. You need to move on with your life and find someone who is willing to put into the relationship the same as you. I would tell her good bye. Thanks for the fond memories, but good bye and good luck in her journey....she has alot of growing up to do.

Answer 6

Apparently your 'girl' is not as serious as you in regards to your relationship. If you're still quite 'set' on being with a person such as she, you may just have to accept her 'cheating' ways and join a 'Swingers Club'. Otherwise, move on with your life. Also, when you 'seperated'...was your agreement to be: 'faithful to one another'? If not,....well....she's really not cheating on you. Get yourself together, figure out what YOU want to do. From there, everything else will fall into it's place. good luck

Answer 7

You need to seriously move on. What a joke! She is making you out to be the biggest fool. I have never heard of someone being a bigger fool about a woman than you. What is the matter with you? Do you have no respect for yourself? 4 years is nothing compared to the way she has and is treating you. You need to get the hell away from her.

Answer 8

If I were in your spot, and i am a girl, but I would dump me on the spot. If she's trying to be sneaky about it now, she will do the same when ya'll get back together. You deserve someone who is honest with you and whom you can trust.

Answer 9

To be honest ,it seems that she is using her time just to cheat more.I would just let her go because she is`nt trying to change.I know that is a hard thing but in the long run you will save your self a lot of pain.She needs to grow up.

Answer 10

If people find a reason to cheat, there is no basis for trust to be established! Sneakyness if an avenue of cheating. Also, anyone you deal with, lover of friend~and a lover should be your best friend~SHOULD HAVE NO REASON TO BE SNEAKY, EVER! I don't want to deal with people that you have to always be looking out for your own best interest before you talk with them, be in their company and the like.
I surround myself with people that I can trust to really care about me. WE TELL EACH OTHER THE TRUTH, OUT OF LOVE, NOT ANY OTHER AGENDA'S.

YOUR GIRL HAS AN AGENDA TO TRY AGAIN AND IT IS NOT OUT OF LOVE. She may not even realize it:::CHEATERS ONLY LOVE THEMSELVES....NOT THE SIGNIFICANT OTHER OR THE ONE THEY CHEATED WITH. WHY?

LOVE HAS TO DO WITH HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT '''YOURSELF''' WHEN WITH SOMEONE....NOT HOW THEY FEEL ABOUT YOU.

YOU love her UNCONDITIONALLY, BUT IF SHE CHEATED, SHE DOES NOT FEEL THAT UNCONDITIONAL LOVE FOR YOU! UNCONDITIONAL LOVE DICTATES:: I LIKE MYSELF WHEN WITH YOU...EVEN IF YOU CHEAT ON ME!

HER LIVE IS SELF-CENTERED:: I LIKE MYSELF WHEN I AM GETTING WHAT I NEED FROM WHOMEVER I CHOOSE. Notice the difference in how may ""I""s are in the last sentence, as opposed to the first one.

You really need to move on and make yourself available for a woman who can love you, as you are willing to love. MEN usually look for women who ''turn'' them on: WOMEN (cheaters) look for men who like them for that reason alone! Not because they love them so greatly. (Now, the tables can be reversed on this also.)

We take a chance that someone loves us unconditionally, when they simply said, "I love you.) You really have nothing but faith to go on that they really do. ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!

LOVE YOURSELF AND DON'T GIVE HER A CHANCE TO HURT YOU AGAIN. GOOD LUCK.