how can I be free in thought and action?

Question

No matter what, I always find it so hard to express myself, whenever I talk to people, or even through actions. My mind always freezes and I always get so anxious and I restrict myself, and I always get jealous of other girls, who just can say anything to any person, especially guys, and make them laugh and smile. I want to join in, but I can't get over this feeling, and I hate it. How do you just feel free to say or do whatever you want, and feel comfortable doing it?

I mean, how can you just feel unrestricted in thought and behaviour, without even worrying about what the other person/people think(s)?

Answer 1

Sometimes young ladies go through a time in their youth when they are mad at older women for treating them as a child and for not crediting their knowledge as good. They are mad at what it seems the women are not allowing the girl to do, so she believes that she cannot talk to males her age, or about women things. When the girl says she's had enough of being treated this way by women, she becomes her own woman.
Most women's gossip circles are simply an orration of accumulative living experiences involving certain specific time-specific experiences, and their complaints and conclusions of their imperfect attempts at them.
The vast majority of topics a girl would hear and remember to try to experience, all the while feeling as though she cannot talk about these things even if she knows about them. She feels she cannot get out more than one educated sentence on the topic. So...she goes off by herself, apart from the women's gossip circles, apart from the males her age, and discovers what happens in her day of events. She tries to say hi to everyone she can, as often as she has confidence eventually building up her confidence. She might even try to bring up a topic and get feedback by talking to someone. This is her routine while she is away from the women and people that knew her as shy, so she is not discouraged by people that fail to say hi back or take interest in her topic.

When she has enough experience confidence, she can go back around the wommen she knows and talk in this manner in front of them without being shut down or failing to talk. Then when she knows they know she can hold her own opinion as a woman, or the group conversation, all she thought she knew and thought she couldn't say more than an educated sentence on will be there.

Answer 2

yes i understand &i guess u r a student .one should always be confident about themselves &their powers .when ever u think u want to join them just go and do it &remember to think no one is looking at u or thinking about u. just live that moment dont think of past or future or any thing just live in present .this is one way .the another way is be your self &be what u r. dont think that if i do this, some one ill think that way &that way .you ill notice that all of them come to u & they ill try to talk with u chat with u &they ill like ur company &also wants it .ok because ur asking iwould like to give u one more suggestion when ever ur mind freezes at that moment say this ur the best u can do anything and c how it works ok athena have a nice time and tell me if it worked.i ill be happy.

Answer 3

I’ve heard some people saying that, when they get nervous in front of a crowd, they pretend the others are naked.
Also you can start a journal, that way, whatever is left un-said; you can still get it out of your chest.

Good luck

Answer 4

If you are self conscious and critical of yourself you automatically monitor everything you say and think. It takes practice to build confidence. Check out Toastmasters, join a club and practice.

Answer 5

Then you're asking what it takes to be 'free of self consciousness'...


and the answer is, and always has been something you - already knew.You know good and well it is to be Selfless, and do things for others. Why does this scare you?

Answer 6

first of all take a deep breath and think before you talk, try to get into the conversation slowly so that you do not make any mistakes, it sounds to me that you probably react to answer to fast and things that you do not want to say come out of your mouth and it makes you feel uncomfortable and not like yourself, think about the conversation and then think about what you want to say do not jump the gun and say something you are going to regret

Answer 7

There is no such thing as free thought or action. Everything you think and do is somehow shaped by your past.

Answer 8

take a couple shots