They are not close at all so I’d say associate. We only talked over the phone because we live in two different states. Well, we made plans to sexually hook up but that never happened. However, I did send him some explicit photos through email. I regret talking to his friend, I guess I was just lonely and was in the zone. It was dumb and stupid. Now, my ex husband and I are back together and everything is perfect. We realized what was done wrong and are going to fix it. His friend knows that we are back together and I have stopped talking to him . I basically just ignored him and changed my phone #. I am now scared that he might forward the pictures of me to my ex husband and ruin our relationship. But I don’t wanna come out and tell my ex cause he will not want to be with me. At the same time I feel I was free and did not cheat on him in any way so it is my business. But it’s still messed up because it’s his friend. Please help. . I have prayed and I do trust in God.
2007-06-26 05:51:58 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have prayed and I do trust in God. And that’s what scares me. Its in the bible that everything done in the dark will come to light. What to do???
2007-06-26 05:52:25 · update #1
He cheated on you twice. You left and were free to do as you wish. I think your mistake in judgment pales in comparison to his. I would come clean now before he does find out through his friend. That will only make it worse. He would rather hear it from you than look like a fool in front of his "friend". Keep your faith in God and good luck.
2007-06-26 05:56:48 · answer #1 · answered by Tiffany L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I suppose he has no right to be angry if you did tell him. After all, he did cheat on you twice, causing you to divorce him.
However, chances are he will be angry anyway, and you are going to have to be prepared to face that. Maybe you could get in touch with the friend and ask him to delete the photos that you sent him, because you are so worried about him finding out about them. How well do you trust this man you sent the photos to? Do you think he'd be low enough to send them to your husband?
If you do suspect he could do that, you must just come clean. After all, you and your husband appear to have come through a lot worse than this! I'm sure you can work this out too.
2007-06-26 06:16:09 · answer #2 · answered by helly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you sent some adult pictures to a guy you were talking to while the two of you weren't together. He shouldn't make a big deal out of it bc I doubt he was sitting at home knitting every night while the two of you were seperated, and his cheating is what broke you up in the first place. If he has a problem with it then he is a hypocrit and needs to stay an ex.
2007-06-26 06:09:55 · answer #3 · answered by Neka 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if the bible says that then you need to Women Up and tell you EX now your BF and explain why you did it. There is nothing that you or him can do about it. What has happen in the past should stay in the past. It will be better to come from you then someone else, let alone from a associate of his. It will make you feel better and it should help you grown in the new relationship that you have with your EX (now BF).
2007-06-26 06:11:39 · answer #4 · answered by maverick29 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It will come out and at the worst possible time, so you are better off telling him and telling him everything so that there are no surprises. I promise if you keep it from him and then he finds out, it will be worse. Also, that would also make it so this friend of his can not use them against you. He could easily come to you and tell you that if you do not go to bed with him, he will send them to your husband and you will have no way of proving that you did not send them to him two days ago. Come clean and stop fearing the unknown.
2007-06-26 06:07:43 · answer #5 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say anything. This is a new beginning 4 the 2 of u. Don't ruin it. If the friend does send the pictures, let ur husband know that it happened while u were split.
2007-06-26 05:58:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
being honest could be one of the greatest asset you have in conquering this trial time that you are going through, yes its rather risky fessing up to your ex. but the truth prevail over all and you wont feel so tormented over the whole ordeal then you wouldn't have to worry about your ex getting the pics if u go to him b4 ur friend does. you say you trust in god leave it in his hands he'll work out a way for you.
whatever decision you decide to make may the lord bless and keep you.
2007-06-26 06:16:52 · answer #7 · answered by yns_cl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to trust in God like you say and come clean. You would not want you husband to hide anything from you, so what gives you the right to hide it from him. Whether it was while you were seperate or not- it still involves your emotions and you sexuality. You can pray that God will give your husband a forgiving spirit. Tell him the truth, that is pretty much what I think you should do. And no matter what happens, if you confide in God adn ask HIS forgiveness- you will be okay.
2007-06-26 06:02:35 · answer #8 · answered by pretty_mommy 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Did you tell your ex husband about every man you ever got with or flirted with? I doubt it so why tell him about his one. You did NOT cheat. You were a free woman and you did what you wanted to. No reason for regret.
Are you really that needy that you have to be with a man who cheated on you and would also get pissed off because you had a life outside of him?
2007-06-26 06:03:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is part of the fixing everything isn't it?
So fess up. If you tell him yourself, at least you'll be in control of the situation. If he hears from his "friend" then you're going to have to deal with the aftermath.
but truly, since you were divorced (I presume legally divorced - not just separated) if this is something he'd leave you over - then you really would be better off without him.
2007-06-26 06:10:02 · answer #10 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋