I get married in 6 weeks, I have been living with my fiancee for 4 years, will anything actually change???
2007-06-26 04:49:00 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband and I have been married just over a year. We lived togehter for about 2 1/2 years before that. I can honestly tell you that NOTHING has changed for us. Infact, we fell right back into our normal routines when we got back from our honeymoon. I cut the grass (he's allergic) and he did the laundry. Actually, we get along better because we don't have the stress of the wedding over our heads. We've only had one fight since we got married last year and it was stupid and over within 10 minutes.
2007-06-26 04:58:07 · answer #1 · answered by Phoenixsong 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all congratulations! If you have been living with her for 4 years and things have been going well then chances are you have made the right choice and the only thing that should really change is that you are legally family now. Cold feet are normal, so dont take them too much to heart, if she has treated you good overall your last 4 years that should not change. Remember this, the first few years of marriage are the hardest! So, if anything does seem to go wrong try to work it out and make sure to communicate well! Good communication is the key. Too many marriages these days end in divorce, people enter into marriage too lightly and give up too easily. A great marriage wont come overnight for most but, takes hard work. The work is well worth it! As long as there is no cheating and lying going on it can always be worked out. No worries my friend, I wish you the best.
2007-06-26 04:58:32 · answer #2 · answered by Alicia B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some cases that piece of paper makes a hugh difference to a couple, but why should it? It's a declaration of your love for each other that shows the rest of the world you are each others.
If you've lived together for 4 years then what is there to change other than a change of surname for your wife assuming she's taking your name.
Things don't suddenly change, have a great wedding and enjoy your life as Mr and Mrs :o)
2007-06-26 06:23:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi i been married for 8 years now and da only things dat have changed so far is havin 2 kids. Things dont change when u get married u just love ur partner more caz u have a stronger bond. Da only thng i would advise u to do is dnt cheat and remember to give and take and take one day at a time always make up at da end of da day if us fight if you have been 2gethr for 4 yrs u knw wot makes each other tick and thats a good start
2007-06-26 04:57:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well she could get fat do nothing around the house except spend money you haven't earned yet stick you a pit of debt then cheat on you with your best friend then bugger off leaving you with an overdrawn account heaps of debt.
or you maybe one of the few lucky ones and actually have a normal life of sex three times a week and she works too and both wages help pay for all the comforts at home and she may even only cheat on you once or twice good luck bud these days you'll need it.
2007-06-27 15:36:41 · answer #5 · answered by gameface_angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you will have a piece of paper saying you were hitched!
If you guys have been together for four years then you have seen all there is to see. If things change it is because you want them to. You have come this far. Don't let a piece of paper be that important all it is is you guys publicly vowing your commitment. No biggie! Take it easy big guy!
2007-06-28 08:20:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just more commitment and that is important to woman, but nothing should change at all, your love and feelings for each other should just keep growing with time!!! Good Luck for the future and i hope you will both be happy together!! xx
2007-06-26 05:01:32 · answer #7 · answered by Very Sexy Vixen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know if it will for you but for her most definitley! She'll feel tha the commitment is stronger and the bond! You wont just be her fiance anymore you will be her husband! It means a lot to know that someone loves you so much and are willing to spend the rest of their lives with you!
I hope you will feel the same as she does!
Good luck!
2007-06-26 04:53:30 · answer #8 · answered by emzy 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Expences might change if you are joining with his medical insurance and financial things like that. (It costs us $450 more a month now that we're married!)
Emotionally, you may find that you become closer, which is really nice!
If there are problems in the relationship, those won't change.
2007-06-26 07:53:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, People before they get married I believe at times tend to be more relaxed as far as they know they can just walk away if needed. Married you can't, you know you have to try and the only way out is divorce and that makes it real...
2007-06-26 04:53:51 · answer #10 · answered by ~Angel~ 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋